Allgirls, I enjoyed reading your post.
I had been thinking about the low relevance the academically-related precociousness has to me personally. It is intriguing. Maybe I like it also to some degree because it looks good to other people as a homeschooler. I shouldn't care, but I sense that I am much less likely to be doubted in how I educate my children if they are so obviously advanced. I have a few friends who are teachers and I enjoy the positive way they respond to my children, sometimes rather surprised too. I know that I have their respect as a successful educator. This seems silly or shallow of me, but it's still a nice feeling.
What I truly enjoy more, though, are those amazing thoughts revealed in their play as the toddler gets so involved in real pretend play. The baby dolls had a birthday party at our house today and she not only comprehended the game but also combined a lot of ideas into the scenario. I like to watch the complexity of her, and that is what I find precocious... even if she counts to ten at eighteen mos it's this other thing that I find fascinating. Do they measure this when determining giftedness? Does it matter?
Actually, I didn't think since I was a child about giftedness and never applied it to my own children until a teacher friend mentioned it very matter-of-factly. I don't really know what to do with the idea--if I wasn't here I wouldn't probably think about it now. I haven't decided what it means to me now. Maybe it's better than letting your children grow up believing they are surrounded by idiots.
I have three girls and a boy. Ds is obsessed with telling me "You're not bigger than a train" and "You're bigger than a car." I have heard these phrases about fifty times in the past week. The boy is like another species. He has a photographic memory for music, a perfect "ear", toys with math my dd had trouble with at eight (She's not
gifted in math!), and can't sort out the basics of verbal communication or follow simple instructions. He gets lost on the way to the bathroom because he gets distracted--but I frequently have to send
him to the bathroom because he is so focused on what he's doing that he'll do the pee-pee dance for half an hour and then wet himself rather than stop his play. I guess dd4 picked up counting from him--he chanted, marched and sang numbers, he quizzed us all with addition and multiplication and
told us every time we answered wrong, and made up number jokes that he would irritate his twin sister with. He did this virtually non-stop for a month or two and then stopped completely. Now he may talk about numbers 3 times a week. He did the same obsession thing with the alphabet a couple years ago and then abandoned it for the most part. He watches videos and recites characters' lines at length, perfectly mimicing their intonation... Now that makes me feel like a bad mom. He's way too familiar with the t.v.!
This is funny and "intelligent" I suppose, but dd4 said thank you to me for putting her to bed for her nap a couple of days ago. She was half asleep and it was the sweetest thing. A gift