Hi Mamas! I posted once way back on page one, but my boys keep me so busy that I've barely had time to read, let alone write anything.
Darshani, I never have recomposed that message, but I'm glad that Nitara's surgery went well, bless her little heart. Most of my message that got wiped out was about my ds1's struggle with reflux. Maybe some day I'll get the energy to retype it
As for me, I'm coming to terms with the fact that dh and I only know how to create one type of kiddo, and that is a high-needs one. Ds1 was SO SO high-needs. It took 100% of my energy all of the time just to keep him on the cusp of happiness. He rarely slept, and when he did it was very fitful, mostly because of the reflux, I guess.
I had thought ds2 was different. Sure, he needed to be held most of the time and nurse a jillion times a day, but he actually slept, and soundly at that. But now, he's out of the newborn-sleep-all-the-time phase, and I'm coming to realize he's just as high needs as his brother was. He is almost 4 months old, and sleeps very little through the day. He nurses every hour day and night. All of this I could handle, heck, even expect. But, just like ds1, he is starting to require almost constant stimulation, or he isn't happy. He wants to be shown everything, walked around, talked to, etc. I know most babies want this to some extent, but my babies have been so different, they need
it and will protest immediately if they don't get it. Ds2 is so frustrated right now. He wants to look at, mouth and play with toys. He wants to interact with his brother. It seems like he wants to talk and form words, but he's trapped in a 3.5 month old body. Ds1 used to be the exact same way. I swear, he wasn't a bit happy until the day he could sit unassisted.
I'm just having trouble meeting both of their needs at the same time. It's tough having two who both seem to require almost constant interaction.
Were your kids like this when they were babies? Both of mine have seemed like older children trapped in the bodies of babies. My friends babies just aren't like this! It's not like I want ds2 to sit idle in a bouncy seat for an hour at a time, but he won't even tolerate one minute, unless
I'm hovering over him talking and stimulating him.
Luckily, my dh starts a 2 week vacation starting on Friday, so I will have some help.