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If this is not the place for this, please forgive me.

I am in absolute shock and overwhelmed with sadness and need to get it off my chest. A friend whom I have known for over 15 years was arrested for (and confessed to) molesting his step daughter. I am so sick over this. I am filled with unbearable sadness and grief for his wife and children and the rest of their family. I can't think about the whole thing without crying for them. I feel like the friend I knew is dead and his body overtaken by some monster. I am so shaken that there really is no way to know whom to trust. This is the LAST person anyone would suspect of doing something so horrid. He seemed like the epitome of a "good" person, was always well respected in the communtiy and in the church. I would have trusted him with my own children anytime. I just can't understand how he turned out to be so SICK. He's always been such a normal guy. I feel such a loss of trust in humanity. I feel so unbelievably sad for this little girl and what she must be going through and will go through for the rest of her life. And for her mother who will possibly always blame herself for bringing this man into their lives. I have not even been close with them for many years, just acquantences really, and the pain is so deep and so raw...I just cannot fathom what they are going through right now. Please keep this family in your thoughts and prayers.
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mama2annabelle, This forum is for greif of course your post belongs here

What a diffucult grief to overcome. I can hear the shock in your words and the fear that you put so much trust in this person. This is going to shake your trust in the future.

We have a family member who was charged for a sex crime. I never liked or trusted this man, so the shock factor was not so deep. But I do know how it makes you paranoid, how it disturbs you deep inside, wondering? How could someone hurt a child and take away their innocense like this. I don't know?

I'm so very sorry you're going through this. Did you children know him? Are they old enough to understand what's going on?

With our family, my dd (age 6) does not remember this family member, so she hasn't had a need to know yet. My ds (age 9) does and has asked many questions. I've had to share a great deal with him.

All I can suggest is that you be there for the family. His family has to feel such a deep disbeleif. I'm so very sorry for all of you
post #3 of 4
Of course your thread belongs here

Im so sorry that you are going through this! It must be so hard coming to terms with the shock and sadness that comes with the horrible news.

Please try and take care of yourself... it can be so easy to fall into a state of desperate anxiety. We are here for you mama2annabelle, if you feel like venting, thinking or just need some support please use this space.

My thoughts are with you and with the mama and baby who are going thru this terrible time.
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Thank you for the kind words.
To answer your question Ms. Mom, no my children will not have to deal with this, thank God, since DD is only 2 and DS is still in the womb (hopefully to be born any day now ).

I just cannot grasp how someone like him can turn out to be such a terrible terrible person. I just can't put it together. It doesn't make any sense to me. I just have this horrible feeling that it is IMPOSSIBLE to know who is a potential predator and who is not. I mean I have known this guy since middle school...he's always been an upstanding, decent, kind, respectable person. He's never done anything wierd or creepy or in the least bit wrong. Shock is the only word to describe it. And his poor wife...I just don't know how she's going to get through this. She has 3 children of her own and they have 2 children together, so 5 total. My heart cries for them.
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