Stacey- Don't be frightened! I have had 3 c-births and survived them all
. My advice is pretty simple, check out previous threads there OnTheFence posted her birth plan, it's pretty good, and my advice is always- MAKE SURE THEY DO A DOUBLE LAYER SUTURE OF THE UTERUS! That is very important. Get moving as soon as you can, and eat as soon as you can after the birth to get the gas going, and to feel better. When you get home, keep up the walking, but don't be lifting or doing stairs- remember that you will have had major abdominal surgery, this is not a normal birth in that regard. Yes, the important thing is that you and baby come out of this healthy- but it is MAJOR SURGERY- don't forget that after the fact, you will need lots of help and rest, take it!
momtoo- I suggest asking that question in the VBAC forum, I am sure many there have dealt with insurance situations like that, I haven't personally, so I can't be of help in that regard. I would say, wether to VBAC or schedule a repeat has to be based on your feelings about, not the Dr.s or the insurance co, or your dh. I believe your intuition will lead you the right, so long as you keep checking how your plan feels with your own gut. You can plan a VBAC b/c you think you need to to be crunchy, or b/c you feel in your gut it is safer for you, the latter is of course, the best reason. If you choose a repeat c-birth- let it be b/c YOUR gut is telling you that that is safest, not b/c you are being bullied. Some prayer or meditation would probably be very helpful, and remaining flexible with your plan, as ItsOurFamily can attest to (she planned a VBAC and changed to scheduled c-birth at the 11th hour, and I think she is happy with that choice).
Sorry I haven't been keeping up with these threads, I haven't had any "issues" except my hernia is still there (umbilical), and I am reluctant to get too much into abdominal exercise b/c I am afraid I will aggrivate it (right now it is painless), and with Sean (now almost 8 months) unwilling to take a bottle or any food other than BM, I can't really risk having surgery.