Oh honey, your poor friend. I had gallstones at the end of my first pregnancy (my Jonah) and they are the worst pain I have ever felt. It took days and days for them to diagnose it, so at least your friend knows what is wrong with her. We tried some herbal remedies (of course, I can't remember what they were now) but they didn't seem to work for me anyway. I was in my ninth month and so instead of my midwife attented homebirth we decided after my fifth or so attack that we would induce (3.5 weeks early) and if all was well (meaning not being in labor and having a gallstone attack at the same time) we would head home and finish the birth there. Well, the induction didn't take and we decided that the babe and my body were not ready so home we went. I had another attack, got that to go away, tried to induce again, didn't take, went home. This happened all week and finally one of the inductions with potocin took and I went into fast, strong labor. The option of going home went out the window and my son was born 1.5 hours later. My dh got there 10 minutes before he was born. He was 2.5 weeks early. Went home the next day, Tuesday and on Friday had another attack. They told me to come in and after a long wait (thanks to a rainstorm and lots of accidents) I went into surgery. When I woke up my milk had come in and I was crying for my baby. I went home the next day and my mom stayed in the hospital with me to take care of Jonah since he wasn't actually a patient. When I went for my followup appointment the surgeon told me that my gallbladder was empty and that I had passed all the stones. I probably would have made more and eventually had to have my gallbladder out anyway but not with a 4 day old baby. So if you friend does end up having surgery after her baby is born she should demand an ultrasound to make sure she hasn't passed all the stones, if she has at least she can put off the surgery untill her baby is a little older.
So that's my story...
Hope it helps, J&G's mom
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