I am an adoptive mother to 2 wonderful kids. My son is 11 yrs. and we have stayed in touch with his Birth mother and have visits a couple of times a year. My daughter is 8 yrs. She would love to be able to know who her birth Mom is but she was abandoned at birth, so I have very little to be able to go on. I know that there is a strong bond between the mother and child during pregnancy. I saw it so vividly when my son was an infant and we would go for visits. He would react so differently to her than to anyone else, to a point where I have to admit I was a bit jealous. My daughter on the other hand was abruptly separated from her birth mother when she was 2 days old. I can't help but feel that this experience has left her with a longing to fill that missing piece of her life. No matter how much time I spend with her or how much I give her, it never seems to be enough. She is always needing more. Has anyone else seen this in their adopted children? Am I placing too much emphasis on this separation at birth? Is this just a part of my daughter's personality that would have been there even if she weren't separated? I would love to hear what you think and if you have any ideas how I might help her. At times I think she just acts like a spoiled brat but my heart tells me that there's more to it.
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9/2/04 at 10:12pm