I most definitely do not want to be congratulated for using formula or told that it's a great thing, since I already know it's not. And I wouldn't want to go to other boards even if I did want support for that, because MDC its more in line with my parenting values and beliefs.
Also, I knew when I quit that it might worsen my PPD, but at that time I had no choice. I am NOT passing on myths about that, I am sharing what really happened to me. I am a real person with a real story and this is it. I know people don't want to hear it. It would be nicer to believe that anyone who wants to can bf with a bit of information and persistence, but mentally, I HAD to quit, and looking back at how difficult it was for my son to bf I am still glad I did for his sake and the sake of our relationship. There is nothing quite so heartbreaking as seeing your baby cry and fuss every single time you try to feed him, and feeling yourself sinking into an abyss and feeling like a crappy mother and a failure.
I never expected to have such a hard time being understood here, but there you go. I just want to say again, asking for some sensitivity and correcting some misperceptions about when breastfeeding really can and cannot occur are not the same as asking for support of formula. I''m sorry that I apparently wasn't very good at making the distinction.
I truly wish there was a bf grief forum here. It is really needed.
Originally Posted by TiredX2
I am sorry you are upset.
I appologize or retract nothing I have said on this thread.
If you want to PM me for further clarification, please do so.
We have acknowledged this over and over.
Society acknowledges this multiple times on a daily basis (just think of the reasons listed in the popular media that celebrities give up bfeeding for).
There is no lack of support for forumla usage.
Supporting formula is not my job and I refuse to be guilted into doing so.
Honestly, while I would never ask someone to leave, I think if you can't hear statements such as, "Formula Fed children have more heath problems then their breastfed counterparts" without becomming defensive of your parenting, this is probably not the place for you *right now*.
(PPD is actually usually *helped* by nursing, please don't pass on further myths. Each mother can decide to feed in the way they want, but don't state "reasons" for FFeeding that could just as easily be reasons to bfeed).