Week of September 13...we're halfway to October!!! - Page 3

[Lucysmama]

Ugh, my toddler is in a hitting/kicking/screaming phase too. She is also doing a new thing: screaming "Don't say that!!!" over and over when I am saying something she doesn't want to hear, like it's bedtime. I shudder to think how much worse it could get when the baby gets here and she experiences that transition. She does not handle transitions well. I have to give her several warnings before we end an activity. If I just suddenly say, "Time to put the crayons away and get in the car," she will freak out completely. She needs time to mentally prepare herself. I am hoping dh can help her with that while I'm in labor...."Ok, the baby is coming very soon. After your nap, the baby will probably be born," or whatever.

So I think we have decided to move November 1st. I hope the baby comes in early October, not late! I am going to start the EPO and a lot more RRL tea in a week at 37 weeks, and maybe try some nipple stim around 38 weeks. (Please don't flame me, guys!) But I just cannot do a move at either 43 weeks pregnant or 1 week postpartum or something. I really hope to go a little early (but still full term).

Momadance- It was your bead that was missing!

[mirthfulmum]

Oh I wanted to add re. our toddlers agressiveness the Dr. Sears Discipline book has been a great reference in how to handle the overly agressive behavior.

Gotta the Sears series. Is there anything those two don't know?

[Jillerina]

Mirthful, I'm in the same boat re: weight gain. At my last midwife appointment I had not gained any weight since the previous appointment 2 weeks before. I also measured smaller than the previous visit. I was a bit shocked but my midwife was not concerned at all. She said the measurement difference could just be that the baby is in a different position or because it is lower. All I know is that I gained weight like crazy during the last month of my pregnancy with Clara so I was expecting that to happen again this time. I'll be back at the midwife's on Friday so I guess I'll find out whats going on then.

I say don't stress yourself, if you baby is moving plenty they've gotta be fine!

[mirthfulmum]

Laurel - Yeah exactly. When I was pregnant with Alias I gained weight like crazy! By the end I was gaining at least a pound a week. It's just really thrown me off that I'm not experiencing that again. I thought that second babies are supposed to be bigger than the first! Thank you for putting my mind at ease. It is good to know that another mom here is experiencing the same thing. Think I'll sleep a lot better tonight.

[AnnR33]

Oh it was Heaven!! My Dh took both kids on an errand so I thought this was the perfect chance to try out our new big soaker tub-this thing is huge! So I got a cup of chai, lit some candles and read my latest read (Homeschooling isn't that exciting but hey-it was uninterrupted!) I know I won't have many chances for this so I took advantage and I would highly recommend it! The only down side was that I realized just how bad my stretch marks were LOL
I realized this will be an awesome labor tub-I may have a homebirth yet if I don't want to get out of it when the time comes
Off to be a mama again....
Ann

[Court]

Ooh, that sounds so nice, Ann. I wish I had a huge tub. I've yet to take a bath this pregnancy.

Katie- I'm glad you get to move into that house you like, even though it couldn't come at a more inconvenient time. Hopefully the babe will be on the early side, rather than later. I'm not gonna flame you for nipple stimulation, not sure why anyone would. Heck, I know mine will be stimulated by a certain nursling as they are everyday.

Amy- so glad the hurricane missed you guys! FIL is near Pensicola, so we've been watching the storm path.

Glad more of my beads made it okay!

My midwife came for an evening app. tonight so dh could meet her finally. It went really well, he likes her a lot. Baby is doing great.

After she left I got really dizzy for some reason. I don't know if it was the hurried cleaning I did before she got here or what. It wasn't head rush kind of dizzy - The room was spinning and I was light headed whether I was sitting or standing. She had just checked my BP and it was fine. Is this normal for 3rd trimester? I haven't been dizzy at all during this pregnancy, so it was a little scary. It's finally gone now, so I feel better.

On the topic of BH ctrx - mine have been feeling a bit more intense lately as the babe has gotten bigger. Sometimes they feel a bit like menstral cramps and I can feel it a little in my lower back. As long as they dont increase in duration and intensity, it's all good.

gotta go eat.

[Piglet68]

Ann, how lovely you got some time alone! What I wouldn't give for a few hours of alone time right now!

mirthful: don't stress yourself over "what you did wrong". I've been exactly the same way, not paying attention to my eating, forgetting to monitor protein intake, etc...had my doc appt today and baby is measuring bang on (in terms of fundal height). anyways, at this stage in your PG I'm sure it's nothing to be concerned about. try to relax!

also, thanks for the sears book recommendation. I actually have the book, havent' read it in ages. Emily has also started with some more aggressive behaviours, including pulling my hair, scratching me, and the screeching thing. The screeching at least we can ignore. we went through this once before at about 16 months and ignorning it totally worked. it seems to be working again. but how do you "ignore" when someone is pulling on your hair? i have to just put her down and walk away, but when you've just sat your huge, exhausted, pregnant butt down on the sofa, it irks me to have to move again!

i'm so wiped out, mamas. i was actually feeling a bit sorry for myself today. this is such a precious time, and i feel i'm not able to enjoy it much. i have so much going on right now that i sort of push aside the thought that a baby is coming in four weeks. i want to just settle into a quiet routine with emily, do some cooking, etc...it is my goal to get the rest of the unpacking, putting away stuff done by this weekend, so i can just focus on "normal" daily tasks, like laundry and cooking, rather than trying to find homes for stuff, put books on shelves, etc...i really wanted to establish a routine for emily and i, so that hopefully when baby comes she'll have some sort of "reference" for normality around. i also want DH to take over the nightime routine of bath and bed, but that just isn't happening. someone mentioned having DH around, well it isnt' working out well for us. for some reason, dd is very clingy and when I'm around she wants little to do with DH. She's happy to play with him, and when they are alone together she's fine, but if we're all together she wants ME to feed her, me to carry her, me to comfort her, me to get her water, etc....and I have to tell you, we did the 2 parents at home thing with DD for almost a year after she was born, and it's not always the great idea it seems like. frankly, i'm looking forward to getting him out of the house. he creates as much mess as a two year old!!

i went to a place to get beads today, but they were all junky, so i'm going to try to find someplace else i can get to easily and pick up some nice ones.

[OakEmber]

Had my appt. today too, and I am in the same boat as two of my fellow Canadians. I lost a lb in the last 3 weeks, but I still measured a little over 34 weeks so my midwife isn't concerned. 2 Mirthfulmum, I wouldn't worry about Harrison, I am sure that he is getting what he needs, and he may even surprise you yet and end up bigger than Alias...you never know till he comes. It's weird this time, I have such a different food relationship too...with Ember if I woke up at night I *had* to have a bowl of cereal in order to get back to sleep, but this time I can forget about food all afternoon
Oakley is head down (yay!) but posterior...head down was the major thing and so now I can hopefully coax him into a more labour friendly position...still plenty of time for that.
It was my quickest visit thus far, everything was looking good, so not much to do. My iron was good as well (126). I go back to see her in 2 weeks.

ARGH...gotta go try to get Ember to sleep, DH is trying but she is for me. I don't have any patience tonight. Piglet, I so feel your pain...I almost wrote the same confession earlier (infact I did, only I deleted it)...even though Dh is home I don't get a break from Ember because she only wants Mommy, that's how she's always been.

[ameliabedelia]

Oooo, I can so relate to the "only wants mommy thing" It drives me crazy. I totally KWYM about it being harder when dh is home. DH is working all day now, but when he was home all summer, it would drive me crazy that although he was home, dd always came to "me" for everything she needed and only wanted me to comfort her, get her food, etc. etc (although she does like to play with dh a lot, but that is it, everything else it up to me). Forget about dh putting her to sleep. The only way that happens is if I just leave the house for a long time that it is so late she just falls asleep anyway.

Court, glad you a feeling better. I get dizzy at times too.

I think I am really pregnant with THREE babies. One on my belly, two in my butt. I caught a glimpse of myself in the shower today after my shower and I swear, my butt is bigger than my belly!!: It really freaked me out how huge and fat I am. :

[True Blue]

34 weeks!!

Wow big landmark today! 34 weeks means even if baby makes an early appearance, it will have no long-term effects of being early. Now all we need is to reach 36 weeks to be born at home.

Court -- hope your FIL makes it through the storm safely

Did anyone notice Jeanne on its path towards Florida? :LOL Quite the hurricane season this year!

Mickade has had some behavior issues lately too, but I've chalked them up to the storm turmoil and being sick. I hope that's all it is LOL.

I am so excited, DH made us a cosleeper yesterday. I can't believe how nice it came out!! I'll go put a pic on the yahoo group since I don't have time to put it on a webpage at the moment. It's not all finished in the pic, still needs the screw holes filled, and of course the bedding is not on it yet but I am so proud of DH! Now I know we'll have a safe place for baby when Mickade decides to jump in bed in the middle of the night.

[AnnR33]

For those of you in the gift swap...here's the link.

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...58#post2033358

And if you say "Oh NO, I forgot to sign up!" I can still add you since I'll be the only one affected but let me know ASAP!

Thanks! Have a great day
Ann

[mandalamama]

qotw1: this is my first time, so i'm looking forward to everything! can't wait to snuggle up with her and just take everything in, watch all of her crazy little expressions, smell her scent, wiggle her tiny toes.

qotw2:definitely babymooning. my husband's work reduced everyone's hours drastically, so much they all qualify for unemployment, he's still looking for other work but can spend a few weeks at home while being on call for those few hours. i'm a WAHM but on hiatus, i just do web and graphic design so i can start and stop when i need to.

Willow dropped again! she had dropped way low at 28 weeks, but was floating again by 32 weeks. this time i'm glad she's starting her journey, the hip pain is so worth it to know she's getting ready

i LOVE these forums, wish i'd found MDC months ago. so much to learn ...

peace,
meli

[momadance]

Well, I hate to admit this, but I feel better knowing others go through the same thing with there wee ones. It's just so hard to watch them lose control... I had a friend who is totally AP/Gd tell me I need to get down in his face and show him what "angry" looks like, and to kinda scare him... I don't think so though. I can't force an emotion ya know. It's funny how it goes in spurts...

I really like Dr. Sears as well.

Wow! Do we have 2 Willows on the way! It's really a beautiful name. We thought about it for a couple days if we were to have a girl. Dh's newly deceased Granny was name Willowdean, and we thought Willow would be nice. But alas we are having a BOY! and fell in love with the name Esther if we have a surprise and we have a girl.

My sister's getting excited to be present at the birth. She's started buying books on birth. She said she almost bought Spiritualy Midwifery, but after looking through it, decided it was too "out of her time" to get into. I really enjoyed it, but it did get kinda old at times. I told her just bring her activator for my trigger points, and take some time to refresh herself to adjust a newborn (she's a chiropractor). I think shes starting to think about making babys. (if she could get dh on board she'll be all set )

OK Jezmund Reed Diamond, or Reed Jezmund Diamond?
I love Jezmund, but I've had to repeat time and time again to people when trying to get some feedback on it.

Mirthful 2 I'm sorry you feel worried, but you've done nothing harmful! You've got a healthy baby in there!

ameliabedelia: I think we're all at that point! My legs have gotten pretty thick. I've gained 30lbs so far!

My friends Dh is on a 8 week "vacation" from his job since having there baby. I don't think it's been very positive. I think on some level it's interfeared with her "conifdence" at being a mom, and handling things alone. She says things like "he's the only one the baby wants" and "I don't know what I'm doing, Dh does" and it's real negative. She's having a hard time getting over an emergency section too. I think she's feeling like it's something she did or didn't do, ya know, insecure or something. I really hope her dh gets back to work soon, and she can find the amazing moma she is inside.

I'm looking forward to feeling skinny, I remember after having Miles I felt like a rail, and still looked at least 6 months preg. It was an awesome feeling!

[blessed2bamommie]

just wanted to let yall know that our first October baby is being taken. Marnie of The Cushie Tushie (allformyboys) is having a c/s tomorrow. She didn't really hang out with us that I recall;but, for a minute and we got her on the list. The mamas who hang out in diapering....Katie...Amy...may know her better.

[Lucysmama]

WOW, best wishes to her and her family!!! Hope the surgery goes well. I know she has been having pregnancy issues, so I hope everything turns out for the best!

[True Blue]

Oh wow! I hope things go well for her. Hey, I know it's just wording but wording can mean a lot...let's not call cbirths a baby being "taken"...birth is birth, no matter how it has to be done to keep momma and baby safe.

Oh yeah totally on another topic...I remember reading sometime last week about people wanting to wash dipes, etc but not wanting them to get dusty. What I did (before I packed it all away for hurricane protection!) was wash it all, put it in the baskets on the shelves, and lay a receiving blanket over it. That way, it's all ready to go and all I have to do is throw a couple flannel blankets in the wash later on!

[blessed2bamommie]

Anyway, its because it was early before time is why I said taken...

I don't sweat semantics like a lot of mamas here.

[mirthfulmum]

Had a really good morning today. Dropped Alias off at daycare and met up with a good friend of mine for coffee. Her daughter is only five days older than Alias and she is also pregnant with her second. Neither of us had our children with us so we just got to hang out and relax and enjoy each other's company without having to also to entertain 2 two year olds. It was such a nice treat, especially knowing that it was one of my last few child-free moments for a long while.

Thanks everyone for the hugs and reassurance. I am feeling much better today, especially since everyone is telling me how low this baby is and that's probably why I'm not measuring any bigger. I am so hormonal and so senstive right now. It seems like all my insecurities just bubble to the surface with hardly any provocation. I hope this baby comes soon, otherwise I am going to drive myself completely out of my gourd .

Back onto the topic of Evening Primrose Oil. I talked to my midwife about it yesterday, and she recommended that I take it after 37 weeks, every other day, before bed vaginally (if I wanted to help speed things up). While she did say that there is a bit of a debate on how effective it truly is in bringing about labour she said that at a recent midwifery conference she attended a midwife submited a paper arguing there was strong evidence that EPO did help move things along when taken vaginally. The hormones that are found in EPO are similar (not the same) as the hormone found in seamen and the hormone that is released when the body goes into labour so it should be administered as close to the cervix as possible. My midwife also told me that in her personal experience she hadn't really noticed any real evidence that taking orally did anything for labour but she does highly recommend taking EPO orally after the birth. My midwife told me that it acts as a hormone stabilizer and is really effective in helping with post pardum depression. She swears by it, and even takes it monthly during her period to help with mood swings then too. So I went out and bought a big bottle today and plan on starting using it to help move things along.

Katie - While you've got a much better reason than I do to want an early labour, I'm with you on trying the various techniques to get the baby out sooner than later. I really want Harrison born before my mom gets here in hopes we can have a few quiet days before the chaos that is my mom arrives into our tiny condo. So you're not alone in trying nipple stimulation and EPO. I'll also be trying to go for a good walk everyday starting next week, and maybe even resorting to the spicy foods. Sending 38 week labour vibes your way .

Amy - 34 weeks! Hooray!

[mirthfulmum]

Oh I almost forgot!

Happy Anniversary Katie! You two have been traveling a hard road lately. Hope you two get a chance to really connect and appreciate each other today.

[stanleymama]

Ok I have a question..I need your opinions. Here is the situation.

My mil has come and stayed with us for the past two summers, making this third. This is our first summer in her house that she purchased here. She spends most of every year in Utah at her home there as the WI winters are too cold for her.

Ok now for the opinion. She will not help me out at all. She will do laundry if she has clothes that need washed or she will wash dishes if she has dirtied some. I do everyting else and sometimes I would really appreciate if she would help me out, but she never does. She will sometimes offer to watch the boys so that I can get out, but when I ask her to watch them, she either makes other plans, or will only do it under certain circumstances. Next, we never wear shoes in the house, but she does all of the time. She will walk on the floors even though she knows I just finished mopping them.

Ok I could go on and on, but the point is do I expect her to help me out too much, or am I just the maid, like I often feel like? I rarely ask her for help, because I just don't feel comfortable doing so. The thing is we are so different, and she is so different from my mom. My mom would clean my whole house if I let her.

Another thing is that she is going out of town a week before I am due, and she is the one who is going to take care of the boys while I have this baby. Now I have to find a backup. I feel frustrated becuase she doesn't ever consider me.

Ok so am I just being overemotional and expecting too much from her, or am I really being jipped?

Thanks for listening.