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post #81 of 92
Thanks for the ideas, Kristin. After emails and phone calls this week, things are looking good for both of us. So, unofficially... I think we'll be moving your way. It looks like UMD can set me up to finish my thesis efficiently in the fall, and I found a post-doc to start in the spring that looks interesting and flexible (and is mostly funded already!). I'm feeling much more positive about the whole move...

So now I really DO have to finish that thesis!
post #82 of 92


(I'm officially taking a break from MDC, but I couldn't resist posting to this, and I lost your email, ). PM/email me if you need anything, I'm easy to find these days.


subliminal message: there's a super cute house for sale two doors down that is screaming for a nice family to move into. on wyoming street....
post #83 of 92
Yeah, Kaybee!

Things are looking great!

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Originally Posted by kerc
subliminal message: there's a super cute house for sale two doors down that is screaming for a nice family to move into. on wyoming street....
LOL. Kristin should get a cut of the realtor's commission!
post #84 of 92

Just had to share

I can't believe it! After nearly ten years of working on it, my book is finally out! It is such an amazing feeling! Just in time for tenure too...

I made it through the quarter, although it was pretty tough. DH stayed at home and was a part-time student. I biked home like a madwoman between classes to breastfeed. I didn't pump--rather we decided to go with a little bit of formula supplementation. Please don't flame--it's what worked for us during this 10-week period. Now I have the summer off, and will only be teaching one course in the fall (an hour a day four days a week, plus office hours and meetings). I'm sure I can get through that, having survived two courses this quarter. Then DS will be a year old!

We're a one-income household, with me as major wage-earner. It's a major priority for us to take care of DS ourselves. My mom has moved to town to be in on the child care. We're selling our house and buying one with a mother-in-law apartment to make that easier. We'll put him in part time daycare when he's three, just so he can socialize with other kids and we can get connected in the community. I'm so relieved and grateful that it looks like this plan is going to work.

Hope the rest of you are getting some rest and starting in on productive summers!
post #85 of 92
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Originally Posted by Eruditia
I made it through the quarter, although it was pretty tough. DH stayed at home and was a part-time student. I biked home like a madwoman between classes to breastfeed. I didn't pump--rather we decided to go with a little bit of formula supplementation.
yay! No flames here on choosing to supplement. I wish I had done more supplementation rather than basically sacrificing the whole first semester back to work.

(and great news on getting your book out too!).
post #86 of 92
Eruditia, congratulations on getting your book out!

I think it's time I posted an update. I survived the crazy fast spring 1/2 term class I was teaching, and I think I learned a lot to help me next time I teach a similar class. I just turned in grades today, and am looking forward to a few weeks to complete some research tasks before we move. We're moving to CA (SF Bay Area) for my tenure track job Aug 2, so I figure the last two weeks of July will mostly be spent packing home & office, running errands, etc.

We've been really excited about the move but I'm feeling really ambivalent and anxious about it this week. We had thought that my DH, who is giving up tenure to move with me, would likely get a lecturer position at my new school. But we found out Tuesday that he didn't get a position. He has a research associate prof position and a lab at my new school, but no salary. The problem is , we can't afford to have DS in daycare without DH having a salary, so when will he have time to work in his lab? Evenings and weekends? But then when will we have family time? And I know that DH doesn't really want to be a full time SAHD, so I feel sad that he may have to be for a while. We're confident that DH will eventually find a good position in the Bay area, as it's a good place for science jobs. It's just a question of how we get by in the meantime. This is complicated by the fact that I'll be on maternity leave with 55% pay from Jan - Aug of next year; financially that is going to be tough if DH doesn't have a salary. Right now we're not even sure we can afford the homebirth we've planned and look forward to. Ugh! I'm really excited about my new job, but pretty stressed about finances and being the sole breadwinner soon, with a reluctant SAHD...
post #87 of 92
Oh, no! That's awful, Amara! What changed about the position?

Hmmm, how many grants can Dave write in the next month? Does he have existing grants? Do they have rules about converting equipment/tuition money to salary? Have you guys looked into the cc's around in the area? There are a zillion good ones right near by.
post #88 of 92
Wendy,

Thanks for your support!

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What changed about the position?
I don't know that anything changed about the position. I think we were just overconfident about Dave's chances of obtaining it. The people Dave had spoken to who had urged him to apply (assoc dean and dept chair) and been optimistic about his chances turned out not to be on the selection committee. Plus, Dave didn't think this teaching demo was that spectacular, and he mostly talked with people about research during his job interview (it's what they asked him about and, to be honest, what he most likes talking about). Perhaps they worried that because he has lab space/resources, he would spend more time in the lab than teaching (compared to a lecturer without lab space). Perhaps it was a threat to tenure-track faculty or to the ability of the dept to have additional tenure-track positions approved, to have someone with a research appt and a lecturer position, who basically does the same things as tenured faculty, but without tenure. Really, we don't know why Dave didn't get the position. It may be clearer later, as he gets to know the dept (due to his research position).

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Hmmm, how many grants can Dave write in the next month? Does he have existing grants? Do they have rules about converting equipment/tuition money to salary? Have you guys looked into the cc's around in the area?
We've looked for other lecturer positions around the area, but it looks like they are all full for the fall. Dave does have a small amount of money in an existing grant that he can use to pay himself, but only about 15% of full salary. He doesn't have equipment money from the university - just a lab, equipment that's already there, equipment that he brings from his current lab, and use of shared lab equipment (such as NMR, etc).

Just yesterday, DH thought of a temporary solution, which I think will carry us through this year. We were going to pay off most of my student loans when we sell our house. However, if we don't pay them off, we can use that money for part-time daycare for DS over the next year. DH would be *much* happier with this situation, and more likely to have time to do work that leads to an income for next fall (writing grants, applying for jobs, publishing). We both agree that DH needs to have an income by next fall, and I am pretty confident that he will, one way or another. :
post #89 of 92
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Originally Posted by wawoof
Just yesterday, DH thought of a temporary solution, which I think will carry us through this year. We were going to pay off most of my student loans when we sell our house. However, if we don't pay them off, we can use that money for part-time daycare for DS over the next year.
That sounds like an excellent, low cost solution. Student loans are cheap.

If Dave's still interested in industry positions, Phil said he'd call his former boss for contacts.

Oh, and good luck selling the house! I hope the market there is still pretty good. When in doubt, throw a party.
post #90 of 92
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If Dave's still interested in industry positions, Phil said he'd call his former boss for contacts.
Thanks - I really appreciate that! I'll let you know more about Dave's plans as they unfold. Right now, Dave is trying to use this "setback" as an opportunity to clarify what he really wants. But I imagine he *will* be applying for at least some industry positions, since the academic market is so uncertain and we really need for him to have an income by fall 2006. What sort of industry is Phil's former boss involved in?

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Oh, and good luck selling the house! I hope the market there is still pretty good.
Unfortunately, the market here stinks for sellers right now. According to our realtor, who is very experienced, there have been 1.5 to 2x as many houses on the market at any given time this spring/summer than there usually are. But we're feeling a bit relieved because we've received an offer (as of Friday) that's less than we wanted, but that we can live with. Our realtor is working on the wording for our response, so hopefully the house will be sold soon. We had accepted another offer about a month ago, but it fell through. : that it goes through without a hitch this time!

Thanks for your support
Amara
post #91 of 92
Yeah on the house offer! It can be so stressful...

Phil worked in scientific instrument design for analytical chemistry. His boss is a PhD chemist.
post #92 of 92
Thanks Wendy! I let Dave know and will get back to you...
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