So I'm seven and a half months pg, and planning to bf this babe (hopefully CLW). DH and I are very close to his family (MIL had 9 kids, most of which live within an hour from us). MIL has told me that she bf-ed some of her kids, but weaned around 3 months or earlier because she wanted to lose the baby weight and she had to eat too much when she was bf-ing.
We were visiting them a couple months ago, and DH jokingly asked if they would watch our baby next summer for a week so we could go to Paris (:LOL this will never happen--we can't afford it--but one can dream...). I told DH and MIL & FIL, "I can't leave my six month old for a week! They'll still be breastfeeding!" (among other reasons, of course) "Besides that, who would want to go to Paris for a week and have to pump every two hours??" So MIL says to me, "Well, maybe you won't be able to breastfeed!" She said it in a way that was supposed to be encouraging--if I can't bf, then I can go to Paris!
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Then there's my SIL... She bf-ed her first two kids, mostly pumping and bottle feeding actually, and then tried to bf the third, but said she couldn't produce enough milk. When DH told her I have been going to LLL meetings, she shrugged it off and said, "Well, some people can bf, and some people can't." I think she's harboring a little resentment about her youngest...
Last, there's another SIL, who adopted a newborn baby boy about two years ago. She invited us to her house to pick what we wanted from all her baby things last weekend. She had bags full of pacifiers and bottles, and bottle drying racks. I told her I was planning on bf-ing, and she said, "Well you'll want the pacifiers anyway!" I told her I didn't, and she said, "Well, I'll set all this stuff aside, and if you can't bf or decide you want it, I'll bring to down to you."
Arrrgghhh.... MIL already thinks I am a know-it-all (she told DH, who wasn't supposed to tell me.....yeah right!). I don't want to argue with any of them, and I want to be sensitive to their feelings (as they all have some negative bf-ing history). Right now I'm just smiling and nodding, and agreeing that it's possible that I won't be able to bf, but that I'll cross that bridge when I come to it--for now I'm planning to bf.
It's really difficult because they are my only mothering role models at this point. My sis doesn't have kids, and my mom passed away when I was in high school. LLL has been wonderful, but they are so skeptical about it! Any suggestions??
We were visiting them a couple months ago, and DH jokingly asked if they would watch our baby next summer for a week so we could go to Paris (:LOL this will never happen--we can't afford it--but one can dream...). I told DH and MIL & FIL, "I can't leave my six month old for a week! They'll still be breastfeeding!" (among other reasons, of course) "Besides that, who would want to go to Paris for a week and have to pump every two hours??" So MIL says to me, "Well, maybe you won't be able to breastfeed!" She said it in a way that was supposed to be encouraging--if I can't bf, then I can go to Paris!
:Then there's my SIL... She bf-ed her first two kids, mostly pumping and bottle feeding actually, and then tried to bf the third, but said she couldn't produce enough milk. When DH told her I have been going to LLL meetings, she shrugged it off and said, "Well, some people can bf, and some people can't." I think she's harboring a little resentment about her youngest...
Last, there's another SIL, who adopted a newborn baby boy about two years ago. She invited us to her house to pick what we wanted from all her baby things last weekend. She had bags full of pacifiers and bottles, and bottle drying racks. I told her I was planning on bf-ing, and she said, "Well you'll want the pacifiers anyway!" I told her I didn't, and she said, "Well, I'll set all this stuff aside, and if you can't bf or decide you want it, I'll bring to down to you."
Arrrgghhh.... MIL already thinks I am a know-it-all (she told DH, who wasn't supposed to tell me.....yeah right!). I don't want to argue with any of them, and I want to be sensitive to their feelings (as they all have some negative bf-ing history). Right now I'm just smiling and nodding, and agreeing that it's possible that I won't be able to bf, but that I'll cross that bridge when I come to it--for now I'm planning to bf.
It's really difficult because they are my only mothering role models at this point. My sis doesn't have kids, and my mom passed away when I was in high school. LLL has been wonderful, but they are so skeptical about it! Any suggestions??
). I guess just keep smiling and nodding...and doing what I think is right. 
