vent-frustration at peoples comments - Page 2

[mikeynabbysmommy]

Its a bit OT (well kinda) btu I went into the drs today, to get my son checked up, and when they asked about when and for how long he eats, I said on demand and she said ok! and the Dr asked me "any plans to quit?" (breastfeeding) I said not for a while, and he said GOOD! then said just wean him before school, because he cant bring mommy in for a snack! I wanted to hug him.

I had my argument all ready for if I had to argue about DS not sleeping throughout the night (some friends of mine said they had their drs tell them they needed to night wean.... the nerve) and I didnt need it. I really LOVE this dr, he commends me on staying home with them, and breastfeeding, etc.... glad that there are at least a few left

[Mama Rana]

Originally Posted by mikeynabbysmommy

Its a bit OT (well kinda) btu I went into the drs today, to get my son checked up, and when they asked about when and for how long he eats, I said on demand and she said ok! and the Dr asked me "any plans to quit?" (breastfeeding) I said not for a while, and he said GOOD! then said just wean him before school, because he cant bring mommy in for a snack!

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i want your doc!!!!!!!

um, i already shared my pet peeves and i can't think of a new one to make this post on topic sooo.....

[Meiri]

then said just wean him before school, because he cant bring mommy in for a snack!

Sweet comment overall, and you've got a gem of a doc there!

But FWIW you don't even have to wean them before they go to school. By then they frequently want other snacks, of the type that they can bring in themselves.

[SirPentor]

Originally Posted by katja

When dd was very tiny, I couldn't believe the people who asked if she was a good baby. How can you respond to that? "No, she's horrible!"

I've typically gone with "yeah, she was delicious."

Typically when strangers say something stupid to me (or really say anything at all--I'm not a very friendly person) I just answer very curtly:
Stupid Person: "Looks like your kids need their mother!"
Me:
Stupid Person: "I said it looks like your kids need their mother!"
Me: "Nope"
Stupid Person: "Uh, OK" [wanders away, impossibly more confused than they were when they got there]

For the record, that is the single most offensive statement random people say to me. When I'm in the store and the kids are, let's say a little excited, or if one of them is upset, I will often get comments about how they need their mother. Apparantly I'm not a good enough babysitter (don't even get me started on that term as applied to fathers...) and I need to take them back to where they belong.

Anyway, that was a little off topic. Sorry 'bout that.

[soccerchic21]

Originally Posted by Liam's_Momma

ITA, soccerchic. Don't they also marvel at how happy and/or content dc is as well? That always gets me... You wonder when it will hit them...

Oh my gosh I hear "wow she is such a good baby has she always been this good?" my reply now is first

"well I have never met a 'bad' baby yet" :LOL

[Liam's_Momma]

Originally Posted by soccerchic21

Oh my gosh I hear "wow she is such a good baby has she always been this good?" my reply now is first

"well I have never met a 'bad' baby yet" :LOL

I have never understood that either. I just have this image in my head of a "bad" baby.... riding a little motorcycle with a little helmet....
*LOL*

[RBinTEX]

I listened to all those things when my three were little. My SILs and I had babies all about the same age. They thought I was a wacko who was ruining and spoiling and babying her babies. Wanna know what the perfect comeback is?! Wait for your kids to get older and let the comparisons speak for themselves. My so-called "clingy, dependent" babies who were being spoiled rotten are now kind, polite, independent, well adjusted straight A students. Now they chide me because I can't relate to their problems because my kids are "too perfect." I'm pregnant with #4. I wonder if they'll say the same things this time.

[mikeynabbysmommy]

My so-called "clingy, dependent" babies who were being spoiled rotten are now kind, polite, independent, well adjusted straight A students. Now they chide me because I can't relate to their problems because my kids are "too perfect." I'm pregnant with #4. I wonder if they'll say the same things this time.

I agree.. those same friends who called me a bad mother when DD was a toddler, are now always asking me today what I did to make her so wonderful and kind and loving. DUH! And then they lecture me on holding DS. DOUBLE DUH!

I dont care what people say, I my children more than anything in the world and I want to show it to them daily.

[bec]

Originally Posted by mikeynabbysmommy

I had my argument all ready for if I had to argue about DS not sleeping throughout the night (some friends of mine said they had their drs tell them they needed to night wean.... the nerve) and I didnt need it.

My dr. will ask at well baby visits and checkups with both of my kids whether they are sleeping well. She knows they are sleeping with us. That raised an eyebrow the first time she heard it (I don't think she has any other admitted co-sleeping families), and just asked that we make sure there aren't any pillows near their head. I thought it was a pretty good answer, considering it was a new concept to her.

The sleeping through the night question was mostly in order to make sure the kids were getting enough sleep in a 24 hour period, not so much about night waking. I told her we wouldn't even consider CIO, and she said that was good.

She's also been very supportive of breastfeeding and the pumping.


Bec

[mommaluv321]

Originally Posted by SirPentor

Stupid Person: "Looks like your kids need their mother!"
Me:
Stupid Person: "I said it looks like your kids need their mother!"
Me: "Nope"
Stupid Person: "Uh, OK" [wanders away, impossibly more confused than they were when they got there]

My husband also has a big problem w/ that kind of stuff, it's just a left-over from the 50's; the lil woman stays home and does the cleanin' and the child rearin', the big strong man brings home the bacon but is retarded when it comes to the needs of a child. I guess, thankfully, men's lib has come a long way too!!