Another crappy celeb

[Galatea]

DH made me watch the VH1 special on Leah Remini's (King of Queens) pregnancy last night. I don't know if it was new, so maybe you all knew this.

Straight to the bottle. "Happy" family scene in hospital bed with newborn sucking on a big fat bottle.

I told DH if I saw a split-second of "King of Queens" on our tv I would blow a gasket.

(Please help me stop being so judgmental about this.)

[marisa724]

I saw the same exact thing, and almost posted, but it was my attempt at not being so judgemental...

Just watching it she is so typical of so many moms I see in this area. (North Jersey, NYC/LI)...

Straight to the bottle, hair and nails done (did you see those claws in their portraits they were doing?), heck, she was even sleeping on her tummy.


I gave her a little credit for not going right to the c/s at least, when they'd been in the hospital over 24 hours.

[HelloKitty]

I'm sorry to disagree with you hon but I'm not ready to bash every mother that FF's. She may have a really good reason for not trying BFing. Women that FF can still have a happy family and a happy family photo....

Unless she makes some really disparaging remarks about BFing I won't attack her.

Besides... I love that show!

[ShadowMom]

I was disappointed in that, but without knowing the background info, we don't know for sure why she ended up bottlefeeding. I love that show too. I thought overall the show was cute, even though she's kind of mean.

[marisa724]

You ladies are probably right. Like I said earlier, she just reminds me so much of so many friends and family members and other moms I run into around here... I'm projecting them onto her and that's probably not fair.

I still don't understand how anyone can care for a newborn with 3-inch fingernails though.

[loving-my-babies]

poor baby

why does everyone get so defensive? haven't you seen the stats? the odds are she didn't want to breastfeed because it's too much of a hassle for her... those are the honest odds. MOST women quit bf'ing because of selfishness not because of problems. there ARE moms that quit because of problems but that's the minority in the group of ff'ing moms.

[Parker'smommy]

I thought for sure she was going to breastfeed because they showed her dh trying desperately to set up a co-sleeper!!!! So, maybe things just didn't go okay??? I dunno.

And I thought for sure, it would end up cesearan, but it didn't. Poor thing was so exhausted that afterwards she didn't even look like she could open up her own eyes. Everyone was jumping all around excited and she was just sitting there bewildered.

I didn't watch after they cut to the immediate bottle feeding...I didn't want to get upset. Too bad.

[polka123]

i was very disappointed.
she probably has to start shooting the show again - who knows?
I wondered about thr tummy thing but if the babe was supervised & it was just a little nap- well , ok.
I'm sure she had an epi.which i dont care about but her dh kept making comments about "how long it was taking"

i was also p.o'd @ her dh's comments about "shooting the dog un the head" if the dog even looked @ his daughter cross-eyed.

did you see that sweet dog?
it was so mellow & well behaved -

at least she stuck up for the dog

[bluegrassmom]

Oy. I can't stand this woman...I watched the show on her wedding a while back and realized she was a pretty mean person (or seemed to be).

I'll leave her alone about the formula feeding unless she says something snarky about bf'ing or about how "inconvenient" it is. I think I'm cutting her that slack because of the co-sleeper.

But really...3 inch fingernails with a newborn? There are two things you can not do efficiently with super long nails: type and change diapers

[kaydee]

Originally Posted by loving-my-babies

haven't you seen the stats? the odds are she didn't want to breastfeed because it's too much of a hassle for her... those are the honest odds. MOST women quit bf'ing because of selfishness not because of problems. there ARE moms that quit because of problems but that's the minority in the group of ff'ing moms.

Could you point me to the stats that show this? I would like to see some figures on reasons mothers don't BF.

[~Megan~]

Really hoping it was a made up photo for the public.

I like her

[pamamidwife]

are you sure it isn't because of her boob job?

[PurpleBasil]

She has implants? Do you have a link for that?

She is trying to lose the weight and gets up at 5am to do cardio, before giving her daughter a bath and then going to work. That's not a lazy person, imo!

But does a baby need a bath that frequently?

I digress.

I would just be a fat a$$ and be happy about it, going, 'I'm a new mom.' But there is this extra pressure being on television and you want to be this svelte girl."

"I say screw it," Leah says with a laugh. "My husband still wants to have sex with me. That is all that matters."

http://et.tv.yahoo.com/tv/2004/09/16...ini_babybulge/

[Liam's_Momma]

*LOL* I STILL don't bathe ds THAT much.... maybe she's a germaphobe. How do you bathe a baby with claws anyway?!?

[Viola]

Originally Posted by kaydeesac

Could you point me to the stats that show this? I would like to see some figures on reasons mothers don't BF.

Me too, darn it! My anecdotal experience over the years has been that moms don't breastfeed because: 1) the doctor told me that formula was better, more scientific, could be measured. 2) I didn't have enough milk; the baby wanted to breastfeed more than every 3 hours. 3) My milk dried up after a few awhile, but the colostrum is the important stuff anyway. 4)When the nurse brought the baby to me in the hospital to nurse, I said take him away, I'm bottlefeeding, I'm not a cow! 5) Ewww, I could never breastfeed for 6 months, that's impossible. 6)Breastfeeding a one year old is gross. The moms just can't let go. 7)Oh, you're breastfeeding. I never wanted to do that. 8)I was just going to go back to work and I would probably have to use formula anyway, so why even get started with breastfeeding. 9)I could have breastfed if I had a pump as good as yours--all I had was that bicycle horn kind.

I'm not really sure what some of the underlying reasons were, but some of the moms I've known made it clear that they thought breastfeeding was disgusting and never wanted to do it.

I've known people online who couldn't breastfeed due to hypoplastic breasts, surgery that destroyed the milk ducts, galactosemia in the baby, breasts gone due to cancer. I'm sure there are other reasons--maybe drug interactions or the mom is in a coma or dead or in the military away from the baby.

[ShadowMom]

Originally Posted by loving-my-babies

poor baby

why does everyone get so defensive? haven't you seen the stats? the odds are she didn't want to breastfeed because it's too much of a hassle for her... those are the honest odds. MOST women quit bf'ing because of selfishness not because of problems. there ARE moms that quit because of problems but that's the minority in the group of ff'ing moms.

Wow... what an incredibly judgemental thing to say. Do you have any studies or data to back that up? And, how do you define selfishness? If a mom quits due to ignorance or lack of support, is that selfishness? What about a mom who quits because of PPD? What about the simple fact that our culture downplays the importance and significance of this event, to the extent that a mother has to do a lot of research to really understand what breastfeeding is all about.

[pamamidwife]

I think the biggest reason women don't breastfeed is that we don't have positive community support for it. Period.

*Women don't often see other women breastfeed,
*there's advertisements that formula is just as good,
*there's messages that your partner won't bond with your baby unless he/she is feeding them,
*most doctors, nurses and pediatricians have very little - if any - experience with breastfeeding problems,
*women are constantly in a "my body failed me" mode after birth, so making enough milk is added to that list (we don't trust our bodies as a whole),
*even lactation consultants can give different advice from books or other LCs or LLL, and it is confusing to women
*most don't get any good information on breastfeeding that they don't have to pay for - or don't know where to go
*breastfeeding can be, and usually is, a struggle in the first weeks and most women feel like it can't get any better
*we still live in a culture that equates breastfeeding in public to having sex with your kid or something equally as nasty


Hmmmm.....so, is it JUST selfishness on the part of the mom? Definitely not. I think it's SELFISHNESS on part of our COMMUNITIES. We all have to do our part in supporting mothers if we really want to see change.

[Liam's_Momma]

Well said PAMAMIDWIFE!

[HelloKitty]

I don't see how some of us saying we aren't ready to judge her because we don't have enough information makes us defensive?

I too have heard some really crappy reasons from women to not BF and I get upset too but I have also heard some really sad reasons and some understandable reasons and since we have absolutely NO insight into why this woman isn't BF'ing I'm not going to condemn her for FFing.

Now the nails thing.... that's just a PITA I would think! Maybe she will learn and clip them down to sad looking freak nails like mine soon enough

[PurpleBasil]

So did she have a breast reduction or prostheses?

Thanks.