does anyone else secretely wish your pregnant friends' babies will be girls...

[loving-my-babies]

just so they don't circ??

I know a couple people that are pregnant and some of them are dead set on doing this to their children... I have secretely wished their whole pregnancies that they are girls... but they are boys! I wished SO hard for the baby to be a girl, just to save her from the pain and suffering and being strapped and abandoned in a cold table

Oh my, I wish I could change the world

[calngavinsmom]

Yes, I wish that all the time(glad to see I'm not the only one)

Tara

[candiland]

Yup. All the time.

[mom2savannah_grace]

Yep! Fortunately my one friend had a girl , but the other three were boys that are now no longer intact

Part of me wants to give up trying to educate these people, but if I can save even one baby boy the pain and trauma of circ, it'll be worthwhile.

[My2Matthews]

Yes, I do, but feel terrible about it afterwards.

[Tanibani]

All the time.

And it kills when me when I know my pro-intact friends have all girls!

[A&A]

No, I think that's highly sexist. I wish for their babies to be healthy and whole (left intact), whether boy or girl.

[Sarah]

I think it really sucks to live in a world where a person would be wished to be someone they are not just because their parents lack the character to not mutilate them.

I don't think it is a blessing to a girl to be raised by people who would mulilate her brother, or herself -had she been born a boy, and who will eventually teach her or coerce her to mutilate her own children.

If the wishes really worked- I would not wish a girl into that position.

So many times I hear people say, "I hope it's a girl so I don't have to make this decision" WHAT A COP OUT... I hope it's a girl so I don't have to get real and get a spine?

I don't think babies should ever be wished to be anything other than what they are supposed to be.

But I have also been thinking about this for many years, and have had lots of time to feel sad for all the thousands of boys who were wished to be something they were not... all because this cruel culture can't accept them for how they are.

Love Sarah

[loving-my-babies]

I agree, but there are a lot of people I know that SWEAR to be AP and very gentle and yet still circ (how is that gentle, please??) so otherwise they are good parents, they are just incredibly ignorant, that's all.

[apmama]

Oh I wish I could say that I never have wished that, but I have. My sil is pregnant with number 2 and frankly I do hope it' s a girl. I sent them so much info on circ, as did one of our good friends who they are also friends with. THey decided to do it and thought we'd be proud of the fact that the baby's dad went in with him for it. Frankly that made me sicker still, that he could watch them do that to his son. Sigh. I don't want another baby to go through it.

[Dragonfly]

Originally Posted by Sarah

If the wishes really worked- I would not wish a girl into that position.

I can see what you're saying but, honestly, if a baby HAS to be in that position, I'd rather it be a girl than a boy. At least she's protected by law.

I feel lucky to currently only know breeders who are anti-circ. My brother will be a tough one when he finally gets around to having kids. I'll arm him and my stb-SIL with as much info as possible but, if they decide to go ahead and circ, you can bet I'll be wishing with all of my might that they have a girl. They'll be excellent parents in many ways - as are many people who mutilate their littly boys - but they may have blinders on to that one issue. If wishes have power, I'll be using mine to hope that they don't have a boy until they see the light.

[Arduinna]

yes I have and luckily they had a girl. sadly many of the other people I know had boys and one even circed their child at 3 years old becuase the state wouldn't pay at birth and they couldn't afford it until the child was older.

UGH!

[LianneM]

I have. And I've hoped that I'm having a boy just to be an example for them. So sad

[polka123]

yup - I do this all the time.
I feel so sad for those poor circ'd boys - :

[Ilaria]

Actually, that's the FIRST thing I think about.