Yes, I am angry, tired of and astounded at how many times I have read this kind of thread in my short time on MDC.
I am a WOHM of a beautiful boy. I have to work to help support my family, provide health insurance (husband is self employed = no insurance), provide some type of savings in the bank (because you don't know what will happen), and
: I enjoy working.
I feel that it must be nice for a 24 year old SAHM to be so judgemental at such a young age. I wonder how she will be at 34 (like me). Will she be glad that she has no money in the bank to fall back on if her husband loses his job? Will she be glad that she has not saved for college perhaps or retirement? Will she be glad that she doesn't have enough money to buy her wonderful child a special treat?
Now, I'm NOT implying that every SAHM is this way. Most are great women.. I just feel compelled to try and wake up this particular SAHM.
My husband & I have bought a new home, but still drive a 1994 car and a 1978 truck (like our brand new wheels!!!). But, if you would stop to ask about our life for a moment you would learn that we bought our house 3 months before I found out I was pregnant. That we were living in a trailer that was beginning to fall apart left & right. That we were living next to some very seedy neighbors (drug dealing house next door). SOOO...would it have been the responsible and loving thing to stay there and worry constantly about my son?? Or to have forfeited on our house payments and be homeless just so I could be a "perfect" mom and SAH?? I think not!!
DestinysMama, I would tell you not to bother opening up a daycare in your home, because if you portray this downgrading, "I'm better then you" and completely rude behavior to potential WOH moms - they aren't going to find you a suitable caregiver for their child. I can honestly say that I would never want a person so judgemental caring for my child.
I don't honestly expect this to change or open your mind - but hey, everything is worth one shot. (Actually I don't think she is still reading this thread - hasn't shown her face since page 1 or 2).
To answer a different question raised in here.....I don't have to try harder to bond with my son because he is in day care all day. I HAVE that bond with him and no one will ever break it. (Just ask my husband
In conclusion to my long post (sorry) ....I applaude
those moms who can and choose to stay at home with their children and those that choose or HAVE TO work out of the home, and who do so without a word. The ones that don't judge or criticize, and don't teach such behaviours to their children.