I love my jobs as a mom and as a WOHM. We just bought a house, which is not big, or fancy, but it was the right thing for us to do. DD's health has improved (we lived near a dusty recycling plant, which caused lots of running noses and sinus infections), and we're able to save for the future. We could not afford to pay our mortgage, put healthy food on our table, and keep gas in our old crappy cars, put money in a college savings for dd if I didn't work.
Because we like to, because we have to, and because it's really not anyone else's business or concern of what works for *our* families. I pass no judgement on SAHM, more power to you that it worked for you. So don't try to "understand" why an AP mom would WOH, just don't judge. Understand this--my choices may not work in your family and vice versa.
I've always felt that AP practices really make the lives of busy working parents much more manageable than more "mainstream" practices. I hope this sheds some light on how some of us WOH and AP.
I marked that I put my child in full time day care. We eased dd into full time care at 3 months. It was on the campus where I work, I could bf on my lunch break, they were AP friendly, and she was loved and cared for by wonderful people. I missed her every minute we were apart, but I knew she was in safe place, and I could walk over and see her anytime I wanted. We'll do the same thing with our next baby. I don't regret it for a second. I would rather not have to pay someone to care for my child, sure! I'd rather take her to work with me, but I haven't found a work environment that I enjoy where I could do that. BTW, I breastfed DD until she self weaned 2 months shy of her 5th birthday (will do the same with dc#2), and she co-sleeps with us whenever she wishes. I CD'd for several months (til it stopped "working" for us), and plan to CD dc#2 and make it work...I'll stop with the credentials. I hope you get the picture.
DestinysMama, my question to you is why is it hard to understand that we do what's best for our families, even when other people don't think it's best? Has this type of vocal criticism and scrutiny deterred a homeschooling, co-sleeping, or non-vaxing family? I suppose it sometimes does, and frequently strengthens a family's resolve that they are doing the right thing.