Sunmountain - I am sooo impressed by you and your dh and your desire to begin a hospice. I have been involved with hospice work for close to 10 years and I am a big proponent of hospice care. My first exposure to hospice was when my Dad died and it was recommended that my Mom attend a bereavement group at a hospice. It was a wonderful experience for her and she soon became a volunteer. I decided to volunteer also and had several clients (patients) that I visited and I also worked with the bereavement team for a while doing follow-up calls to family members of clients who had died. Several years ago dh's sister died and they chose hospice care and last year my aunt died of cancer and she was on hospice for 3 months. They took care of both of them beautifully.
Hospice has taught me so much about death, the dying process, communication, pain management (not done very well in hospitals, unfortunately
) grief, life and living....
All ofthe hospices I have worked with have been affiliated with health systems. However, I know there have been hospice homes where maybe 5 or 6 people live while they are dying.
Here is one I have been to in San Francisco:http://www.cpmc.org/services/coming_home_hospice.html
Also this one:http://www.zenhospice.org/
Good luck in your endeavors.