have an UC? anyone had a UC previously?
My last pg was wonderful, I had a lay MW (in a very unfriendly state) that helped me work through a lot of issues. Her contribution during the pregnancy was absolutely invaluable. But 11 days before my due date she got spooked. Lots of circumstances surrounding the whole ordeal but she became afraid that she would be persecuted (and prosecuted) for attending my birth without a license.
DH and I were stunned and shocked to say the least. That night and for the following days afterward until we were able to secure a MW to attend us, he said repeatedly, "If you birth the baby now, I'll catch" meaning that we would go unattended.
Long story short (if that is possible for me!!
), we wound up using a MW whom I appreciate her skills and her broad scope of what she will handle at home but DO NOT mesh with her loudness, lack over bedside manner, her over the top Long Island-ish at times... Point and case -- Gabriel went from 0 station to almost crowing in one contraction (cervical lip held him up). It was near overwhelming to have his bowling ball head on my perineum in an instant. I pleaded for hot compresses and said that I felt like I was going to tear up front, asking for someone to gently apply pressure on my perinuem. I was told that I didn't need a compress yet and that no one had to hald me, that everything was fine, "honey".
It doesn't sound like a HUGE deal but it was to me at the moment. It still sticks in my head that when I was asking for something, demanding something, that I was told that I didn't need it...
Anywho, I am totally at peace with an UC (or should I say couple's birth since I would want DH there supporting me through the process?). My last birth was very healing after Donovan's c/sect (DS #2). I carry no reservations about my capabilities after birthing Gabriel. But I don't think DH would be as open to it.
My doula (from Gabriel's birth) and dear friend and I have talked about this already and are on the same lines of thinking about the MW's mannerism. She wants to help me achieve a "golden birth experience" this time around and suggested not calling anyone until I was pushing, which sounds all right to me.
Maybe an "unplanned" planned UC... Just forget to call everyone until after the baby is born... So that way we'll have someone to come over, help with the clean up, make a meal for us and then go home?
My last pg was wonderful, I had a lay MW (in a very unfriendly state) that helped me work through a lot of issues. Her contribution during the pregnancy was absolutely invaluable. But 11 days before my due date she got spooked. Lots of circumstances surrounding the whole ordeal but she became afraid that she would be persecuted (and prosecuted) for attending my birth without a license.
DH and I were stunned and shocked to say the least. That night and for the following days afterward until we were able to secure a MW to attend us, he said repeatedly, "If you birth the baby now, I'll catch" meaning that we would go unattended.
Long story short (if that is possible for me!!
), we wound up using a MW whom I appreciate her skills and her broad scope of what she will handle at home but DO NOT mesh with her loudness, lack over bedside manner, her over the top Long Island-ish at times... Point and case -- Gabriel went from 0 station to almost crowing in one contraction (cervical lip held him up). It was near overwhelming to have his bowling ball head on my perineum in an instant. I pleaded for hot compresses and said that I felt like I was going to tear up front, asking for someone to gently apply pressure on my perinuem. I was told that I didn't need a compress yet and that no one had to hald me, that everything was fine, "honey".It doesn't sound like a HUGE deal but it was to me at the moment. It still sticks in my head that when I was asking for something, demanding something, that I was told that I didn't need it...
Anywho, I am totally at peace with an UC (or should I say couple's birth since I would want DH there supporting me through the process?). My last birth was very healing after Donovan's c/sect (DS #2). I carry no reservations about my capabilities after birthing Gabriel. But I don't think DH would be as open to it.
My doula (from Gabriel's birth) and dear friend and I have talked about this already and are on the same lines of thinking about the MW's mannerism. She wants to help me achieve a "golden birth experience" this time around and suggested not calling anyone until I was pushing, which sounds all right to me.
Maybe an "unplanned" planned UC... Just forget to call everyone until after the baby is born... So that way we'll have someone to come over, help with the clean up, make a meal for us and then go home?
Sending you positive, sticky baby wishes, Evergreen! 
