|I see folks on this board a lot dissing mothers for leaving their kids and never mentioning the fathers' choices; it drives me absolutely nuts. (Especially posts that rag on mothers for leaving their kids WITH their fathers!)
I agree. I see this SO much (not necessarily on message boards, but definitely in real life). What is with this stigma that men are completely incapable when it comes to children? You always see commercials and TV shows with fathers fumbling with diapers, putting them on backwards, and doing other dumb things while trying to care for an infant. Ugh, it drives me nuts. Sure, there are idiot fathers out there, but there are idiot mothers, too. I've seen my share. :P
My husband was a SAHD for a good part of my daughters first 14 months. He recently decided to go back to university, but if he hadn't, he would be the one staying home with the baby while I worked. He LOVES being home with our daughter, and he's such a great parent. He's discovered "techniques" for washing cloth diapers that even I didn't know.
He plays with her, he snuggles with her, he feeds her, changes her. He does everything the EXACT same way I would do it if it were me at home, only he has a deeper voice. :P
In our situation, I stayed home for the entire first year. We didn't have the option of pumping breastmilk, as our daughter refused bottles. She would never take one. So unless we wanted her to starve, I had to stay home. When he took over as the primary caregiver when I went back to work, he was a natural. The only thing that bothered me about the whole situation was how family and friends reacted, calling him Mr. Mom, and asking me if I was nervous leaving her with him, etc. Ugh, what's with the assumption that fathers make bad "mothers"? I hate that people still have old fashioned views. It would really hurt his feelings when people would snicker at him and comment on his obvious lack of parenting skills due to his disability of having a penis. MEN ARE PARENTS, TOO! I've always believed that parenting is a 50/50 job, and there are no "women's" jobs or "men's" jobs. We are both just as capable.