What Birthing Methods/Techniques Do YOU Recommend? - Page 2

[Chloe]

ok! Thanks for that link! But Cinci is 3-4 hrs from where I live currently. And when we relocate, it will still be 2 hrs away! But I will look and see if I can find other places, maybe for my next birth. Or maybe I can just convince my husband to let me have a homebirth....


Francine

[Augustine]

there is also a great website with the title, "my husband would'nt let me have a homebirth" with sugestions for how to convince home! got to www.birthlove.com and look for that page!
good luck!
ps my husband felt better about our homebirth after meeting other dads who had birthed at home, it normalized it!

[Chloe]

I have that website bookmarked, and I may have the bfw one too! I have been researching, so I am familiar with birthlove.com. Though it used to be fre, and now you have to pay, and i haven't gotten around to subscribing.

Actually, due to oour current situation, i may end up having an "oops" homebirth, hehe! Right now, temporarily, we live in seperate cities! He has a new job, and we are selling our house before we can all move! I'm planning on the midwife, in the hospital, and I was going to ask about waterbirth at the hosp. I can comprimise I haven't asked anyone yet to drive me when I go into labor...I am 26 weeks, so I have a little time. My parents live a half hour away. Maybe I can "post pone" them coming! haha But for now, hubby feels "safer" with hospital births...his personality and career choice lend themsleves to being difficult to argue with and persuade. Though I did persuade him to let me have a MW this time! SO there is hope.

[Augustine]

I'm an open book if you want to know more about unassisted birth, I have had both my babies at home unassisted!
Good luck to you,
love,
Augustine

[Chloe]

Artof Birthing- you are sooo lucky! After I read Unassisted Childbirth, Laura Shanley Kaplan( i think) I was absolutely enthralled by the idea of a homebirth! It may not be this one, but maybe by the 3rd time, I can! Although, I am going to try to hold out as long as I can, and labor at home, if possible. I would love to hear your experiences.

That book, and a few others are what really made me decide that I would be in CONTROL, and I would have confidence in my body. And, that I wouldn't need interventions. (I caved on my own. The nurse really did respect that I wasn't sure about pain meds. I didn't get an epidural.)

[Augustine]

Thanks, I wouldn't do it anyother way! We are due in Jan again and planning a beautiful birth in our own house (for the first time!)
my birhs are hard, but I like that they are no one elses' memories, just mine and my families. Plus, I would have been an induction, c-sec had I been at the hospital. I didn't really tear either, so what the hell, I think that for me it is the only way to birth!
my birth stories are at www.birthlove.com under Augustine
good luck!
I think staying home to labor is the best then you can be in your own space, walk, shower, ect without being monitored or checked. Then when you are pushing you can really deside if you want to go to the hospital or just go to your own bathroom and push out a baby! A word of advise, if you do stay home, don't call 911 unless the baby isn't breatheing or someother major emergency. That is after all what emt's are trained for and so if you call then and it is not an emergency, you will still be treated like it is, like two different abulances for you and the baby, and lots of invasive proceedures.
if it is something like a retained placenta or what ever and you feel like you need to go, wait, clean up, and calmly go by car, so you have some dignaity and a leg to stand on at the hospital when you are asking for one service like help with the placenta, not all their services, like attmitting the baby Sorry to go onand on, just had too many friends skrewed after a beautiful birth! good luck!

[Chloe]

No, I didn't think you went on at all. I am VERY interested in the ART of birthing, and really, no matter how it happens, it is a beautiful art! Some art is prettier than others, so you can make that analogy I guess... Know what I mean? Anytime a baby is born, it is a beautiful process, however, unfortunately, many babies and mothers get cheated! I'll have to get on that website. By the way- my mw's last name is Augustine.


I don't know if my husband will be here when I go into labor. If he's not, I plan on calling him. Since I can't predict how long my labor will be, that is really all I can do. If he's not here, and I think it's about time to get to the hospital, I will either have my friend who lives in my neighborhood take me, or my parents. If I think I can wait for them( they live 30 minutes away!) I WOULD NEVER CALL 911! Except in emergency! I just need to discuss that with my husband. With my first birth, I went into labor on my due date (around 8 pm, then my contrax were steadily 5 min apart around 10.) We got to the hospital around midnight. I pushed the baby for a little less than an hour, and he was born at 5:54 am. that was the short version!


I now know I could have labored at home awhile longer (should have) and I know that I should have kept walking around. It was my choice to lay down, because I was tired! Labor is hard work I also realize that I shouldn't have had them break my water, though it did speed things up! I went from being stuck at 7, to 10cm in less than an hour, I think. This toime I will shower, walk, whatever it takes. I will "open like a flower!" My perspective is so different. I guess I am hoping things go as smoothly as they did with my first (as far as the baby being in the right position, etc) I will require less intervention. I don't even want to stay in the hospital, but we'll see how it goes. Maybe I can convince the midwife and dh to let me go home. Hospital beds are so dang uncomfortable.

Francine

[Augustine]

Cool, You are doing so much to effect the outcome of your birth, I am sure that it will be amazing!
One thing that has been helpful to other couples in my classes is a discription of how your position at the end of pregnancy directly effects the baby's position at birth! Stop me if this is boring to you, but I think that it is one of the most important peices of information for a mother to know. I gained this knowledge from taking seminars from Nancy Wainer Cohen, studing papers by Valerie El Halta, and personal experience.
The heaviest part of the baby is its head which as pregnancy advances and the fluid declines, has gravity to help it desend into the lowest spot, the pelvis, hence the reason that 98% of all babies are head down or vertex at birth. The major variable here and the biggest reason for c-sec being preformed is the direction the head is pointing. Anterior or with the baby facing your back is the best posiple position. Ussually the babies back is on the left side with his little head turned a bit to face your spine.
The next heaviest part of the baby is his back. If we were working in a rice patty all day or hunting and gathering our bellies would be the next lowest after our pelvises and so the babies back would drift to the belly or la bit left side (because of the placement of the colon this is the most comfortable for baby and easiest to birth) However, In America we have bucket seats in our cars and squishy couches and lay-z-boys and we also have this very "lady-like" tradition of crossing our legs and leaning back a bit. This all rounds the back and puts the back lower than the belly - hence the reason for so many transvers and posterir babies ( face to pubic bone) !
You can pay attention to your position starting 30 weeks or so and always sit up with a curve in your back and your knees lower than your hips to open the pelvic inlet ( don't do lots of squatting exercises) When you go to sit in a chair go and srattle it like a man. Very unlady-like however, you automatically drop your knees and lean forward to make your belly lower. If you want to rest, don't slouch, lay down instead, nice and comfy with a pillow between your knees and behind your back and under your head!
I went way to long, hope it was helpful!
good luck to you,

[Chloe]

No- you didn't! Anything helps! I have heard that yoga helps too....and as I read your last post, I realized I was slouching! So i sat up straight!

You are a wealth of knowledge!!!!



Francine

[Augustine]

feel free to email me privately too if you would like!
It is exciting to hear about your journey!
love,
Augustine
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ps I'm from Cincinnati, OH, I miss home! lol

[Chloe]

Cool! I enjoy hearing about your journey too! I was on the homebirthing twins, and saw you had posted there! I shall email you soon,


Natural Childbirth is the way to go!

Francine

[tea olive]

augustine
i'm glad you shared your knowledge especially your explanation of the distribution of baby's weight. i have been mindful of my positioning this pg esp since my previous two were posterior and your post has helped me visualize/feel where i want the baby to be (i'm around 24 weeks). i have been thinking about your post for the past couple days....thank you.