philomom, again I am so very sorry for your loss.
I wanted to tell you to make sure you stay hydrated. It's extremely imposrtant to drink lots of water and avoid caffeine and alcohol, despite how tempting these may be right now. Watch out for excess bleeding (more than 1 pad for more than 2 hours) and fever (sign of infection). You don't have to get a D&C unless these things are happening (unless you want to, of course, which would be understandable). We have a Pregnancy and Loss Board here. The women there were invaluable to me in getting through my m/c.
Peace and love to you.