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post #241 of 1527
Thanks Cuqui and Sojh and the others who answered my question about men who watch tv and don't. I think the difference between enjoying watching team sports and personally preferring to hike or other such more solitary sports was particularly relevant, as it seems to resonate with the memories of different men I have known and met. With that in mind, I will try even harder to camp, hike, run, ect with my son (activities I enjoy anyway but haven't done much of due to the business of a single economically unstable mother).

My child's Halloween costume has always been homemade, but he calls store bought costumes "real" costumes...At the Park Slope Halloween parade, he was one of the very few who wore homeade costumes (so few I saw I could count them on one hand!). He got lots of admiration for his train (he was the engineer in an engine pulling 3 large decorated boxes/cars, lots of positive attention, but he was too young to appreciate/understand how much people liked his costume. One elegant woman even took off her thick, new silk decorated asian scarf and tossed it into one of his cars...

This year he was a monkey, helped sow it, and was excited about it, but decided at last minute he wanted to make a little book and go out and count all the stars we could find. I was the one who was disapointed! (We had recently checked out of the library a book about a boy and his dad doing precisely that).

I thought maybe that those of us that didn't have TV's could share their most cherished memories of what growing up without a TV was like. For example, things your family did and loved that you propably wouldn't have if you were a TV family.

Not to leave those who did have a TV out, how about things that, when you were a child, you wished your family would do.

That way, we can all grow in a "non tv" culture, our lives can become richer - as if everyone was living a rich life.

For example, between the ages of 6 and 11/12 when my parents divorced, my mother cooked all her food from scratch. Her bread was homemade (she used to put the dough in bags and have my brother and I help her knead by jumping on them). She had learned to cook in France and it was exuisite. Around the delicious food eaten slowly and leisurely, my brother, mother, and father would have long, involved, often also humorous discussions. At Christmas, for example, we might debate the existance of Santa Claus, my father taking one side, and my brother and I taking another. I still remember when my father protested that the radar screens of different countries should detect and stop Santa Claus from entering, my brother instantly replied that Santa went between other countries underground - he had a special very fast drilling machine...We stopped him there for a moment! After the large, delicious dinner, we sat around the table together, while my mother read dramatiacally from books. In this way, we went through (all unabridged) The Iliad, The Odissey, Les Miserables, A Tale of 2 Cities, Oliver Twist, more by Dickens, Sherlock Holmes, and so forth. Looking around the table at my brother's and father's faces as my mothers voice rythmatically reenacted the story is a memory so cherished I cannot begin to describe it. She always knew where to stop, so that we would beg for more (she had to hide the book between dinners). Les Miserables has had a deeper effect on me than anything except personal experience.
post #242 of 1527
I don't have as poetic a memory as Kira's, but - we used to enjoy Domino games and card games and all sorts of games with my Dad and Stepmother, who did not have a tv. We would also read to each other from Shel Silverstein books (Where the Sidewalk Ends, particularly) and eat Jelly Bellies and crunchy cheetos and drink coke ("food" I won't serve my ds yet!!).

We also spent a lot of time in my stepmother's sewing room, making dresses (I made my 1st-day-of-school dress for 5th grade, I remember well) and other fun things. My sister made a caveman, which I still have (but a shoe is missing).

We'd also bake a lot. I never learned how to cook, but I know (or at least knew...) how to make pie shells from scratch, and bake pies, quiches, cookies, etc.
post #243 of 1527
I'm noticing a lot of the TV free families here are from NYC. We should really get together sometime. I'm having a really hard time finding other TV free families around. I've met a few and cherish them, but most of the playgroups I go to with my daughter are with a big screen tv blaring in the background.

If any of you would like to have aTv free meeting I'm up for going just about anyplace in the city!!!!

I've been looking for a sitter for a few hours a week so I can do some extra sewing. I had 6 interested applicants but when told that we have no Tv or videos NONE of them wanted the job. heaven forbid they have to play with my daughter! I did finally find someone. Granted her first question was "does she have some barbies we can play with?"
post #244 of 1527

TV Free for 4 years!

My DS, 4years old has never watched TV except at the airport, and random restaurants. He has seen 3 movies/videos, but would much rather be doing his own thing. DH & I don't watch TV either so it's easy! We have a set, but it lives in the closet & only comes out for debates, world series games, etc...
post #245 of 1527
hrheka, how old is your dd? pm me to meet
post #246 of 1527
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Originally Posted by hrheka
I'm noticing a lot of the TV free families here are from NYC. We should really get together sometime. I'm having a really hard time finding other TV free families around. I've met a few and cherish them, but most of the playgroups I go to with my daughter are with a big screen tv blaring in the background.

If any of you would like to have aTv free meeting I'm up for going just about anyplace in the city!!!!

I've been looking for a sitter for a few hours a week so I can do some extra sewing. I had 6 interested applicants but when told that we have no Tv or videos NONE of them wanted the job. heaven forbid they have to play with my daughter! I did finally find someone. Granted her first question was "does she have some barbies we can play with?"
Sure.

And, by the way, I don't have a shortage of babysitters. Maybe you're looking in the wrong places. All my babysitters also work (or have worked) at an herb shop in my neighborhood and are pretty inventive hippies/alternative/rainbow gathering type of people. Really responsible, too. I've already picked out one as a potential daughter-in-law....she'll be in her late 40's when my pixie is about 20....so peak time for both of them! :LOL


Perhaps you should post an ad like this:
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We are a fun, inventive TV-free home and are looking for a part-time babysitter for our energy-filled little darling who loves the park and playing trains [or whatever...insert accurate info. here].
in local bookstores, healthfood coops, alternative medicine centers, and the crunchier of children's stores.

And, , if you're I might pass on your name to my pixie's posse. : :
post #247 of 1527
NEWSFLASH!!!!



I got the TV-Begones I ordered!!!!! Woohoo!!!!!!!!











tee hee
post #248 of 1527
I swear I will order mine - I'm green with envy!
post #249 of 1527
So do they really work the way they are marketed? Tell us your adventures with one.. heehhee
post #250 of 1527
So far, ja mama, yes. But, the reality is that I have already lived so much of my life w/o TVs and staying out of places with them (and coming to terms emotionally with the handful of places I decide to go that already have them) that I haven't actually had lots of opportunities to test out the technology. :

I suppose, for the good of science, I need to break out of my luddite, crunchy existence and go to some mega-mall and attack the TV screens there. Maybe I'll pick up some S&M garb from Victoria's Secret at the same time.

They don't work on my co-workers' computer monitors. But, I wouldn't have expected them to. Those don't normally have remote-operation capabilites.
post #251 of 1527
Nevermind. I've received enough emails and PMs to know that I'm 'stupid' and hated.
post #252 of 1527
I discovered this past weekend that it works through a shop window if the TV is part of the display. (I didn't feel the least sleazy about it as the video had malfunctioned and was skipping and looking irritating.)

But, the TV needs to be close to the glass. You can't get the TV on the wall at the back of a restaurant unless you go in.
post #253 of 1527
My kiddos are 6 and 8 and we are tv free. Have been for over 4 years and before that it was strictly regulated...
The ads...I hate the ads.
Some of the shows are cool, but I can't get over the ads.
post #254 of 1527
I did it, I ordered a TV begone too! at first I didn't think I really needed it because I'm not in places with TVs very often. then I did the laundry today...They have 6 televisions! All on DIFFERENT channels with the volume CRANKED. I find myself trying to do laundry at lunch time instead of earlier in the day when its more convinient so that the channels are news instead of Jerry Springer & court shows. Once my daughter started dancing to some bimbo on the tony danza show i said, "thats it I NEED a tv begone". I hope I get it before laundry day next week!
post #255 of 1527
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post #256 of 1527
Thread Starter 
to the thread Riotkrrn!

So, my sister (whose baby just turned 4 months) is leaning heavily toward TV free! I'm such a good influence. :LOL I'm going to head over to page two or three and find all the good info for her. She wants to read up. Just thought I'd let you guys know!
post #257 of 1527
So do most people here tend to ask people who take infrequent care of their children to not watch TV with them?

For example, when my ILs were in town last time they took dd to their hotel for her first sleepover (it went great, by the way!). In the am they sat and watched cartoons with her. they know that we don't let her watch TV at home, and they (I'm infering here) saw it as a special treat much in the way they feed her cookies and ice cream. It annoyed me, but since she doesn't see them often and while I wish they could come up with better special treats, I didn't want to say anything. I have lots of problems with they way they do all sorts of things and I work really hard to not interfere with their granparenting, just as I see them try pretyy well not to interfere with my parenting. I very carefully pick my battles with them. I see that they often try to make up in areas where they think we deptive dd. For example, they are sure to tell her every 15 minutes for the first couple of days they see her that she is so pretty and beautiful. I think that they know we don't tell dd that, so they think it is important to let her know that she is.

Do others bother to have the battle of please-don't-watch-TV-with-my-kid?

I don't know what I'll do when we go visit next. In the past we've just left it at she doesn't watch TV and that was that. But she older now, and I think she'll probably ask to watch something as the TV is on all the time there and dd is getting an idea that sometimes other things are on (DH watches football while he folds laundry, and dd always asks if they can watch auto racing instead ).

She's going to respond well if they end up turning on something that appeals to children (or auto racing!), and I fear they'll want to make TV something special that she gets to do when she visits them. How do others handle that?
post #258 of 1527
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post #259 of 1527
My kids are not 100% tv free. I don't mind if my kids watch (some!) at other's houses and we are going to plug it in for an hour next week to watch a Christmas video : I wanted to vent though and this is the place.

We visited my Grandma a few days ago. My sister and her dh were there. The tv was on and I would normally turn it off as I walked in but sis was watching it. We're all at the dining room table and you can see the tv right from there. Then the news story about the musician who was shot comes on and sis nicely turns it up so we can all hear including my 2 year old who's standing right in front of the screen staring at it That ends and she turns the volume down until The Simpsons comes on. Because dog forbid you miss the Simpsons right????

So by now my six year old is plastered to the tv (2 year old got bored and went to play at least).

BIL is sitting at the table staring at the screen like a zombie. My dad's girlfriend asked him to pass something to her. He looked around at her, blank look on his face, looked back at the tv, looked at her, back at the tv, all while stammering something like "uh? what? uh?". You know, like she was interrupting something SO IMPORTANT and he didn't want to be rude but come on, this is the SIMPSONS, doesn't the woman know to keep her mouth shut while he's doing something so meaningful as watching TV?

I can't help it. I was a snot. I commented (yes, out loud) "this is why we unplugged our tv". He didn't answer. He probably didn't hear since my voice didn't come out of the box.

(you know, I liked the Simpsons, I used to watch it, I'm not making this about a show, I'm talking about a plastic and glass box vs. REAL LIVE PEOPLE who are talking to you! SHEESH!)

We only stayed an hour (we got there late and it was almost bedtime) but I couldn't wait to leave to go home to where the tv is not blaring 24/7.
post #260 of 1527
I am trying to join this tribe. I would break the tv but dh is resistant. I have already influenced him a lot and we got rid of the digital cable with on-demand. We also moved the tv out of the family room and put it where there is no furniture. Now dh pulls the gilder out of the bedroom occasionally. But he is much better b/c he was on his way to being one of those guys who are trout-mouth all day in front of the tv. He is much better, but now I am antsy to get rid of it altogether. He watches the local news now (since we only have an antenna), which is worse than a lot of cable in some ways.

So how do you convince your partner to dump the tv altogether? (I never watch and neither does ds.)
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