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post #21 of 183
9/27/04 at 7:44pm

40 weeks 3 days

still here...inspired by all of you with Sept babies on the outside!!! hopefully soon!

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post #22 of 183
9/27/04 at 10:32pm
Jen..I was looking for something I had posted back in January (for the baby book) and I came across this post. You must have had a pregnancy premonition!!

POSTED BY JEN...JANUARY 19th:



unpleasant dream for hilarious reason

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Good morning,

I dreamt last night of my own son being born by c-section. I watched the dr cutting me open, and the baby being pulled out, looking quite angry about the whole thing. After that my dream progressed to him not wanting to nurse, just crying, squalling constantly. When I finally woke up from this nightmare, I found that my dear partner's breathing was whistle-y and sounded just like a baby crying!!!

Boy was I glad to wake up from THAT one!

Jen
post #23 of 183
9/27/04 at 11:04pm
Thread Starter 
Jo is walking Tristan up and down and singing Billy Joel. He wants to nurse, I feel as empty as ... as what? Something that's very empty.

Caroline, I can't believe what you found. I had totally forgotten about posting that. Sure seems to be pretty true to form. Sigh. I hit the wall about this time of night every night. I just want everything to be the way it used to be, to be able to get ready to go to bed and lie down next to my beloved and go to sleep. Then I remember that if I wanted it that way, I probably shouldn't have gone and gotten pregnant, huh?

I've also given in and started watching TV... more of it than I ever thought I would let myself.

This too shall pass... maybe even in a week? Who knows? We had such a good night's sleep (relatively) last night...
post #24 of 183
9/27/04 at 11:38pm
Jen...it will get easier. Trust me. I love TV now. I need something to do during the 20 hours of nursing!!

And of all people here...I think you can't ever say that you "accidently" got pregnant!! You planned this honey...more than most! Go look at that baby and come back and tell us you would rather have it be the way it was before! (well, look at him when he is sleeping, not screaming!).

For all you frustrated moms dealing with that sleep deprived anger..I will share a story I never told anyone...
I remember with my first, I was so stressed. He would wake up crying every night several times for TWO YEARS!! When he was about 18 months old, I had way too much stress in my life. Between him, work, no money, and a bad relationship, I was at the end of my rope. One night I had worked until about 11, came home and crashed. I knew I had to be up by 6, so I was very angry when he kept waking up. The anger was boiling...I really *felt* it inside. At about 4 am, when he was up screaming for the 100th time, I lost it. I grabbed him, and raised my arm to hit him.. Thankfully, before my hand reached him, I smacked my elbow on the edge of the bed and didn't actually make contact. The only thing that slowed the rage down was that awful funny bone pain. I looked down at him, and my heart just broke. Something was working for me that night. I guess I am trying to say that the anger does happen. But it does get better. The frustation can get so intense that you don't even feel like yourself. I think after you go through it, you can see why some parents do lose it....

Anyway, that was an extreme situation. It still happens sometimes that I feel that blood start to boil, with all of them. That is the ONLY time I have ever let a crying child cry on their own for a few minutes. Don't try to be super mom and shove all your feelings down in order to do what is supposed to be the "correct" response. If you need to leave the room for a minute to get yourself together, or just to go get yourself a drink of water so you can go back and care for the child with the love that you have, it is not the end of the world. I think if I had walked out of the room and let my son cry for a few minutes, I would never have raised a hand to him.

I have since learned that I don't have to be a super human to be a good mom. And truthfully, I haven't felt that rage in a long time. And not at all with Jackson, when I feel like I am close to getting angry, I let him sit in his swing for 5 minutes while I regroup. I am a better mom because I allow myself to be human.

Anyway, I am rambling. I just think it is important. And sometimes in the "AP" environment we are seeing a picture of the idealic angel baby that mama wears and nurses on demand, and mama is always supposed to be so happily giving of herslef at all times. Sometimes we do need to be a little selfish in order to be that mom the other 99% of the time...

Caroline
post #25 of 183
9/28/04 at 12:32am

checking in

Caroline, thank you for sharing that story... It is so hard to admit to being less than perfect! It is good to know that the rage is real and I'm not alone.

We are doing pretty well here. My mom left on Saturday and things are different. Some good, some not so good. The kitchen is now a disaster and laundry doesn't seem to ever get folded, but it is getting washed! Mielle and I seem to be enjoying our days alone together, but the evenings continue to be rough. Oh well, it will all work out eventually.

My breast rash is awful!!! I have terrible itchy burning red spots on the sides of my breasts, nothing seems to help! We are currently treating thrush symtoms with gentian violet, Mielle is responding well, her diaper rash is clearing up and her mouth is MUCH less white and cottage cheesey. But My breasts continue to ache I think i still have clogged duct despite weird nursing positions, heat and massage. I'm afraid to take antibiotics, won't that set the thrush off even worse??? Wishing this would just get better!!!

There are so many things i would like to respond to, reading about everyone's concerns and joys is so wonderful, i miss you guys and am so grateful to have this resource to turn to!

Good night and take care!
post #26 of 183
9/28/04 at 1:20am
Thanks to everyone for the encouragement on the "welcome baby party" dilemma! I've talked it over with DH some more and we've decided to host a party ourselves. I think we're going to use a pic of the boys feet and make an invite that says something like, "Our home has grown - by two feet! Come see our newest addition." I want the point to be that they can come and see Iain, and I think that will work well enough. Oh, I think we'll do it in 3 weeks - some friends will be gone, but it works for us and he'll be just 6 weeks old.

I keep trying to get housework done... I'd say I was getting some done, except my house is still a wreck! Uh-oh - someone came to the door and now it's been several hours. They brought dinner (yay!) and didn't stay long, but my peace and solitude got disrupted. :LOL Like there's really any peace and solitude these days!

Anyhow, sometimes I get lots done on the house, or laundry, or something... then, it all gets trashed again - or the laundry sits in the dining room waiting to be put away - or Gabriel drags out ALL of his toys at once - you know how it goes! Trying to get back to "normal" and do things out of the house makes it especially hard. And naps? Pretty much unheard of around here. I'm finding when I do get Gabriel to nap (and then I can, too) he doesn't go to bed nearly as well as when he's falling-down tired.

Nighttime dipes - What has worked well for us is Small FuzziBunz (during the day he wears XS) with two stuffers. This can last all night long and then some (fully 12 hours, depending on stuffing), and doesn't leak for Iain - though I have it on the tightest leg snaps and overlapped on the waist!

We're back to painful nursing once again. My LC friend had suggested the TTO/olive oil mixture to moisturize while fighting bad stuff. Does anyone know the best ratio? I just made a mix with 2tbs olive oil and 4-5 drops TTO. Sure smells strong, but I dunno if that was what she said or not. I'm hoping this will help. I've been working on latch with him for what seems like forever. Sometimes he's fine, sometimes he just doesn't do it. He's also been a bit more fussy lately, so he's pulling more while nursing - OUCH! I can't feel too badly, though, knowing what a rough time Anna and some others are having!

I don't know that I ever posted congrats to Jen and the others with new babies in the last few days. Many congrats to all! I know I'll miss some if I try to remember everyone.

Jen, I was very sorry to hear of your c/s - I've been there! Long, drawn out labor, eventual c-section with no clear alternatives. I am glad that you are at peace with the decision now. How is your recovery going? Do take it easy! I think that was the hardest thing for me - wanting to push to do too much too fast. Are you familiar with ICAN? I found their mailing list very helpful when I had questions about my c/s and was trying to work through some issues stemming from it. You can find their site at http://www.ican-online.org/ And totally unrelated - so have you bought up the whole Gymboree hedgehog line? I was in there a few days ago and thought of you - I nearly bought some for Iain, but want to wait for the prices to drop. Anyhow, a warm welcome to Tristan!

Okay, now I have two boys on my lap, with one screaming... better go...
post #27 of 183
9/28/04 at 7:44am
Quote:
Originally Posted by Caroline248
"Nap"?? What is that?? And "break"?? I don't know these strange words that you speak...

It is so different...the new moms are having such a nice long recovery period...time to focus only on the fact that they gave birth and they have this new baby to adjust to.

Us not so new moms...have you had this? I had about a week or so, then it was back to business as usual. I have been back to the routine now for so long I don't even feel like I have newborn. Maybe that is why I am so crabby...and why I keep starting to bleed all over again after a month....I have to do the laundry, the cleaning, the food shopping, and take care of the other kids and get them moving..the only difference is now I have to bring four kids with me instead of three....

How are you all managing to get the rest and recovery you need while still being a mom to more than one??

Caroline
Sister, I SO feel ya! My mom is here this week, so that's my saving grace!
post #28 of 183
9/28/04 at 9:54am
Quote:
Originally Posted by HeatherB
Nighttime dipes - What has worked well for us is Small FuzziBunz (during the day he wears XS) with two stuffers. This can last all night long and then some (fully 12 hours, depending on stuffing), and doesn't leak for Iain - though I have it on the tightest leg snaps and overlapped on the waist!
I've done this for the past two nights, and it's worked very well! The first night, I changed him after 5 hours of uninterupted sleep, and last night, it was 6 hours. Is his sleeping for 5-6 hours at night normal for a bf'd newborn? DS1 never slept longer than an hour at a time with me or 20 minutes without me for the first six months, so this is the complete opposite.

DH is 100% back to his school routine, and tonight is his late night. He left at 7:30 this morning and won't be home from school until 9 tonight. This is going to make for a long day. I just realized how badly we need to go to the grocery store too, and I can't even attempt that since dh has the car.

Need to find something to eat for breakfast.

Pam
post #29 of 183
9/28/04 at 11:05am
Pam, don't you hate those long days? My DH works 12 hour shifts, so when he is gone, he is really gone. I have to get to the grocery store too, but it is pouring rain.

Did I ever mention I babysit a little girl as well? Anyway, she is here in the morning then goes to school with my daughter and I get then off the bus in the afternoon sometimes, other times her mom gets them both. So that eliminates my shopping this morning for that reason as well. Oh well, I don't guess we will starve to death.

Sorry to all of you that had your moms leave..I cried the day my mom left!

Leigh...how is Anna? ANy news?

Caroline
post #30 of 183
9/28/04 at 3:21pm

2 Days old

He’s here…

Aidan James Hunter AKA Radish

Born: September 26th at 11:30am
Weight: 8 Pounds 12 Ounces
Length: 20 2/3 inches long

Currently… attached to the "Boobage". :LOL :LOL Looks like I've got another comfort nurser... hopefully my milk will come in soon! Will try to post pics later.
post #31 of 183
9/28/04 at 3:38pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by mum2tori
He’s here…

Aidan James Hunter AKA Radish

Born: September 26th at 11:30am
Weight: 8 Pounds 12 Ounces
Woohoo, Samantha!! Welcome, Aidan! You guys picked a great name! Can't wait for the full story and pics!
post #32 of 183
9/28/04 at 3:43pm
Congratulations Samantha, welcome Aiden!!! :
post #33 of 183
9/28/04 at 4:17pm
Welcome Angus and Aiden!

Wheeeeeee!!!!!!

Happy labor vibes to all in waiting!

Jen-
Sounds like the milk fairy has arrived finally?

Here's Finn today....I LOVE this shirt!
http://share.shutterfly.com/osi.jsp?i=EeBt3LRuxbMT2

He is now sleeping at night from about 11pm until 5am!!!! For the past week or so.
It's like heaven!
Then he's usually awake until 6 or 6:30, but goes back down until 8 or so.
I think maybe that's one benefit of a formula fed baby? They sleep for longer stretches sooner? Someone correct me if I'm wrong.
Trust me, though, I'd rather be nursing.
I do grieve it still.
Sigh.

Washing dipes today....anyone else LOVE diaper laundry?
I am really enjoying cloth so far, even the laundry! I love snapping all the little fitteds together and matching up the doublers to the right dipes! Sick, I know.
I also washed my wool covers, and they are hanging outside in the pure blue sunny sky and 62 degree weather as we speak. I love that you don't have to wash the wool all the time unless it's poopy. Surprisingly it never stinks like pee in the meantime!
I can't believe Finn is 5 weeks old today!
post #34 of 183
9/28/04 at 4:21pm
I forgot to mention my new sling, which I love! It's a Kangaroo Korner adjustable fleece pouch.
I wore Finn while out shopping this weekend, and people were freaking over it!
We got responses from "Oh my gosh, that is SO NEAT!" to "Do you have a dog or something in there?"

I think it's easier to use with a newborn than a Maya Wrap is.
I do like the Maya Wrap when the baby is older.
post #35 of 183
9/28/04 at 4:56pm
Thread Starter 
Well, the milk fairy kind of came, I'm not goin' a gusher or anything... t has been sated and we have not had to supplement but he has lost a little weight. the dr (saw today) does not seem concerned but wants to check his weight on thur. he still is not pooping much but she isn't worried because he's not blocked up or anything. just another case of "you're doing everything right..."

t broke out into a lovely rash today, dr says it's just hormones.

is being concerned about EVERYTHING just a condition of new motherhood?

caroline you are of course absolutely right, I would not wish my little fella back for a moment. That 9:30 - 10:30 hour is just a bad one for me.

We had a great night last night - we are both getting the hang of nursing lying down. I did not have to get up with him until 6 AM! That was the point where he needed to burp... and burp... and burp.

Danielle haven't these days been gorgeous?!!!

Congrats Samantha and welcome Aidan!

Have to eat my lunch.

xo, j
post #36 of 183
9/28/04 at 5:15pm
Congratulations Samantha!!!! Welcome Aiden!
post #37 of 183
9/28/04 at 7:19pm
Welcome Aiden! Congratulations Samantha!

To those waiting... only a few more days now!

Oz farts a hello to you all.

Feeling better today. Rhoids only hurt for BMs. Dh came home with a better attitude. Ahhh, sigh and smile.
post #38 of 183
9/28/04 at 9:07pm

40 weeks 6 days

Congratulations Samantha! Welcome Aiden! Cant wait to hear more about the birth and baby & see lots of pictures!
post #39 of 183
9/28/04 at 9:45pm
Thread Starter 
More pictures of Tristan than anyone should really want to see:

Tristan's web page

One of Tristan and his friend Oscar on p 2!
post #40 of 183
9/28/04 at 10:19pm

Happy Due Date to me!

Yay! Welcome Aiden!! I can't wait to see and hear more Samantha.

Jen, thanks for all the pics of your beautiful boy!
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