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post #41 of 53
9/29/04 at 12:05pm
you bet she would be gone as a babysitter...if she puts my child in danger in the car, I would be to nervous to think what she does while I am not around.
post #42 of 53
9/29/04 at 6:18pm
I know this has been said by others, but I just had to put in my 2 cents -- my biggest issue would be the deception. My mil is very similar -- she has been sneaky on too many occassions for me to feel safe with ds in her care for too long. In fact, I have done everything to avoid a situation where she would drive him because I know this very issue could come up. I am sorry I don't have any solid advice, but if possible, maybe finding someone else to care for your dc is a good idea.
post #43 of 53
9/29/04 at 8:06pm
I've never even given my MIL a chance to have a car seat in her car. Once she wanted to buy a 2nd hand seat and I vetoed that - I don't trust seats if I don't know who it came from. Then I also had the child safety people take over 1 hour to install my seat in my car. I don't trust that she has the expertise, strength or flexibility to do that. I just say it's too hard and takes too long to change the car seat. I'd never forgive myself if I had an accident and the seat failed cause it wasn't installed properly.

Can't you swap cars with your MIL instead of changing out the car seat?
post #44 of 53
9/29/04 at 10:59pm
Thread Starter 
I appreciate everyone's input. MIL wil no longer watchng my daughter and DH is teliing her. A few asked why I don't switch cars the answer is: because she would never drive my messy car while hers is prisitne. Also b/c of the deception I do not feel comfortable having DD in her care at all. If it were just that she was unable to install it then the suggestion might work but b/c she is sneaking and hiding then I can not let my DD in her unsafe care. AS amny have said, "what else might she hide?"
Thanks again!!
post #45 of 53
9/30/04 at 12:56am
post #46 of 53
9/30/04 at 1:34am
Q.what is the dif between a mil and a vulture?

A.the vulture waits till you are dead to rip your heart out.

very happy you are taking this step now instead of letting things go on
post #47 of 53
9/30/04 at 11:53am
be strong mama.. and I'm proud of you
post #48 of 53
9/30/04 at 3:41pm
Congratulations! I admire your ability to stay strong with your mil (something I am still learning to do ).

post #49 of 53
9/30/04 at 3:56pm
You are lucky she even tried! My MIL couldn't get the carseat in her camero, so she had ds age 3 sit in the front passanger seat with only the adult seat belt on his lap and the shoulder strap behind his head!!!!
I was livid!!!! to say the least.
I told her that she was not to drive my children anywhere without a properly installed carseat. My dh or I would install the carseat for her if she wanted to take our children anywhere. Additionally, I told her the fine in VA is $50 and I wasn't going to pay it on her behalf.
But then again what should I expect from my dh deadbeat step dad and mom who live in our basement b/c they can't afford to pay rent! And don't get me started on their inability to take responsibility for themselves still acting like teenagers driving around in sports cars! Step dad lost license.
Sorry off topic rant.... I have to get it out every once in a while or I'll go crazy.
post #50 of 53
10/1/04 at 2:36pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by hipumpkins
I appreciate everyone's input. MIL wil no longer watchng my daughter and DH is teliing her. A few asked why I don't switch cars the answer is: because she would never drive my messy car while hers is prisitne. Also b/c of the deception I do not feel comfortable having DD in her care at all. If it were just that she was unable to install it then the suggestion might work but b/c she is sneaking and hiding then I can not let my DD in her unsafe care. AS amny have said, "what else might she hide?"
Thanks again!!
I think that is the best choice.
post #51 of 53
10/2/04 at 2:57am


Way to go, mama! I think that you made the right decision!
post #52 of 53
10/2/04 at 9:00pm
I didn't read all the posts, but I agree with what everyone has said. This would be a deal breaker with me, I would let my MIL (or anyone who drives my child around) that it's either done correctly or you don't do it at all. I'd much rather someone be mad at me knowing that I was looking out for my child's safety, than me be mad at someone and myself for not speaking up and having a dead or seriously injured child over something that could have been avoided.

Also, if you are still looking for an online video about car seats and child passenger safety here's one I recommend.

http://www.chop.edu/consumer/jsp/div...c.jsp?id=76207
post #53 of 53
10/3/04 at 9:31pm
I didn't read all of the posts but I agree with your decision and applaud you and your DH for it. The safety of your child must come first - feelings will be hurt but that's much better than the possible alternatives.
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