Mommadance- Hmm lets see...it's funny, I have told my story before but now that I am asked I don't know what to say :LOL
I pretty much have to start at the begining so bear with me as I tell the whole story. My water broke at 12:30 am, and about 15 mins later I experience what I guess was my first contraction...it was just a tingling sensation across my back that felt like little stars (that's how I described it at the time, don't know if it will make sense to anyone :LOL, basically it felt like someone taking thier fingers and dancing them across my back in a straight line basically at the small of my back) then another 15 mins later. It wasn't until about 3 am that my contractions really started in the front and were about 7 mins apart from the getgo. About 5 am I had a shower, and then went to bed 6 am they were 2 or 3 mins apart, I was so relaxed inbetween them (it just came naturally, I really don't know why...sorry I have no secret to share besides not being fearful) and I actually thought I was dozing for an hour, I knew I had 5 contractions but it was Dh that was like "ummm...you've had 5 contractions in 15 mins (I was getting him to apply counter pressure to my back with them b/c it felt good) maybe we should go to the hospital" :LOL
On the way to the hospital I was chatty and laughingly telling DH and MIL that I hoped they didn't send us home, because I wasn't in pain. There were actually 2 nurses outside my door and one was saying I wasn't in labour, the other was saying "oh yes she is, just look at her printout". When I had my first internal at about 8 am, an hour after arriving at the hosptital I was 5 cm...and so I thought cool and asked the nurses "so if this is Ok, will I be able to do it all without drugs" and they were like "hell yeah, you'll be fine" Encouragement is nice
I really don't know if I could describe my contx. I would stop talking while I had one, well actually first I'd announce that I was having one, then I'd breathe pretty much the same way I do when I have a BH, deep inhales, and go back to having my conversation. They were intense, if I tried to walk and one hit me I would be completely immobolized- but they were in no way painful, not so much as to even be something I'd reach for Tylenol for. While I was stuck against someone I'd laugh at the fact that I couldn't move. There was one point in my labor where I was told to lie on my left side to try to get Ember to turn and I didn't like that much, the contractions felt worse like that, gross is how I'd describe them...and I'd be like "argh, I don't like this". Even though I wasn't in pain I had the what I assume are normal thoughts going through my mind, especially during transition, such as " I don't know if I like this...not sure if I want to do this again someday", etc.Delivery wasn't so smooth as my labor had been, Ember was stuck high in my pelvis and it didn't feel like anything was happening, I felt like I was pushing against a brick wall and told the Dr. I thought she was stuck, she said we'll push for another hour and see what happens, then brought in an OB/GYN who got called away for an emergency c/s and took another hour to get back...so in the end I ended up pushing for 4 hrs. and they used the vacuum for 2 contractions to bring her down. The use of the vac, felt so gross and unnatural...well because it is, so I was uncomfortlbe during that. The most painful part of the experience was being stitched up, then I was complaining to my Dr. and she probably thought I was
because I hadn't complained during the labor and now I was telling her this hurt. Ember came out with her right arm across her chest and holding the umbilical cord over her right shoulder(which is why she took so long to decend)...and room gasped and I heard someone say "and she still didn't take any drugs!!". So now this is what I thought going into it, and there is really no way to know if I was just plain lucky or if this had something to do with it (other people have said they thought the same and it didn't work for them, but did they really believe it to thier core? I can't tell you)...but it can't hurt to share with you. When I would ask my mom about her labors and what contractions felt like as a teenager, I was always full of these questions...she said flex your arm...so I did...and she was like "did that hurt" of course I was like "No"
, what's the big deal right? and she was like "well that's your muscle contracting"....so that's what I thought of it, muscles contract, that's their job but it doesn't have to hurt. I also spent time reading about labor being an autonomous process, just like digestion, breathing and your heart pumping...your body just digests your food without you getting involved and saying OK body, I just ate some corn, make sure you don't miss that kernel...and we all know if you eat something and then think that "maybe that's not going to agree with me" you can bung things up that probably wouldn't have bothered you otherwise, right? Like you eat some yogurt and feel fine, then you notice the best before date was a week ago and all of a sudden you don't feel so hot. So that's what I thought about labor...my mantra was basically my body knows what it needs to do, not my brain, so stay out of it :LOL The interesting thing is when I took my doula training course the instructor had had 4 painfree births and was telling us about crying in transition of her last and having the nurse try to comfort her thinking she was in pain to which she responded "no, I am crying because I am never going to do this again, it's my last baby" and made the nurse start crying. When I told her the story about my mom and the muscle thing she was floored because that was exactly what she thought too and in all her years of being a doula and childbirth educator I was the only one who had ever said the same thing (and here I was a 23 year-old). So who knows, maybe I'd have had the same experience anyway, it could just be in my genes...or maybe this time will be completely different, time will tell I guess
My sister wanted to go for coffee with me while she was having contractions at 10:30 in the morning and my niece was born at 11:44 :LOL I like to remind her being the big sister that I am that she had no right to complain as a) she wanted to go for coffee an hour before hand so she obviously wasn't suffering then and b) she only had to push 3 times!! I hope I have her luck this time.
Ok, this must be my longest post ever, too long for me to proof read, so if you've made it this far Thanks...and I hope that if you aren't interested you don't feel like I've hogged the whole thread:LOL