Glad my post reduced your anxiety! Here's my two cents on the tv: I had a pretty privileged upbringing. I don't mean we had a lot of material trappings - we didn't. Our house was shabby and our clothes were basic, but my parents chose to spend their money on private school educations for us, skiing in the winter, funky summer camps, museums, amd lots of travel.
All that has made an impact on who I am today, but the most important thing my parents did for us kids was to raise us without a tv in the house. I cannot overstate how crucial this has been in my development as a person and as a passionate reader. We were surrounded by books everywhere, read to every day, hung out in each other's rooms just reading. Without the distraction of tv, our imaginations were free to roam. The no-tv decision was made before my parents even thought about Waldorf school for us - they were just rebels, I guess. I went through a period of really wanting one, but as an adult, I don't own one, and I wouldn't raise my kids any other way. Throw it out! The earlier you do it, the better for your dd - and you, too.
It's great if you find a school whose philosophy you love and can send your kid there, but imo, not having a tv at home will do more for your kid than anything that goes on at school.
Re wanting to be hip and wholesome - I don't know about the waldorf "dress code" though I can imagine what you mean, but I don't think anyone should make you feel like you "have to" dress a certain way to fit in. If you're comfy in your Nikes and levis, who the heck cares? (I do agree with the whole not wearing clothes with logos thing, though. I refuse to be a walking advertisement, and I despise cartoon characters).
Feel free to pm me if you'd like information about our preschool or would like to hang out sometime.