You know, you really ought to link the new thread to the old one when you start it. That way everyone who's on the old thread is notified that there's a new one.. unless you were just trying to avoid me?
I know this makes me different from everyone else, but my c/s (3 months ago) was a much much easier experience than my vaginal delivery (2 years ago). My son's birth was so difficult for me in so many ways, and the cesarean, while it was totally surreal, was much much easier. I had a shorter recovery time, much much less pain before during and after.. overall, it was an amazing and liberating experience for me. I always said that I think my son should have been a cesarean birth, and got a lot of comments about how much more difficult a c-section is. I guess it's true that you can't make that call beforehand, but now that I've had a c-section I know that I was right all along.
As far as the next baby-- assuming that the problems with BooBah's kidneys are not genetic (and it's not terribly likely that they are) we will probably begin TTC #3 when BooBah is around 20 months old. Birth-wise, I am hoping for an "unplanned" unassisted birth. It's not because I'm angry about the hospital or the doctors or anything like that; I plan to have the same OB care I had with BooBah, and to go to the hospital after the baby is born just as I would if it was truly an accidental homebirth. The thing is, I missed some experiences with both my son and my daughter that I've always wanted to have. I've never smelled vernix, or been the first person to touch my brand new baby and look into their eyes. I've never been the first person to kiss or hold my baby, I've never seen an umbilical cord or placenta in real life, and I want those things. I decided that it's not fair, I should get to be the first person to touch/see/talk to my baby, and dammit, I'm going to next time.
That's all. I just want to be the first.
It's fairly ironic that it took a c-section to make me realize that birth can, in fact, be painless. I know that the experience will be different, but I'm looking forward to it none the less. My husband is nervous about it, because he remembers my screams during my son's birth as, well, the most terrible experience of his life. (I have very little memory of it; I blacked out from the pain
) I'm confident that things will be different this time, because quite frankly I refuse to labor for that long again (4.5 days, counting not from the first really painful contraction but from when my water broke. The first really painful, stop-and-breathe contraction which began a definate, strong labor pattern came some two or three months before he was born.
). Still, I think I can manage a UC, and I'm determined to be the first person to touch my baby so that's what I'm planning for the moment.