I KNOW that this is not a good thing to do but so help me it's working and I need you to tell me why I need to stop doing this.
It all started last Friday night when we had gone to bed and dd she kept kicking (she sleeps between me and dh). Laying flat on her back and kicking her feet. After we had both been kicked several times (she was not intentionally kicking us) I told her that I wanted her to stop kicking, that it was hurting us and that if she wanted to kick I would take her to her bed (toddler bed in room directly across from ours). Long story - short. I took her to her bed and layed her down and explained that she could come get in bed with us if she decided to stop kicking. She stayed in her bed for about 3 whole seconds and came back to bed with us. The kicking started again and we repeated the same as above. This time when she came back to the bed I asked her if she understood that she could not kick anymore, she said yes and we all fell asleep.
The next afternoon when we layed down to nurse on the bed for her nap she said, "Kicking. No" and we talked about the sequences the night before and she hasn't kicked since.
A few days later she started hitting me when she was not getting her way and I would take her to her room and tell her that we don't hit. That I don't hit you and you don't hit me. That I thougth she should go look at books in her room until she felt like not hitting. I would find her a book and tell her to come back out whe she felt like not hitting mommy.
Now, when she hits me I have started asking her if she wants to go to her room. ( Not in a threating way - or in anger) She says no and stops hitting.
I feel that is working but my gut tells me that it is not the way to handle these issues.
Please tell me why this is not GD cause it just doesn't feel right to me.
I feel very fortunate to be able to come here and learn from you all.
It all started last Friday night when we had gone to bed and dd she kept kicking (she sleeps between me and dh). Laying flat on her back and kicking her feet. After we had both been kicked several times (she was not intentionally kicking us) I told her that I wanted her to stop kicking, that it was hurting us and that if she wanted to kick I would take her to her bed (toddler bed in room directly across from ours). Long story - short. I took her to her bed and layed her down and explained that she could come get in bed with us if she decided to stop kicking. She stayed in her bed for about 3 whole seconds and came back to bed with us. The kicking started again and we repeated the same as above. This time when she came back to the bed I asked her if she understood that she could not kick anymore, she said yes and we all fell asleep.
The next afternoon when we layed down to nurse on the bed for her nap she said, "Kicking. No" and we talked about the sequences the night before and she hasn't kicked since.
A few days later she started hitting me when she was not getting her way and I would take her to her room and tell her that we don't hit. That I don't hit you and you don't hit me. That I thougth she should go look at books in her room until she felt like not hitting. I would find her a book and tell her to come back out whe she felt like not hitting mommy.
Now, when she hits me I have started asking her if she wants to go to her room. ( Not in a threating way - or in anger) She says no and stops hitting.
I feel that is working but my gut tells me that it is not the way to handle these issues.
Please tell me why this is not GD cause it just doesn't feel right to me.
I feel very fortunate to be able to come here and learn from you all.
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