I have deep, deep ethical concerns about a parent deciding this for their child. Hello! it is a minor surgical procedure
done for purely cosmetic reasons
. Unlike circ (which I also oppose) there are not even any specious medical "reasons" to be used as excuses.
I have a handful of piercings myself. I plan on increasing that number. My 5-yo ds wants to be pierced and he will, after he hits puberty, by a reputable piercer who has served an apprenticeship, and using proper, sterile instruments not one of those gawdawful guns.
Despite what many piercing shops would like you to think, it's not *always* a case of earrings in, presto, done. Sometimes there are complications that produce not only pain and suffering but permanent body alteration much more noticeable than a small hole.
Do you know what hypertrophic scarring is? Keloids? What if your dd's lobes had violently reacted to the studs? What if the piercer had f*cked up (those twits in the mall only have about 2 weeks training)? What if your daughter's lobes had *rejected* the studs, possibly leaving her with permanently "forked" lobes, or slit-like holes in them? What if she had turned out to be one of the individuals whose piercings, for some indiscernible reason, become persistently infected when pierced?
You can't simply say, well, it turned out OK so my choice was fine, because there was no guarantee that it WOULD turn out fine, and it sounds like you (along with most people I know of who have had this done to their babies
) did not do any research or really inform yourself of the risks. If you want to have minor cosmetic surgery without informing yourself of the possible risks, that's your business, but people owe their children more responsibility.
I agree, what the heck is wrong with clip-ons or stickers from the dollar store?
Just because a child is "yours" doesn't mean that it's OK to alter their body without their consent, and even if they're old enough to ask for it, the adult is supposed to be the one who comprehends & weighs the risks.