Mothering › Forums › Natural Family Living › Grief and Loss › My Mom Died on Friday
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

My Mom Died on Friday - Page 2  

post #21 of 37
10/17/04 at 5:31am


So sad with you ... wishing you comfort and healing ... and thanking you for posting what you read at the service ...

post #22 of 37
10/17/04 at 9:32am
Lisa,

I'm all teary now reading your words dear friend

Though the miles between us are great and I've never met your mother - she's tought me a great deal. She tought me what unconditional love means. She tought me to follow my heart and instincts while raising my children. When you've talked about your mother, you've given me the confidence to be the mother I always dreamed of.

I thank you Lisa and your dear mother for these gifts and your freindship. I hope you know what a special person you are.

I'm so very, very sorry your mother is not here with you anymore. Please hold your family tight, cry untill you have no more tears and know that we're all here to hold you up as you travel through this grief.

With love and friendship,

Jacque
post #23 of 37
10/17/04 at 10:54pm
I'm so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful light she was -your words about her are bringing me to tears. Thank you for sharing your love of her and your grief.
post #24 of 37
10/19/04 at 11:30am
Oh mama, I am so sorry.

You are in my thoughts.

post #25 of 37
10/20/04 at 9:16am
Just wanted you to know that you have been, and will continue to be in my thoughts.

Joyce in the mts.
post #26 of 37
10/20/04 at 11:19pm

I am so so sorry

Lisamarie, I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your mom. I know her suffering is over and that, in itself, brings some measure of relief and consolation but.... it's still so hard, nonetheless. Please accept my sincerest condolences.

~WomynTruth
post #27 of 37
10/20/04 at 11:44pm
Lisa-
My thoughts are with you during this time. Your mom sounds like such a special lady.
post #28 of 37
10/24/04 at 12:14am
post #29 of 37
11/10/04 at 10:29pm
Lisa, how are you doing? Thinking of you.
post #30 of 37
11/11/04 at 1:42pm
Thread Starter 
Thanks for asking Ms. Mom.

On Sunday, it was All Saints Day at church and they were honoring congregation members who had passed on by lighting a candle. It was the first time that my family and I had been to church since her memorial. I pictured her sitting in her usual spot (which is where we sat). My Dad and I were in tears most of the service. During the lighting of the candles and naming of loved ones, my brother and I light one in honor of Mom. Then they did a dance to the song from the movie "Troy" called "Remember". It is a sad, but moving song by Josh Groban.

On Monday it was the 1 mo. anniversery of her passing. Sadly, it was also my dear Dad's 70th Birthday. Amber and I went out to the cemetary and placed some flowers. But, even though I see her name in print there at the cemetary, its still NOT REAL. WHY is that? Am I in denial? Maybe I'm not fully grieving yet because I am so busy with the kids? How do you make time to grieve?

Tonight though, I'm taking Dane, my Dad and brother to something called "Grief and the Holidays". Its through hospice and the grief and loss group that Dane had gone through will be there for the kids to do activities.

I'm still tired and we are still dealing with alot of paperwork issues. Besides going through her clothes, jewlery, etc. I have her wedding dress, but what to do with it? Any ideas? We are going to have a friend make a lap quilt for each of us out of her clothes. I'm also going to make a shadowbox and put a baby dress, bonnet, a lock of her hair and picture of her in it.

I appreciate all of your kind words and guidance. I am just so tired and the holidays are really going to be tough this year. She loved Christmas and shopping for the kids. I just can't believe she's truly gone

Warmly~

Lisa
post #31 of 37
11/12/04 at 8:47am
Funny how we know so much about the grieving process, but we're still shocked when we're the ones going through it.

It sounds like your body is on auto-pilot right now. It knows there are general things that you must do, so it's allowing you the space to do that.

Remember that grief is patient, it waits for you and when you're ready to start processing things, it will happen.

It's very important that you take some time out for you. A warm lavendar bath, a quiet time to read, a drive in the park without the kids. These are the times you really get to reflect and the tears just come and wash over you.

Make sure you're taking good care of yourself and eating healthy meals and drinking pleanty of water.

NM, I think of you too often, please remember it hasn't yet been a year since Jorden's death, grief does take time. Be gentle on yourself and know that people here care and are here to listen

Lisa, is the dress packed away professionally? If not, you may want to have it cleaned and packed. There are dry cleaners that will do that for you. Maybe dd will want to use part of it for her wedding dress - or ds use a piece for a christening robe for his children? Either way, It's a nice thing to hang on to.

Thinking of you.
post #32 of 37
11/12/04 at 4:41pm
Thread Starter 
NM & Ms. Mom, thanks ((((HUGS)))). The "Grief and the Holidays" seminar was good. It was so hard for my Dad, but he is glad that he went. It was also good for me, even though alot of what they talked about, I had heard before at Bridges, but I got to "make some time" for my grief.

Sadly, this morning my Dad called me early and said that my Grandmother (his 90 yr. old Mom) isn't well and he was going over to meet w/his sister so that they can put her in a nursing home. She is dealing w/her 4th bout w/cancer and its terminal (its in her lungs and lumbar spine). I feel SO, SO sorry for my Dad. Loosing both his wife and mom at the same time. I called Hospice today for my Grandma and my Dad and Aunt are going to talk w/her about it.

But, I did have a dream about my Mom last night. I was in my parents living room talking w/my Dad and my Mom appeared. My Dad couldn't see her and I FELT SO MUCH LOVE!!!!!! I was SO excited to see her and I asked her if her parents had met her (after she had died). She said YES. I really want to believe in my heart that it was her. It felt like her.

Has anyone had dreams like that?

Warmly~

Lisa
post #33 of 37
11/12/04 at 4:49pm
Yes I have dreamed like that about my loved ones who've gone on, and yes it is them.

Never doubt it.

Joyce in the mts.
post #34 of 37
11/12/04 at 5:13pm
Lisa
post #35 of 37
11/13/04 at 10:39am
Lisa, I'm so sorry about your grandmother - you've been dealing with her illness a long time as well I wish I lived closer and could help you out.

Yes, my grandmother died when I was a teen and I STILL have VERY vivid dreams about her. I can hear her shrill Czech voice giving me life lessons. She always wanted the best for me and I feel she's here with me now guiding me in many ways.

Your mother knew you needed to feel her love Lisa, she is and will forever be a part of you.
post #36 of 37
11/15/04 at 9:16pm
I'm so, so sorry for your loss.
post #37 of 37
11/16/04 at 1:16pm
Lisa, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please know I will keep your family in my thoughts!!
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Grief and Loss
This thread is locked  
Mothering › Forums › Natural Family Living › Grief and Loss › My Mom Died on Friday