Please help!

[ilovemybabe]

Hi,

my child is unvaxed. my pediatrician is supportive. i plan to homeschool. my abusive x may try to use unvaxed to make me look like a bad parent, even though it hurts the child.

how do I cover myself? NH has med and rel exemptions. do i need to file an exemption asap with the health department, or do i wait until/if i am confronted about it by the court?

does anyone know any scriptural quotes to help with a religious exemption?

anyone with experience of an opposing x and how to win in court for unvaxed?

thanks, mums. this is producing some anxiety....

[suebearsmom]

Sent a prayer up for you that you & your child will be protected during this time.Hugs,Catherine

[Mamm2]

Here is a website that will help you with filing an exemption:

http://www.vaclib.org/pdf/exemption.htm

Legal matters:

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...=child+custody

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...=child+custody

This has been discussed before, pls do a search in the entire forum and vaccine forum. The above is just a quick search. I hope it helps.

I would file an exemption. I am sure some old timers may stop by with better advice.

[Mamm2]

I forgot to add, you don't need to belong to an organized religion. It can be a personal belief. You don't have to worry about quoting scripture, etc.

Again do a search!!

[Gale Force]

Is your ex active enough in your life to know of your decision? If not, the first strategy would obviously be to tell NO ONE and not enter into a discussion. Don't lie, but most folks will just assume you vax.

[ilovemybabe]

thank you

thank you for your prayer, Catherine.
Gale Force, he knows. We made the decision together pre-separation, separation was at 22 months for our child.

I may have to prove it to the court though....

maybe not if I already filed and recieved exemption?

I will look at your links, thank you mamm2

[kdtwiss]

My prayers lso.

Just so you know, an exemption is not a physical piece of paper or document you get in the mail or anything. God knows I waited for mine for years before I knew that. You simply HAVE an exemption if you have fullfilled the legal requirements of your state. This is usually done when entering school as far as I know. Your best bet is to keep a good record of your doctor's appointments etc. Noone can force you to vaccinate your child! Good luck!

[ilovemybabe]

what I did

http://www.909shot.com/state-site/NewHampshire.htm

found this here
called the health dept and they are mailing me a form to make my religious exemption for immunizations

they said the pediatricians would have these forms, but mine is out of state, anyway, so she's sending it.

Hope it is the right form! there are forms for schools, daycare, but I couldn't find one on line for a plain one, just to do to cover myself.

The state requires me to sign a notarized form stating my reasons for not immunizing, so that is what I'll do!

[Gale Force]

Originally Posted by ilovemybabe

We made the decision together pre-separation, separation was at 22 months for our child.

I may have to prove it to the court though....

Do you have any witnesses?

And did he really support the decision or was he just going along with you? If he was supportive don't you think he would be less likely to make this an issue?

But I would definitely create a trail of your medical visits and such just in case. If the child is seeing a doc regularly, your ex will have less of a case to make that you are neglecting the child.

[ilovemybabe]

Do you have any witnesses?

No, I don't think so. My mother was against our decision,does she count?

And did he really support the decision or was he just going along with you? If he was supportive don't you think he would be less likely to make this an issue?

I don't know, he's an addict and a liar, so who knows?

But I would definitely create a trail of your medical visits and such just in case. If the child is seeing a doc regularly, your ex will have less of a case to make that you are neglecting the child.

I have regular medical visits, and am currently taking him to a series of medical visits to determine what his undescended testicle is about and what I may have to do about it. So he can't say there is neglect, there, either. I am praying the doctor won't be recommending surgery.

[ilovemybabe]

thanks kdtwiss, I was wondering about that today. I wonder if I need to copy the form before I send it back so I have a record of it to show that I did it. Or would the GAL or judge or someone be able to look it up easily, I wonder?

mamm2, one of those links was about a mother who had a psych eval and was told she was losing custody because of not vaxing, the last post was in Feb, what ever happened with her case?

[kdtwiss]

Hi, if your state has a form for you to fill out and notarize, I would get at least 2 notarized. ONe to send in, and one to bring to court if you need to. Judges always like things that are notarized.

Are you anticipating custody fight?

Perhaps a restaining order may be necessary if ex is abusive, it will also prevent the possibility that he takes your dc for a little trip to the doc himself- that happened to another mom here. If no restaining order - maybe supervised visitation only?

You could always end up with an amicable agreement! It does happen! Best to be prepared though! You know what they say - hope for the best - prepare for the worst!

[ilovemybabe]

hey, kdtwiss,thanks for your reply again.

I have supervised visitation set up. I presented evidence that shows he is abusive and violent, and a sex addict, and a potential sex abuser to our child. These are my greatest fears to our child's safety.

I do have a restraining order.

After the temporary hearing I was awarded full physical custody, and a GAL was appointed to investigate my x's abuse and also legal custody.
After the pre-trial, x and his attorney insinuated that the GAL would find fault with MY parenting, so now I'm panicking and trying to cross all my t's and dot all my i's without compromising what is best for my child, you know?

[PuppyFluffer]

Best wishes to you on this path. It must be so hard. I am glad that you are thinking ahead!