salaam
my son is 4 and a half... he is much bigger and stronger than most of the boys his age and also more than a lot of the older boys too. he is also very spirited and he plays rough. he is a very sweet boy, and very touchy (he loves to hug and hold hands and cuddle)... which translates to being very much in every other kid's face when he plays. so how do i handle it when he:
-smothers his sisters in hugs? i don't want to "punish" him, he doesn't mean to be hurting them... but i can't just let him squash them either. one of his sisters is just an infant, and the other can handle it better, but he runs after her and pulls her down from behind and i worry that she will get hurt (which she has, nothing major though).
-wrestles with other kids? granted, the other kids play rough too, but adam is so strong he often ends up accidently hurting or upsetting the other kid... though he thinks they are playing still.
this happened at the playground just the other day... all the boys were playing rough, and adam just outwrestled everyone, thinking it was great fun... i told him we had to leave, because he was really over-doing it (and i had an infant in my arms at the time so i couldn't do much to prevent an accident if things stayed crazy)... and he was SO UPSET. he really wants to play with all the kids, and i feel so bad about this.
what can i do that will teach him to use restraint, that will be effective???
my son is 4 and a half... he is much bigger and stronger than most of the boys his age and also more than a lot of the older boys too. he is also very spirited and he plays rough. he is a very sweet boy, and very touchy (he loves to hug and hold hands and cuddle)... which translates to being very much in every other kid's face when he plays. so how do i handle it when he:
-smothers his sisters in hugs? i don't want to "punish" him, he doesn't mean to be hurting them... but i can't just let him squash them either. one of his sisters is just an infant, and the other can handle it better, but he runs after her and pulls her down from behind and i worry that she will get hurt (which she has, nothing major though).
-wrestles with other kids? granted, the other kids play rough too, but adam is so strong he often ends up accidently hurting or upsetting the other kid... though he thinks they are playing still.
this happened at the playground just the other day... all the boys were playing rough, and adam just outwrestled everyone, thinking it was great fun... i told him we had to leave, because he was really over-doing it (and i had an infant in my arms at the time so i couldn't do much to prevent an accident if things stayed crazy)... and he was SO UPSET. he really wants to play with all the kids, and i feel so bad about this.
what can i do that will teach him to use restraint, that will be effective???
