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post #41 of 70
omg twice a day for an hour. my kids would never let me LOL. i can't do anything for an hour by myself LOL. that's great that your ILs are letting your borrow theirs

i think you can find the brewer diet at www.blueribbonbaby.org i printed out the diet and posted it on our fridge. i think it's super easy to eat that way, most of the time. evil MW, hehehehe

OOPS!!! it's .org not .com, sorry!!!!!!!!!!!
post #42 of 70
I tried the link, and got a photo contest?

Seren: An HOUR? yikes! My son's in school all day and I don't walk an hour. Maybe one half hour exercise session a day (if I'm not gagging or napping LOL!).

Like the new name for her!
post #43 of 70
I'm so sad. I am seriosuly considering going to an OB, which means a hospital birth. I really don't want to. Just not sure yet. I'm gonna cry.
post #44 of 70
oh seren,

(((((((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry that you're stuck in this bad situation with this evil midwife.

Are there any other mw practices you could use? Could you just avoid this one mw and ask to only see other ones?

another ((((((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))

sending you peaceful, problem-solving vibes
post #45 of 70
seren, did something else happen? have you tried talking to the original MW and expressed your concerns? i see an OB and have hospital births, but that's just me and i think it's great that people see MWs and do home birth or birthing center births. i am a pretty straightforward person so i am able to tell my Dr what i want and don't want and i really have not received resistance or negativity, but i'm also a NICU RN so that might have something to do with it, i dunno.

i wish you didn't have to go through this. being pg is not supposed to be a time of powerstruggle.................................... i wish i had more advice or insight...........

((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))
post #46 of 70
send the Evil Midwife to us. we will eat her alive. figuratively, ladies, figuratively. c'mon, now, did y'all really think i was THAT sick? no, never mind, dont answer.

but really, serenity, i am so sorry you are feeling this way. do pls try to keep yourself in a position of power. if you dont want an ob and a hospital birth, dont allow this narrow sighted woman to corner you into it. you are the boss here. also, did i miss you sharing how your other births went? is the care provider for those avaliable to you now? sorry if this is info you shared and i missed.
post #47 of 70
You ladies are so wonderful. I have asked to just see the other midwife, but she said it wouldn't be fair if I got the evil one during birth. And she's right, it wouldn't be fair to either of us. Of course, that was when I was self-pay. I now have medicaid, so they don't get paid as much and the evil one doesn't, I believe, tend medicaid births, because she can't get paid for them. I guess I'm just going to have to bite the bullet and talk to someone. Dh is going to take off of work for my next appointment so he can support me. He's so great.

My other births, one was ok, with me almost dying afterwards and the other was fantastic. My dd was born in a hospital with an OB. I got pretty decent care during my pregnancy, but he failed to mention to anyone that I was dangerously anemic. I don't know what part of my iron he was measuring, but when I went into the hospital it was a 6, dangerously low. Here it is illegal to have a baby anywhere but a hospital, if it's under 10. Because of this I hemmoraged, passed out, and didn't wake up for 10 hours. My mom has had to help dress dead bodies for buriel for church and she said i looked like I was dead. My sister left the room and told my dad that she thought I had died. It all could have been prevented and was not.

With my ds I went to the midwife. We only have one practice here. It was just the original midwife then and she was fantastic. She's kinda like a loving grandmother. It was the best expereience ever. She monitored my iron and I was taking about 8 chlorophyll pills a day at then end and my iron was still low, but high enough to deliver at the birth center. All went great and it was wonderful. That's what I was hoping for again.

Again, thanks for all the support. You ladies are so wonderful!!! Wish you could all go with me to talk to her. I am so non-confrontational.
post #48 of 70
seren, it does sound to me as though you are moving closer to a solution, yes? i will be sending you strength vibes for the hard task of confronting this issue. i know you can do it.

oh holy cow. yesterday i threw up all over my car. it was awful. i was driving dd home from a preschool field trip feeling sick and migraine-y, but it dint really hit me until i was at a stretch of road with no shoulder to pull off onto. i did manage to pull onto a side road for the grand finale. i think i threw up enough to make up for all the times i wanted to but couldnt. dd thought it was fantastic. she was sitting in the back giggling and imitating my gagging noises. fortunately dh was home so i got to lay in bed for the rest of the day after hosing off both the inside and outside of the car door. i did think of you, danaalex, as i was puking (arent you glad? ) isnt the second trimester supposed to be better, not worse? : anyway, i am feeling good right now, but it is becoming depressingly evident that i can only ever speak for this exact moment, because there is just no guarantee that it will be the same in an hour.
post #49 of 70
Yuck on the throwing up. I have had a cough, due to post nasal drip, and it has made me throw up a tiny bit a few times. It is absolutely no fun.

I remember the days of migraines well, with dd I had to be on a prescription to manage them. We tried 3 and the last one they gave me was hydrocodone. It didn't do anything, neither did the Demerol shot I got. That's when I found out they were caused by allergies. Could you're be the same? Also, I know Zoloft is safe during pregnancy and anti-depressants are some of the best meds to prevent migraines.
When I was 17 I had migraines 5 out of 7 days a week. Too often to take regular migraine meds, so I took an anti-depressant to help. Works great. I don't know of anything natural to make them go away, except feverfew and it's NOT safe during pregnancy. Wish I could help more.
post #50 of 70
I'm sorry about your migraine and barfing in the car, Sunbaby. I also used to suffer from frequent migraines. I have had one since DD was born, and it was not as severe as previous ones. I don't know what brought them on, and what's stopped them, but I wish I knew because I'd recommend it to everyone. My mom was (and may still be) taking anti-seizure medication for her migraines. It really helped her, as she was having them weekly or more often, and now rarely has them. I hope you're able to get something figured out for them soon.

Seren, I hope you're able to work out some sort of solution with your MWs soon. The stress isn't good for you, and it's obvious that a hospital birth with an OB is not at all what you want.

Not much going on here. The weather is gray, rainy, and cold, and it's draining my energy something fierce. I need to start DD's Halloween costume, but I can't pry myself off the couch. I think it'll go rather quickly once I get started, but I don't want to do it. Ugh. DH is taking the coming week off work (he's got most of his vacation time to use up before the end of the year), and I'm hoping I'll have the motivation to do some stuff then. DD needs more clothing for the winter, and I want to make more tiny diapers for the baby. We're also talking about moving my sewing area upstairs to the spare bedroom so I can maybe have some privacy or something like that for my work. We'll see if we get this done. It'll free up some space down here for DD's playthings, which would be great.

I should get off the computer and go parent.
post #51 of 70
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Originally Posted by sunbaby
oh holy cow. yesterday i threw up all over my car. it was awful. i was driving dd home from a preschool field trip feeling sick and migraine-y, but it dint really hit me until i was at a stretch of road with no shoulder to pull off onto. i did manage to pull onto a side road for the grand finale. i think i threw up enough to make up for all the times i wanted to but couldnt. dd thought it was fantastic. she was sitting in the back giggling and imitating my gagging noises. fortunately dh was home so i got to lay in bed for the rest of the day after hosing off both the inside and outside of the car door. i did think of you, danaalex, as i was puking (arent you glad? ) isnt the second trimester supposed to be better, not worse? : anyway, i am feeling good right now, but it is becoming depressingly evident that i can only ever speak for this exact moment, because there is just no guarantee that it will be the same in an hour.

awww, i'm so sorry you got sick in your car yesterday. you and i must have been on the same wave length, cause i almost threw up in the car yesterday too. i was anxiously looking around for a place to put it as i was driving my girls to the park for a play date. uggh. it was awful. i ended up pulling into wendy's and buying a coke and fries, cause the grease and the coke are the only things that settled my stomach in the past. it worked again, but man i was freaking!!!

yeah, i thought things were supposed to be better now too. (((HUGS))) thanks for thinking of me LOL i'm glad you knew you were not alone
post #52 of 70
Seren, have you considered hiring a doula? I've been interviewing some lately. They said they would attend prenatal visits if I wanted them too. I want to hire one because I'm doing this alone and want all of the support I can get during labor and, because of my health problems, I want someone there who will advocate for me if I am unable to so because of health issues. Perhaps a doula could attend your MW visits with you and help advocate for you with the evil MW and assure them that you are aware of your situation and the ramifications of it. I'm glad your DH is going with you, but if he can't make other appts then maybe a doula would be able to be there with you instead. Just a thought.

Also, on the water consumption...I pour out all of the water I'm supposed to drink for the day in the morning. I have 2 water bottles that hold it all. That gives me a visual reminder of how much I have consumed so far and how much I have left to go throughout the day so I am reminded to drink up if I'm falling behind. Since dehydration can lead to preterm labor I'm feeling very motivated to keep hydrated, I just need a constant reminder to do it.

hang in there.
post #53 of 70
sunbaby-
I'm right there with ya on the miagraine thing. Through my first trimester my migraine problem progressed to the point that I had one for over a week that I just couldn't kick. I ended up getting a script for reglan, which cut the neausea enough for me to get back on a better easting pattern.

What's really helped me since is giving up refined sugar, chocolate, and caffeene, upping my protien intake, and literally keeping something in my tummy 24/7 (or as close to that as I can get). Since I'm not really up to much food prep these days I've been buying huge party trays of cut vegies and dip and snacking on veggies between meals.
post #54 of 70
Yippee! Nothing like a good MW appt to brighten one's day. Had a 16w appt today. I've gained 2 lbs. (from my low m/s weight) and she says I have a perfect little uterus. (I'm a sucker for flattery.) We heard the heartbeat again and it's so much stronger than it was at 12 weeks-- then we only caught it for a second, and it was pretty soft. Today, it was really pounding-- no doubt about it! It seems slower to me than my dd's was-- I can't remember if that's supposed to indicate a boy or what. I'm still kind-of getting the boy vibe with this one, but not enough that I'm certain of it or anything.

Oh-- on that note, dd has *insisted* for months that there is a girl baby in my tummy. Like, if you suggest it might possibly maybe be a boy, she would flip out. We had dinner guests last night and I told them about that and was going to show them, so I asked her what kind of baby was in my tummy-- a boy or a girl? And wouldn't you know it? She answered: "It's a boy baby, I think." I even asked her again (because I couldn't believe my ears) and she is now sure it's a boy. I think she's been blessed with my (lack of) intuition. Or perhaps just my indecision...

Of course, she still wants to name the baby Cinderella-- even if it insists on being a boy. :LOL
post #55 of 70
omg cinderella, that is so cute. i think my oldest would pick that as a name too.

we haven't said anything to our kids about having another babe. they are 3 and 18 mo and i told my DH we would wait until the beginning of march to discuss it. by then our oldest will be almost 4 and out youngest will be almost 2.
post #56 of 70
Wow! That's a long time to wait to tell them. Won't your 3 year old be curious about your belly? My dd is also 3 and I just can't imagine her not wondering what was going on-- she's pretty perceptive. Of course, she was right there with me when I peed on the stick and confirmed that there were indeed 2 pink lines. So she's been involved since day 1. She's the sweetest-- she tells people that she has a baby, and that it's in her mama's tummy. I love it!

I scheduled our screening u/s today. It will be November 17. this will be the first and maybe only appt DH goes to, so it's exciting for that reason too! We were both students when I was pg the first time and had all the flexibility in the world-- he never missed a prenatal appointment. Now, his job is pretty hard-core about the hours you have to be on-site, and he's only been there for 2 months. We're saving up the favors for babymoon time.
post #57 of 70
i do have quite a big belly already and my 3yo doesn't seem to notice. her "baby" is her baby sister, and i think she'd have a hard time understanding that i was having another one LOL. if she starts questioning the changes of my body, we'll tell her sooner, but more than likely she'll just want to know when the baby is coming and if it's going to be soon. in that cse, we'll just wait. we'll see............ your DD is 10 days younger than my 3 yo , and i think the difference is that if someone were to ask her where her baby was, she'd point to her little sister LOL. your DD sounds super cute and excited
post #58 of 70
Stream, your dd is one day older than mine. SHe, too, knows we are having a baby. She says it's her sister. She asked when the baby was coming, so I told her first we have to have Christmas, then Uncle Joshey's birthday (my little brother in March), and then MAYBE bubba's birthday. His birthday is April 15. He is 18 months and points to my belly and says baby and kisses it when Savanna does. I don't know if he really gets it though, probably not.

ANd I think maybe you ladies jinxed me. Just kidding. But I did have TWO migraines yesterday. One at 5 am and one when I went to bed. Horrible, ugh!!!!
post #59 of 70
serenity, i never realized it before. my oldest and your oldest are 11 days apart, and your youngest and my youngest are a day apart

savanna doesn't get confused between her little brother and the baby in you? does she refer to her little brother as her baby? i guess i try talking to xandra about it, and see what she says?
post #60 of 70
hi everyone!
I posted here yesterday but apparently it disappeared. Fun to hear how your little ones are reacting to the coming baby
No reaction from our cats so far!
Stream, I wanted to say how reassuring it was to hear that you only barely heard the hb at your last appt and that you heard it nice & strong this time. I will be 16 weeks on Thursday and we go in again on Monday so I'm looking forward to it. It's funny, both dw & I had been very firm on not wanting any more u/s, but now that we're getting these dopplers anyway, I sometimes think maybe we should just get one more...not to find out sex, but just to see the wee one. But I think I'll stick to hearing the the hb.

I'm getting over a cold, and happily bounced back from it very quickly for a change, (poor dw is still sick though). I think I'm finally getting the 2nd trimester energy boost everyone was promising. But I also find that my appetite is just not there really and that I get a lot of bloating, gas and stomach pain after I eat. Not much fun. But I'm still trying to get in lots of protein.

hope everyone is well!

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