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post #61 of 106
I have similar experiences as Mom2.

I know my son's papa struggles when only allowed to pick one. He is equal part s Chinese and Cuban. He idenified strongly with them. And many of our rituals, traditions and ways of life are a combination of the 2 cultures. Impossible to pick one.
post #62 of 106
Hi all, we are a mutliracial family too

I am white (english) and DF is black (Jamaican), our ds is nearly 3 and we will be ttc again in Apr.

Currently I am reading a great book called 'Mixed Feelings: The Complex Lives of Mixed Race Britons'

Glad I found this thread
post #63 of 106
I'm the mother of a biracial child, I'm white (irish,german,welish) and My husband is Pureto rican. My son's 21 months, His first/last name are spanish and his middle name is Sean. I really want him speak both English and Spanish, actually he has said 3 words in spanish, possibly without knowing what he was saying and their not good words. But I don't think he knows what he's saying yet anyways.
post #64 of 106


I am white and dh is black. We have 3 daughters together. I am soooo tired of the "do you think their hair will be the same" question, uh...no, they are 3 different children..duh.
The are 6yo, 2yo, and 2.5 months old. I just have one question. How do you keep thier hair nice? I have yet to find a good way for dd1. Its always a struggle to brush/do her hair.

Nice to "meet" you all. I have always wished for other parents of biracial children to talk to.
post #65 of 106
I think the best thing to do would be to find someone who knows how to do their hair to either teach you how or you can pay them to do it really nice once a week (or less often). I used to get paid to care for a little girl's hair in a group home because no one knew how to braid it.

It's really easy actually. I think it's way easier than doing straight hair. Just use some extra conditioner and first comb her hair with a pick. You need to get one of those combs that has fine teeth on half and a long, skinny, stick (with a pointed end) on the other half. Once you get her hair combed, use the stick end of the comb to divide it Try to make the line as straight as possible. When you divide it, put whatever hair you're not working with in a scrunchy (sp?) or clip. Something that will keep it from tangling but keep it out of the way. You can do really nice regular braids if you don't know how to corn row. If you have someone teach you though, it's really easy. Find a nice hair do that she likes because if you do the braids nice and tight, they can stay in for at least a week.

If I lived anywhere near you (which I see I don't) I'd be more than happy to help.

BTW, I have lurked here and there on this thread but I realize I haven't even posted! (so not like me!) :LOL

Our kids are triracial - or more. White, Black, Latiino, & Native American. They all look mostly like me. They are pretty light skinned and the youngest two have almost straight hair! (of course just my luck since curly hair is easier for me to do ).

I don't like the term biracial at all though. We used the term mixed and we like it.

*ETA: There is some pink stuff (like a hair lotion) that I used to use too just to make it slicker and keep the fuzzies from coming after sleeping on it etc. I think I have some. I'll come back and post the name if I do...it's not very "natural" though.
post #66 of 106
My AA MIL recently told me to put baby oil in my 10-month-old's hair. :

She has the most beautiful dark waves and loose ringlets and my MIL told me to put baby oil in it because one strand was sticking up like an alfalfa.

Even my AA SIL told me no way, that her hair is pretty. I bought an organic moisturizer and I use it on my hair and her hair occasionally and it works fine. I actually use it on me more than on her!

I think I'll end up paying someone to do it if it gets more hard to handle as she gets older. I can hardly manage to do my own hair most days. :LOL
post #67 of 106
I used to use baby oil on my hair when I was younger, before I knew the nastiness of mineral oil. But I have found that almond oil even (a very mild) olive oil work peachy to encourage my latin & aa curls to behave themsleves.
post #68 of 106

Biracial kids

You are invited to our group that is just for mommies of biracial children. Come meet other moms just like you. If you would like to take a look just email me at ondi4@hotmail.com and I will send you an invite.
post #69 of 106
Hi, I know this thread has been going on for a while , but I'm new to MDC and thought I'd jump in here.

We span the globe in our house. I am the child of parents who are both mixed (yes we grew up with and still use mixed rather than bi/multiracial, feels more relaxed to me). I am Black/Portuguese and Indonesian/Arab. My DH is some mix of European countries that he's not entirely certain of. English, Welsh.....ok, ok he'd just say he was white.

My three kids each have a different look. It's very cool to see genetics gone haywire. They're like a daily testimony of how rich and diverse our families are.

I'll chime in on the hair thing. I have very curly hair that is somewhere between kinky and straight. I grew up often hearing that term "good hair" and how I was lucky. All that did was backfire and lead me down a path of thinking only some of the traits I inherited were desirable. After a childhood of straightening and being confused about what was beautiful about me I am now learning to love my unruly, sometimes silky, sometimes knotty, super curly, super frizzy global fro. I hope to teach my daughter that everything about her is awesome and that her straight (and I mean bone straight) hair does not define her or pidgeon hole her into one identity. Sorry about the long rant....funny how something like hair or eyes can have so much significance in a culture.

-Nee
post #70 of 106
Hi Nee. Welcome to Mothering! You're awesome.
post #71 of 106
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Originally Posted by midstreammama


I am white and dh is black. We have 3 daughters together. I am soooo tired of the "do you think their hair will be the same" question, uh...no, they are 3 different children..duh.
The are 6yo, 2yo, and 2.5 months old. I just have one question. How do you keep thier hair nice? I have yet to find a good way for dd1. Its always a struggle to brush/do her hair.

Nice to "meet" you all. I have always wished for other parents of biracial children to talk to.
I am resubscribing to this thread . Hey midstreammama:! You are in my neck of the woods. I live over in Pike Creek!
post #72 of 106
I guess we qualify as biracial. I'm Puerto Rican (Moroccan, Spanish, & Taino Indian), DH is pure Irish (from Ireland). I have 2 dds. On the hair thing, I have a green eyed blonde with super curly hair and a brown eyed, dark haired beauty with slightly curly hair.

I often get the nanny thing, when people hear me talking to them in Spanish. They look very different so people assume the blond is my charge.

My girls are tri cultural, they enjoy Puerto Rican, Irish and American culture and traditions. I think it makes them more interesting and certainly more open minded & inclusive.

#3 is due in Sept 2005, I can't wait to see what this one looks like, maybe a firery red head like DH

Nice to meet you guys!
post #73 of 106
I'm white American, dh is from India but he's American now, too. He's the only one here out of his whole family. Right now his parents are visiting and I'm going insane. 5 weeks to go . . .

We have two daughters, Abirami and Nitara. Both were to be raised Hindu but dh kinda dropped the ball on that. Both are also supposed to be learning Tamil but again dh didn't have time or something. Oh well, that's fine. Abi takes Spanish classes :LOL and loves it.

Our neighbors are racist and I have had some ignorant comments like, "What is she mixed with" and the best, "Are you her au pair?" Abi is aware of her coloring compared to white kids but so far no issues there. Hope it stays that way.

The sad thing is that she doesn't understand my IL's when they speak Tamil, and she didn't know what a dosa was until this morning. I tried to get into Indian cooking but it's complicated to cook Indian food, and frankly I have my hands full with NItara (she has medical issues) and homeschooling and just being a mom.

I have a website with lots of cultural stuff on it www.darshani.com

Nice to see you all!
post #74 of 106
Hi

Well, I guess I'm kind of new here... even though I joined quite a while ago, I only post sporadically. I am mostly a lurker! I'm not sure if I've posted here, yet... but here is my blurb...

I am biracial... mom is white (Irish, French Canadian, Scots), dad is AA. My DH is white (French Canadian & Swedish)

My older dd is mini-me... tan skin, dark hair & eyes. Baby is all peaches & cream with red hair and dark gray eyes. My dad looks at Frankie & says what happened?! My mom looks at her & says that's so I can see you're (meaning me) my daughter! :LOL

Genetics are a fascinating thing. Just when it seems like they've got a handle on all that dominant/recessive stuff, along come all of us !!!

It's so nice to connect with other moms with similar family make-ups.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v2...milychurch.jpg
post #75 of 106
homemademama I don't think that your son looks white at all.I can tell that he has some asian (filipino) traits. His skin is light but thats about it.
post #76 of 106
hi! we are a bicultural family as well. i am a very white white girl (irish, german, scottish, a tiny bit of american indian and who knows what else). i don't identify with any of those since i wasn't raised with any of those cultures. grew up in hawaii though and identify with many things from there. DH is from mexico.

abby is a beautiful mix of the both of us. she is learning spanish and english and about both of her cultures as well as some hawaiian cultural stuff as well (hawaiian music, hula, typical foods, etc). if we move to indiana, she will learn japanese and japanese culture as well from my stepmom and that might refresh my japanese! love the japanese culture as well (my first love was japanese) and would love her to learn about that as well!

i am sooo jealous of her skin color though. i am pasty white and just burn. she is gorgeous.
post #77 of 106
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Originally Posted by kymholly
Hi

Well, I guess I'm kind of new here... even though I joined quite a while ago, I only post sporadically. I am mostly a lurker! I'm not sure if I've posted here, yet... but here is my blurb...

I am biracial... mom is white (Irish, French Canadian, Scots), dad is AA. My DH is white (French Canadian & Swedish)

My older dd is mini-me... tan skin, dark hair & eyes. Baby is all peaches & cream with red hair and dark gray eyes. My dad looks at Frankie & says what happened?! My mom looks at her & says that's so I can see you're (meaning me) my daughter! :LOL

Genetics are a fascinating thing. Just when it seems like they've got a handle on all that dominant/recessive stuff, along come all of us !!!

It's so nice to connect with other moms with similar family make-ups.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v2...milychurch.jpg

Very pretty family mama. Genetics are so interesting!
post #78 of 106
yeah sure! I'm white-white-white and dh is black-black-black...not quite as black as you can possibly get, but *very* brown. He's Sudanese, born and raised there, I'm Midwest-American. DS is tan, brown curly hair, brown eyes. I kinda had a clue what he'd look like cause my friend is white and her dh is really dark too....... DS is a perfect blend. I don't get 'adopted' comments.......but I have gotten the occasional 'so what is his dad?' lol

while we're at it, how about a board for inter-cultural marriages?
post #79 of 106
Hi! I'll join here too. I'm a white european mutt mix and dh is Mexican. We have 2 ds's who looks are changing every day. They are being raised w/ both "cultures" and speak spanglish.

Ds 1 has straight dark brown hair and brown eyes. VERY pale skin. Ds 2 has blond hair and lighter brown almost greenish eyes. VERY pale. LOL We all say I have super genes.

I get the opposite - are you sure your dh is the daddy? Um, well yeah, most certain he is. Ds has my face and ds has dh's face. Its a great mix they have.

heres a pic of all my boys daddy and boys
post #80 of 106
: I'm white-american (spanish, german and english) and DH is from India. DD looks a lot like me and we do get a lot of stares and people never can tell my DH is DD's dad . My IL's live here so they try to speak Gujrati to her and she understands a little. We have tried to teach her both cultures and she is only 20 months so she doesn't really understand the difference.

Glad to see this thread and read all of your posts. It's nice to know we are not alone!
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