reply to jbcjmom
|Originally posted by jbcjmom
I'm sorry, but letting your children play with power cords, especially when plugged in, and outlets is just plain neglegent. My husband who is an engineer for a power company would flip out if he knew that some one was advocating letting children play with electricity, with or without a parent present.
I am not advocating that a parent allow their child to play with electricity. I'm sorry that my post was not clear enough. I am advocating that a parent help a child learn about electrical cords. I am offering ideas as to how to handle a situation. If the parent finds a better idea, then I would hope that they do that instead and of course share it with others. What I am advocating is teaching a child do deal with electrical cords safely. IMO, not only would this demystify the cords but it will also make it less likely that a child would explore these things when the parent is not looking. It would also, IMO, set a precedent in the child's mind that the parent is open to the child's wanting to learn about different things and will also help whenever necessary.
In trying to think of a more satisfying solution I thought of maybe giving a child a surge protecter that is not plugged in and teaching the child how to plug things into socket safely this way. When the parent is satisfied that the child has enough information to use electrical cords safely then perhaps they could move on to the socket in question. But maybe this is a better preference for the child and the parent will not have to deal with a live socket at all.
|Your mere presence is not going to stop your child from being electricuted.
Pardon my ignorance, since I am not an electrician, but I would like to know what prevents adults from being electrocuted when they unplug power cords, that would not prevent a child from being electrocuted when doing the same thing with a parent present? Clearly I'm not advocationg that the parent let the child near a socket with live wires exposed or that was prone to sparks. In fact I would hope that even non-TCS parents who would prevent their children from learning about power cords in this way would most certainly not have these conditions in their home either.
|Some things, like going to the doctor, are just a fact of life if you want to stay healthy and strong.
Interesting theory but I know many adults, including myself, who disagree with this statement. Some of us may even think the exact opposite
. I think children should have the right to choose or not to choose who touches them and who examines them. I would certainly hate it if I was taken to the doctor against my will.
|What would you die hard TCSers do if both of your children want the same toy at the same time, and remember that it is not always feasible or practical to have two of everything?
There is no blanket answer to this or any of the other examples. Every child and parent is different. What would be a common preference in one family would not be a common preference in another. There is no rule book that says, "When your child does X thing do Y." I have attempted to give TCS ideas in the hopes that this would bring on even more ideas. People could refute my ideas and offer different non-coercive ideas that may be better. Sometimes I think that these discussions about examples are rather unfruitful if people believe that TCS is a less responsible way to parent.
But... I will try to offer an idea anyway in hopes that someone will offer an even better one. Maybe one child would prefer to play with something else but hasn't thought of it because it was put away and not in view when he saw the one he is fighting over? Maybe both children would prefer to go to the park? Maybe they would prefer that Mom read them a story instead? Maybe the reason that they are fighting is not really the toy but some underlying tension that the toy triggered so the parent may want to talk to both of them about their feelings and something may be uncovered that could help the situation. Maybe after the parent's initial idea sharing they will decide on their own what they think is best and end the conflict themselves. If children are not taught that somone always has to lose before they win or that if someone wins then by default they must lose, they may be open to finding a common preference instead of fighting because they may believe that in a family everyone can get want they want most of the time.
What would you do?
P.S. I reserve the right to be mistaken and to continue to learn