This is one of the most frustrating things I've encountered so far with my ds. He's almost 3.5. I miss the days when I could pick out an item of clothing and put it on him and that was that. I just need to vent about this but any and all suggestions are welcome because it has us so stuck.
Here's the thing: his grandparents got him a set of batman pjs with a little cape this summer. Summer pjs, shortsleeves and legs. DS loved it, loved to wear it all the time, how cute, right? Well it was at the time, briefly, and I didn't care for a long while how much he wanted to wear it although it has by now gotten really nasty (it's that synthetic fabric that pills almost immediately) and I don't care if he wants to wear pjs during the day or whatever but now that the weather has gotten cooler, I can't let him go outside in shorts. I let him wear his rubber boots till they didn't fit and had holes in them but this is different. Plus if he has wet the bed the pj top sometimes gets a little wet and then it smells like pee. So, every morning there's an exhausting frustrating struggle with him crying and my husband and I trying every tactic: cajoling, trying to convince him how cool his other clothes are, firm, putting other clothes on his struggling body (he takes them right off again), to even saying OK then you can't go outside till you put long pants on (which backfired I think as it only resulted in my staying in a beautiful morning with him). He insists on being batmanesque so he won't wear the few pairs of brand-new, really nice pants we've gotten him so I've gone out and bought two more pairs of black pants. That worked for a few days and then this morning he refused to take his pj shorts off so I had to put the pants on over them. This whole thing has touched a button of frustration in me that I didn't even know I had. I know, he is doing it to exert some control over his life. I know also that the more energy and upset I put into it or show about it the longer it will last. It's just that I want him to be warmly and reasonably cleanly dressed--here he is with a cold refusing to wear a sweatshirt or jacket because it will cover up batman. I've even bought a batman pj top that's long sleeved but this morning he refused to wear it (after he'd worn it a few times so I can't return it now--it's not the right KIND of batman). He is so stubborn about this and he gets sort of hysterical crying if something isn't JUST right, like the cape is twisted or something. I am hoping someone will tell me that they're kid went through this and it didn't last more than a few months--I don't think I can take much more than that. URRRGGGHHH. Or just tell me you went through this!
Here's the thing: his grandparents got him a set of batman pjs with a little cape this summer. Summer pjs, shortsleeves and legs. DS loved it, loved to wear it all the time, how cute, right? Well it was at the time, briefly, and I didn't care for a long while how much he wanted to wear it although it has by now gotten really nasty (it's that synthetic fabric that pills almost immediately) and I don't care if he wants to wear pjs during the day or whatever but now that the weather has gotten cooler, I can't let him go outside in shorts. I let him wear his rubber boots till they didn't fit and had holes in them but this is different. Plus if he has wet the bed the pj top sometimes gets a little wet and then it smells like pee. So, every morning there's an exhausting frustrating struggle with him crying and my husband and I trying every tactic: cajoling, trying to convince him how cool his other clothes are, firm, putting other clothes on his struggling body (he takes them right off again), to even saying OK then you can't go outside till you put long pants on (which backfired I think as it only resulted in my staying in a beautiful morning with him). He insists on being batmanesque so he won't wear the few pairs of brand-new, really nice pants we've gotten him so I've gone out and bought two more pairs of black pants. That worked for a few days and then this morning he refused to take his pj shorts off so I had to put the pants on over them. This whole thing has touched a button of frustration in me that I didn't even know I had. I know, he is doing it to exert some control over his life. I know also that the more energy and upset I put into it or show about it the longer it will last. It's just that I want him to be warmly and reasonably cleanly dressed--here he is with a cold refusing to wear a sweatshirt or jacket because it will cover up batman. I've even bought a batman pj top that's long sleeved but this morning he refused to wear it (after he'd worn it a few times so I can't return it now--it's not the right KIND of batman). He is so stubborn about this and he gets sort of hysterical crying if something isn't JUST right, like the cape is twisted or something. I am hoping someone will tell me that they're kid went through this and it didn't last more than a few months--I don't think I can take much more than that. URRRGGGHHH. Or just tell me you went through this!
If he would have a least put on a clean one..... But like I said as soon as the struggle stopped so did the resistance. I take that stance with everything now except for dangerous situations.
