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post #41 of 55
10/20/04 at 6:20pm
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the term I don't like (in addition to the above) is "estimated due date". You can't pick a day! Try picking a month! Some come at 38 wks, some 42, its all normal.
And to make it worse, no one pays any attention to the "estimated" part and people (and their doctors) carry on like it is expiration date.
post #42 of 55
10/20/04 at 7:24pm
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Originally Posted by krae
And to make it worse, no one pays any attention to the "estimated" part and people (and their doctors) carry on like it is expiration date.
Amen to that sister!
post #43 of 55
10/20/04 at 7:41pm
... when parents to be / new parents say things like "The doctor said we should." & then fail to research anything on their own! That drives me nutty to hear! That's giving power away, imo.
post #44 of 55
10/21/04 at 6:58pm
I love the term "catching"...I guess that is just me. It is what they do with my babies, who come out in one push..oh, I would say in about 1.5 seconds, literally. My midwife caught her!

And I quadruple second the phrase "deliver". I don't even like it when a mom says "I delivered my baby, or that is the place where I delivered my baby". No-one delivered anything. I sure wasn't delivered of something. I gave birth.
post #45 of 55
10/21/04 at 7:08pm
I can't stand estimated date of confinement. I know its an old term but it irks me because why should a woman be confined. I also second the whole natural childbirth term. Natural does not equal vaginal. I had someone ask me if my first child was natural, I said no and they were like oh, you had a c-section. Ummm, no, it was the induced, intervention full birth from hell, not natural at all.
post #46 of 55
10/21/04 at 7:23pm
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Originally Posted by mezzaluna
another one i was arguing about passionately recently was the idea that a woman will "lose her modesty" in labor (as we've been talking about in our bradley class). i see it as a passive construction as well, or at least a negative one. losing something is usually something to be ashamed of... i don't plan to misplace my modesty while i'm in labor, i just plan to be at whatever modesty level makes me comfortable....
:LOL I really like this!

I don't like the term catch either. I beleive that we're receiving these babies not catching them. And I'm bothered by midwives talking about births they "did". "I did a birth once that...." Attended is nicer.

How about "irratable uterus"?
"Trial of Labor"?
"Mucus plug" - alright, eeew already! But try as I might, I can't come up with another term.
Rupture of membranes - sounds so violent.
Water doesn't break either.

"Progress" is also a very loaded term when referring to an individual labor.
Oh my gosh...there are so many!

But above and beyond i too, hate the wrod "deliver".
post #47 of 55
10/21/04 at 8:21pm
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Originally Posted by loved
Rupture of membranes - sounds so violent.
:LOL Even better was when I was told my membranes (that's such a yucky word!) were "grossly" ruptured. Gee thanks! I laughed though because when it happened all I could say was how gross it felt!
post #48 of 55
10/22/04 at 1:33pm
Oh my, I love this thread!

I too detest when people talk about "delivery" sometimes people call my homebirth plans "home delivery" (Umm, I didn't order out for chinese, I'm giving birth to a BABY!)

Now I'm getting this mental image of "DiGiorno" style commercials:
"Who delivered?"
"It wasn't a DELIVERY! It was a homebirth!"

I also get very peeved at the whole "Let you" "allow" and other terminology. During my 3rd dc's hospital birth, the OB actually told me she would "let me" walk the halls for one hour, and then I "had to" have pitocin. At the time it didn't bother me nearly enough, but if someone said that to me today I'd say "I'm leaving. NOW. Whether you want to 'let me' or not!"

I also get bugged when people say 'I found a doctor I trust, and I'm going to do whatever he tells me, because he went to medical school, etc. etc."

That's GREAT that you trust your doctor and all, but would you PLEASE turn your brain on for 2 seconds, and think for yourself? (This usually comes in response to a gentle suggestion from me about a good book like "Thinking Woman's Guide" or an "innocent" question about a "routine" but totally BS procedure)

It feels god to be able to get that off my chest. There are so few people IRL around here that truly "get it!"
post #49 of 55
10/22/04 at 5:59pm
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Originally Posted by loved
"Mucus plug" - alright, eeew already! But try as I might, I can't come up with another term.
How about cervical sealant? or protective gel? :LOL
post #50 of 55
10/23/04 at 7:56am
I reading this thread too.
By far and wide though, I cannot stand the 'natural' delivery meant as vaginal.
This lady came up to me and was talking about how she delivered naturally and it hurt so bad. I was like, yes it hurt but I'm so glad I did it without drugs. Her drop reaction was funny. "You did it without drugs?!" I thought she did too but she meant vaginally. Oohhh After that she quit talking to me.
post #51 of 55
10/25/04 at 3:44pm
I am a childbirth educator & I think this thread is wonderful! I never use the term deliver or delivered in my class or talk about what care providers will "allow/let" you do. I talk about "pregnant" women & "expectant" parents. I try not to talk about "they." I talk specifically about how false labor is not false.

I'm wondering what I could say instead of "water broke" or "ruptured membranes." It never occured to me to think of those terms as negative. The bag *does* break/tear/rupture. Hmmm...maybe I could talk about when the bag of water "opens." Any other ideas?

I am also wondering about how to better phrase talking about "progress." I don't often use the word progress. I usually talk about labor "moving along" - in reference to how staying active, changing positions, eating & drinking, staying relaxed, etc can keep labor moving. What do you think about that?
post #52 of 55
10/25/04 at 4:19pm
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Originally Posted by MidnightCafe
I'm wondering what I could say instead of "water broke" or "ruptured membranes." It never occured to me to think of those terms as negative. The bag *does* break/tear/rupture. Hmmm...maybe I could talk about when the bag of water "opens." Any other ideas?

I am also wondering about how to better phrase talking about "progress." I don't often use the word progress. I usually talk about labor "moving along" - in reference to how staying active, changing positions, eating & drinking, staying relaxed, etc can keep labor moving. What do you think about that?
You could say that the waters release as an alternative to break. As far as the question about progress goes, well I don't think there's a problem with using that word. Lack of dilation doesn't equal lack of progress. Progress shows itself in many ways. Sometimes labor slows to allow the woman a much needed break before it intensifies again. That's progress in it's own way. Instead I'd just concentrate on that aspect rather than dilation=progress/moving along. I'm a childbirth educator too and while I agree that some of these terms can carry a negative association, I think that when you're teaching couples what they can expect to hear their medical team saying there's really no way to escape it. I think it's only fair to familiarize them with the lingo when most of it won't be explained to them during their labor.
post #53 of 55
10/25/04 at 4:53pm
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Originally Posted by honey
Terms that blame women and their bodies:
failure to progress
That one really sets me off. I was in labor only 12 hours, pushed for 3, however only about half an hour of pushing was actually affective. The apprentice midwife is also an OB Nurse and she let me know that I would have been "failure to progress" had I been in the hospital. My dd was also what my OB would have considered "large" (8 and a half opunds) AND my pregnancy went about 42 weeks 5-6 days, so I was "overdue". AND yet, my daughter and I are totally fine, her birth wasn't traumatic and I would never go to a hospital to give birth unless there was a real emergency.

A friend of mine had her baby about a month after me. Her OB told her right from the start that she wouldn't be able to handle the birth without an epidural because of her size (she's about 5'2" but her hips are not narrow at all) . Of course she labored for a while and then she "had to have a c-section" because of failure to progress and large baby.

Someone remind me why I don't like doctors...
post #54 of 55
10/26/04 at 2:22am
Using "release" instead of "rupture" was the rule of thumb w/ hypnobabies, if I'm remembering correctly!

So how else do you say that the midwife "attended" the birth, but my husband "caught" the baby? I know "caught" has its own connotations, but I don't knwo what else to say!

And I never understood the "we're Pregnant" until I was , and then I really felt like a team w/ my dh! What's funny is that I didn't feel so much like a team w/ our 2nd baby and didn't use the "we" so much. Actually, right after DC1 was born, dh said "you did it!" and I said "We did it together" b/c I really felt that way. Kind of interesting to me!

Anyway, I HATED hearing my friend tell me, "My body doesn't know how to go into labor" b/c she was "late" w/ her first, and low and behold was late w/ her 2nd!

Also, the "natural" birth only referring to being vaginal is SOOOOO crazy to me!!
post #55 of 55
10/26/04 at 1:23pm
I like "release" as well.
And i prefer the term, "recieve" instead of caught. That's just me.
I know when teaching it's important to teach the lingo. Women need to be somewhat saavy. Just wish there was a better language.
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