I went through something similar with my now 31/2 yo dd last summer. If she had been at school, I'm sure they would have put her out and told me to have her medicated . She was completely out of control and seemed to actually be filled with rage
.I remember calling a dear friend and saying "I really do not like being a mother! Do you honestly enjoy this?!" I too decided to seek professional help, but decided to check internet first because I didn't want said prof. telling me that of course she was messed up since she was still nursing and sleeping in my bed. I found Jan Hunt at Natural Child Project
. You can call her for 1/2 hour and it costs about 30$. She has a MSc in Child Psych and Development and has written several wonderful books including "The Natural Child". She is Fabulous! Please give her a call! We ended up having dd tested for gluten intolerance (stool through Enterolab.com-if you go the testing route, please check out their website, they offer a much more sensitive test than many of the "goldstandards"). I can't tell you the difference that it made in our lives. She is still quite spirited, but I can handle it now. We have our bad days, but before, every day was BAD! (Also, check out the book "Is This your Child?" By Doris Rapp MD)
I also saw a therapist myself. One who was on board w/attachment parenting. Self-care was and is critical w/ a spirited child.
You are an amazingly strong mom! Good Luck!
Rhonda in Vancouver
Lucky Momma to Virginia (02/01)