My son turned three in August and starting at about 2 3/4 you could really see a change in behavior. He became more empathetic, more emotional and more aware of his emotions, more creative and more imaginative. All of these things have meant more of challenge in everyday parenting. . Oh, and he started preschool in September.
I love that we can really do things together now. He loves to help cook and clean. He likes to empty the small trash can or throw the laundry in machine. I like that he can sings songs with me since he knows the words. I like that he has favorite books that he memorized. I love his spontaneous "I love you!" and his "I'm sorry Mama". I love that I can call home and we can really talk on the phone. All in all 3 is a wonderment
Though there are plenty of hard days too!! Some days are beyonf hard. Hitting, pinching, spitting, screaming, throwing. The WORKS! The thing that gets me through most of them is to pick my struggles/battles. Before I react I ask myself what’s the worst that can happen? Unless the answer is DANGER/DEATH/DISMEMBERMANT (
) of any person or other living thing I choose not make a huge deal about whatever the action. So water gets on the floor, he misses a meal; he wears the same thing for day in a row. In the grand scheme of things is that big of deal? If the answer is no I let it go. I find that when the power struggles stop so does the undesirable actions. Maybe not right away but they do. Of course we do still have rules but they are about important things (to our family) and I try not to make them too arbitrary.
I also try to have as much of a “yes” environment as possible. If you can cut back on the “No’s” it’s much easier to relax. So we have a big plastic mat by the sink and the tub so water play is easier to clean up. We have big baskets in playroom so clean up is easy. We have gates up so off limit areas stay off limits. The Tupperware, pots/pans etc are in the low cupboards and the knives and glass stuff are up high. There is little to no danger that my son can get into in the kitchen, family, breakfast and mudroom so we both can enjoy ourselves without the constant: NO! Not that! Don’t touch! Leave it alone!
I find when I get mad at an action I am often really just mad at myself. "Why did I leave that glass where he could knock it over?"
Boy I have been rambling! Sorry to have go on and on!