Any One Else Seeing a Therapist?

[tinybutterfly]

This is my 3rd therapist since I've been married...the first one was a complete bust and I quit going as soon as I figured out she should be doing something else for a living.

My second therapist was great and I really learned alot from him about what *I* was responsible and not, but then we moved.

Now on therapist #3 and hoping to finish this out and "graduate" this year! Woo Hoo!

My marriage has always been the catalyst for my going to see someone, but my childhood was complicated, especially after my parent's divorced and my mom left.

I think I'm making good progress. Dh has even gone and he has made some changes.

Anyone else working on "stuff?" TB

[calmom]

I am and I'm loving it! My last counselor was a flop- she compared raising kids to training a dog.

My current counselor is a homeschooler, LLL leader and mom to 6 kids. She completely understands me and she's just awesome. I couldn't dream up a better counselor. She's also cheap! She drives 40 minutes to our home for family counseling for only $90.


Anyway, I'm thrilled with working on my "issues". I'm tired of living with irrational fears and anxieties. I'm so willing to unload them. I also take a weekly evening class she holds at a friend's house based on the book "How To Talk....."

[tinybutterfly]

Thanks for answering calmom. It does feel good to be working on the issues. My idea of what "normal" is , is so skewed...and I hear ya on the irrational fears and anxieties. I haven't had a panic attack in a long while, but I do remember them well. TB

[Irishmommy]

Moving this to Personal Growth...

[PurpleBasil]

Originally Posted by calmom

My current counselor is a homeschooler, LLL leader and mom to 6 kids. She completely understands me and she's just awesome. I couldn't dream up a better counselor. She's also cheap! She drives 40 minutes to our home for family counseling for only $90.


Anyway, I'm thrilled with working on my "issues". I'm tired of living with irrational fears and anxieties. I'm so willing to unload them. I also take a weekly evening class she holds at a friend's house based on the book "How To Talk....."

Please tell me how to find such an angel! I would love, love, love someone to come to my home. That would make a huge difference in my kids' comfort with me being 'away' and dad caring for them. It's been extremely difficult for all concerned and no sign of things improving. Hard to have personal growth when little ones shout 'no!' for mom to be away even for a 50 minute hour.

[Bearsmama]

Big proponent of therapy here. I've been seeing the same therapist on and off for many years. I am not currently going b/c of $$ and lack of time, but I hope to. And in a perfect world I would go 1x/week just for tune-ups, as I like to call them!

[annettemarie]

I love my therapist- although, sometimes I feel like I'm paying a friend to listen to me talk!
Annette

[tinybutterfly]

I thought my thread just disappeared! Hi! Thanks for answering mamas. It's nice to know you are there. TB

[Shantimama]

I am too but it's hard. She is great but I've got some hard stuff to work through. I went about a decade ago but realize now it was only the beginning. It's hard to imagine what can happen if I really work this time.I want it and am scared at the same time.

[annettemarie]

It is hard- there's something about being a mama that seems to push all the (right? wrong?) buttons, and even more so with having a daughter, at least for me.
Annette

[Bearsmama]

shantimama- The only way out is through...

[Shantimama]

I know.....that doesn't stop me from trying to find another way though! I hate how slow it is and how much easier it is to think y way through it all instead of actually living it, know what I mean?

[Shantimama]

This must be the right time or something. When I was in therapy in my twenties I had violent stomach cramps before every session and never really felt better. This time I look forward to the sessions and I am taking in more of what the therapist says and actually feel a glimmer of hope, even though I know I have an awful lot of work and healing to do. maybe I will make it through this!

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by Shantimama

This must be the right time or something.

I'm having a very similar experience- like it's finally "taking", or maybe I've just finally grown up! (Naahhh....)

Annette

[tinybutterfly]

I think you are right about timing being important. I'm making alot more progress this time. What I don't like is the anger that comes welling up...really it scares me. And I don't like that things I thought I had already worked through and gotten over, come up all over again...only, it's the emotions that are coming up...do you know what I mean?

[Shantimama]

I sure do know what you mean...... Hang in there. I can only handle little bits of feeling it at a time - I just have to take my therapist's word for it that I really will be okay. You will be too!

[tinybutterfly]

Thanks, Shantimama. to you, too.

[AnnMarie]

I'm in counseling too. It's been helpful. I've also started a private online blog. That helps a little.

[tinybutterfly]

Hi, AnnMarie. I keep a regular journal. It does help. TB

[Bearsmama]

shanti-I completely know what you mean. I am realizing now that there are many things that I haven't dealt with fully and mothering, I think, brings much of this to the surface. I also believe that there are right times for things. Your body and soul know when things are okay to start working on.

Ditto the journal thing. I've kept a journal or diary almost my entire life (off and on at some points). And it does help. I've been remiss in my journalling since having children. I find, though, that I tend to use my journalling just for the negative stuff and emotions. So, I think that it would be more useful for me to start incorporating the good stuff into my journalling. Just like learning positive self-talk and stuff like that. Even though a journal can often be the safest way to explore some dark emotions, I find that I tend to ignore the good stuff or successes.

Hugs to everyone here...