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I almost had a heart attack  

post #1 of 11
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I really should be sleeping; I'm exhausted but I can't get over the adreneline. My mom, who has never had a fender bender or even a ticket in 40 years of driving, rolled our car tonight driving with our 4 yo. She's hysterical; I have never seen her so upset in my entire life. Normally she's calm and logical to the point of almost being robotic, now she swears she'll never have the children in her car again, which should be interesting since she's the only one to take the kids when I go into labor.

My dh and I were on a snooze cruise driving our 23 mo to sleep when my dad called telling us to go pick them up. We drive up and there are fire trucks, an ambulance and police cars everywhere. Even though we'd already been told they were alright I thought I would explode. There is our car flipped on the roof, headed the wrong way, in a ditch. All I could think of was my baby had been in there. That was 3 hours ago. Everyone else is asleep; I can't sleep.

I'm 38 wks pregnant. My dh doesn't have a job. His car was just totalled - thankfully we got another one 2 days ago (so for two glorious days we were a two car family). I've been having contractions on and off for 2 months now. My husband was gonefor almost 2 months and just got home a week ago; my MIL passed away 2 weeks ago. I honestly don't know how much more stress I can take. I need to sleep, but all I can do is lay there and touch my son. I finally got up because I was rousing him.

Sorry I know this has nothing to do with pregnancy. This is just where I've been spending most my time. All I could think of when I got out of bed was that I might feel better if I could just "say" it.
post #2 of 11
OMG BJ.... I'm so glad everyone is ok, and so worried about you! I don't think I could ever handle seeing a car that dd was riding in upside down like that. I get chills just thinking about it! Like I said before, I really wish you lived near me or visa versa. Keep your chin up the best you can, know that someone out there cares and I wish I could do something to help you out...
post #3 of 11
oh sweetie I'm all teary eyed. Big hugs, I can't imagine how hard that must have been to see. I would have freaked too. Just lots of hugs coming your way. You'll be in my thoughts.
post #4 of 11
Oh BoobyJuice!
You just aren't getting any breaks! My heart was pounding just reading your post--I'm so glad everyone is okay!! I don't think I would have been able to sleep either. That must have been SO scary!

We're here for you! Really, if there's anything we can do, please let us know. Try to rest and love on your family lots!!

post #5 of 11
Oh mama! I can't imagine how your feeling.
post #6 of 11
Oh, mama! at least today is Sunday, if you can, allow yourself to stay in bed surroundend by your precious children. I can't imagine how you felt! Please come here to vent/rant/post or to do whatever it feels good.
Hugs to you!
post #7 of 11
I'm so glad everyone is okay! I can't imagine how frightening that must have been.

I hope you are able to let go of the adrenaline and get some sleep before this baby comes.

s
post #8 of 11
Oh mama. I am so sorry you are stressed. You have so much on your plate. Can I be annoying and try to offer the alternate view of things--perhaps that would help. I do this to myself so that I don't get bogged down by life sometimes.

*Your car is totalled. You mom didn't total another car and you don't have to pay for it out of pocket. Or worse--hurt someone else.

*There was an accident. Your mom wasn't killed. Your son is ALIVE and well. With you. Right now. You are not making plans for funerals or sitting in an ICU.

*Your dh is unemployed. He doesn't have cancer. He isn't unemployable--this is just temporary. (I know of what I speak--my dh is unemployed right now, too)

*You are uncomfortable and stressed because of the pg. You are pg with a healthy baby and having hormonal changes that make things magnified. You are a "magic factory" (my dh's term for pregnancy) and about to bless the world with another wonderful person.

I am not offering this to belittle any of your stresses---it's just that I think sometimes it's good to go the other way because if you dwell too much on what isn't right, you might forget what is....

s
post #9 of 11
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone. All that matters is that they unhurt. I'm just sstarting to have a persecution complex - I'm starting to feel like the universe is out to get me jesse, you are right that everything has a positive side. It's just been so many things in a row, you know what I mean? (Just found out today for instance that one of my best friends has been in the hospital for 3 days)

Just scary. They're fine; I just keep seeing this totalled car smashed up in a ditch. As much as you know they're OK you can't help but get glimpses of what if. All I can say is thankfully he's always in a carseat. So many people around here have kids loose in cars or just in seat belts - you see it all the time. I think he may be in a car seat until he's old enough to drive .

My poor mother is still so shaken. She has driven in snow and ice and rain and never skidded before. Forty years of driving and no accidents, fender benders or even tickets. She finally has an accident and her grandchild is with her. The police officer last night asked if she was a real animal lover and was upset about almost hitting the elk. Ummm, no, she was upset about rolling the car with her grandchild in it . . . wierd.

Tomorrow is another day. We'll see if we can get through it without something going wrong. Still have hospital bags to pack - maybe if we can just have nothing happen long enough for me to get prepared for this one it would be something. . .
post #10 of 11
Post Traumatic Stress is something to consider in this situation. I am no expert on PTS, but know that there are varying forms. I was in a car accident when I was 34 weeks pg with Zoe. We were T-boned--the car that ran the light hit the back of my car and spun us around and onto a curb. I went into labor right away and had to spend about 15 hrs in the hospital on a terbutaline drip. After the accident, I had some serious issues with PTS even though everything was fine. I would look into it online and see if there is anything you can suggest to your mom (and you!) that might help with the recurring visions. I am really succeptable to waking nightmares--where I relive or create scenes of disaster. They got really bad when I had Zoe. I think it's a form of depression for me. Anyway, since I've been aware of them, I've been able to control them more.

HTH. Lots of love, my dear.

Jesse
post #11 of 11
I am glad that everyone is okay. I agree with Jesse, try to look on the positive side.
Take care of yourself and try to get some sleep.
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