Thank you mamas for all your support and validation.n I've never been a mom before, I don't have any friends IRL who are moms, and I wasn't sure if I was just being overly-over-protective about the situation.
*sigh* I really really want to stay here, as it truly is ideal. We eat only organic food, have no toxic chemicals in the house, recycle like mad, have a compost pile, are politically active and active in the community as a whole, support organizations that are eco/human-rights/animal friendly, practice primarily holistic & homeopathic treatments, etc etc etc. If we do not live here, I will not be able to afford (time-wise and financially both) to continue many of these living philosophies.
Before moving here, DD and I lived alone outside of town, and the isolation was not good for my mental health. I am combatting severe depression and if I am not directly involved, drawn out, if you will, I tend to spiral downward quickly and just sleep all day.
So I guess what I'm doing now is a bunch of wishful-thinking that the whole negative situation simply didn't exist. And in the meantime, I'm having a confidential meeting with the collective president in order to discuss what rights I have to instigate getting M removed from the house. We decide everything collectively, which means that if one person (other than M) blocks the proposal, we go into mediation, etc, in order to resolve the conflict.
I can't move ASAP anyways, due to lack of funds, so this will at least get the ball rolling to possibly be able to stay here and buy me some time to look somewhere else as well.
On the upside, the national co-op meeting is the first weekend in November (in Michigan - fun!) and one of the workshops I'm participating in is parenting in the co-ops. So hopefully there will be other mama coopers there to offer advice as well.
Thanks sooooo much again!