Originally Posted by guerrillamama
This is a good point. Hippiemama I lived in a co-op-ish situation once, not as much process as yours, very UNdemocratic in fact, not to mention dysfunctional, but still like all co-ops very process heavy - it would take several meetings to decide what kind of dish soap to buy... I'm sure you know exactly the kind of meetings I'm talking about. Anyway, despite all that, when action was needed, we acted swiftly. There was a single mom in our house who got involved w/ another housemate. He became emotionally abusive. I believed (based on what I'd seen of their relationship and what I knew of him - which was a lot) that it was going to escalate to physical abuse. I asked her permission to call a house meeting w/ everyone but him. At that meeting we consensed that for the sake of the kids as well as our integrity as a house, we would ask him to leave immediately, which we did.
The rest of the story actually goes way downhill from there, but THE POINT is that my housemates did know how to make a swift decision when it came to protecting the kids. So, maybe you shouldn't rule out that possibility?
One of my housemates has made it clear to me that if we were to leave over this issue (rather than him leaving), she would leave too, in protest. This new fact has helped me feel like it is within my rights to ask the house to oust him, and if they say no, then it is within my rights to leave myself. So I am getting there - albeit slower than many of you would wish!! - but with your help.
And yes, GM, it somehow can take far too long to decide upon dishsoap.