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post #41 of 75
Congratulations on the new house, Karen!

I'm curious to hear more about how parents with co-sleeping kids are going to cope. We're hoping to both transition ds to a big boy bed (in his own room down the hall) and potty-train him in the next few months. Phew! It's not the end of the world if neither of these happens (although I think he is old enough to handle both gracefully) but it would be nice. After the election, of course
post #42 of 75
Thread Starter 
Got to see the heartbeat today!!! OH so cool! Makes me breathe a little easier. I'd forgotten how tiny they still are at this point!

During evening prayers, DH is saying with Maddie: God bless Mommy and Daddy and Maddie and Ellyisa and Number 3. He figured it was specific enough for God and vague enough in case Maddie repeated it before we had told anyone! She saw the u/s pics today and said that doesn't look like a number 3. :LOL

My first appointment is next week. I don't think DH will come along because we won't be able to hear a heartbeat. He'll come for the rest of the appointments. I'm not at all nervous about going to the doctor. She is new as far as a provider toes, but I met her a few years ago. She's great and I've talked to several of her patients who have had good things to say about her.

Michelle
post #43 of 75
We got to see the heartbeat yesterday, too!

We have Kaiser (blech!) and I need them to give us a referral to the Birthing Center--they were practically rolling their eyes, trying to convince me to take thier classes (hospital tour and all. Uh no thanks--been there, done that!), and the nurse actually seemed disappointed that there was nothing on the long list of birth center exclusions that applied to us. Good god.

In other (puking) news: more of same. Yet, somehow, managed to gain 4 pounds already.

Sonogram due date: June 12. It can't come soon enough!!

Hope everyone is well!
post #44 of 75
I FEEL AWFUL. I got so sick after breakfast, I had to leave the restaurant and sit in the car, taking deep cleansing breaths to avoid losing the eggs I had so recently digested. Then my mom stopped by my office, unannounced, apparently, just to tell me that I look like crap. Thanks, mom.

The nausea is subsiding, thank God, because I have to go close on my house in a few hours, and if I feel like this, I might just spend most of my time signing papers in the bathroom. :LOL

I'm jealous of everyone who's gotten to see their babies and hear the heartbeats. I can't WAIT for my appointment! It's only two weeks away, but it feels like forever! :LOL
post #45 of 75
Well...today I go in to my primary care doc for a blood pregnancy test. The nurse doesn't seem to believe that I'm pregnant. It is really strange. I've never been to this doc even though I've been assigned to him for awhile. I just hadn't been sick or anything. So, I called in the other day to say that I need to go to an OB because I'm pregnant. (I have to get a referral from the doc to go anywhere) And the nurse asked me if I'd gotten a positive pregnancy test. I told her that I'd had two positives. She asked what brand of test I used and I told her it was a Dollar Store test and she was like, "Oh, well...we need to do a bloodtest then...I'm sure that's not reliable." Geez! I told her that the positives were over a week ago and that AF was a week late and I had symptoms of pregnancy. Then she asked me how old I am in this exasperated voice. (I sound very young) And I told her 22. She asked if it was my first pg and I said yes. And she said that I don't know what it feels like to be pg, so how could I know? Can you believe that? But anyways...I go in a few hours for the blood test.

I do hope I'll be able to go to a midwife, but I don't know what my insurance will cover. I have medicaid. : My mom said she thinks they will send me to a midwife and not an OB because it's cheaper for them, but I'm not so sure about that. We'll see.

And I actually got a good night's sleep last night! woohoo!

And here's a question? Will any of you be registering for the baby? If so, where? My mom wants me to go ahead and register so that she can go ahead and get things for the baby for christmas. And that's fine with me. But the only place I know of to register is Babies R Us and they have overpriced crap for the most part. And they don't have slings and hardly any cloth diapers. Any ideas?
post #46 of 75
Going to interview the midwife(s) today. I'm pretty sure we'll go with this practice, as most of my friends love them, and I can't remember hearing anything bad about them. As long as we seem to get along personality wise, I'm sure it'll be OK. Of course she has to be willing to take me with all my stipulations! LOL The only one I see her maybe having a problem with is refusing the rogham at 28 weeks. I can't decide if I want to bring it up at the interview, or wait until I'm closer, lol. My last MW (no longer working) didn't have a problem with it, as long as I submitted to frequent anti-body screens. I figure gettting blood drawn is better than getting a shot!

No ms so far today - which is a relief! I am so behind in so many things, and my house is trashed! Maybe I'll have enough energy to get half of it done. I'm sure it won't last though, since I'm only 7.5 weeks along.
post #47 of 75
NightOwl, what a crappy nurse! I was barely 22 when I got pregnant, so I can relate to the attitude that some people give young mamas. :

I was SO sick yesterday afternoon. I could barely move. I had to lay down on my bed for like two hours. Thank goodness dd played mostly on her own. When that didn't work anymore, I reluctantly turned on PBS.... I hate to do that, but I really really felt like I was going to spew if I had to do anything more than lay very still. Luckily, she watched for about thirty minutes, then nursed and took her first nap in over a week

I would love to hear some ideas about where to register as well. We did Target last time

Gotta Run Mamas, hope you all have a wonderful day

ETA: Congrats Karen!!!!! Woo - Hoo!!!
post #48 of 75
we're registering at target i think. registering for washclothes, some sleepers and onsies, the carrier peter likes, a carseat, and king size sheets (since we're getting a new bigger bed). we're gonna register just before thanksgiving so we don't have to fight crowds, but we will be near the end of the first trimester. also, if people wanna get us any of that stuff for christmas they can.

aja
post #49 of 75
oh, and here are pics of our little hogwart. if you know what your looking for in a sonogram pics, the bottom ones are the best. it's still early, so hard to see anything. mostly we saw the heart beating in the office and it was amazing!

http://www.netsavior.com/netsavior/baby/hogwart.jpg

aja
post #50 of 75
Hey Girls!

I'm back from my first prenatal with a new OB who I love! Gosh he was so nice to me, so unexpected from the last bad experience I had. Anyhow, I go back in just 2 weeks. I have to go every 2 weeks... I'm such a high risk, and I'm glad he wants to keep a good eye on me. Very encouraging. He said everything looked fine, uterus was measuring at least 8 weeks, so I'm right on track. Of course he said I'd most likely be induced to recurrent pre-e, but we'll hope for the best. He said lots of ultrasounds and non-stress tests.. I know it is a LOT of intervention, but since I had Elijah stillborn, I WANT a lot of intervention! So it went well, and I'll go again in 2 weeks

Still a lot of nausea... Went to lunch with DH today and I had to breathe deeply between every bit LOL But then once I'm full I feel fine.. Its just the empty stomach that makes me feel really sick!
post #51 of 75
Hiya Gals,

I'm sorry I don't have the time for personals right now this nausea is really getting bad. The good news is that it seems to start out worse in the morning and get better throughout the day which is the opposite of my 2nd pregnancy and more like my 1st pregnancy. I'd rather have it like that!

I am so annoyed at my ob's office--long story short--for two days I could not get anyone to call me back to let me know the results of my hcg blood test and I had to actually go down there with two little ones in tow and DEMAND to have access to my chart for my results. The receptionist wouldn't let me see my OWN test results because my cnm wasn't there to release them but all she told me was that "Everything was normal".

I mean, isn't it against the law to not let me have access to my own chart?? I went down to the lab twice last week and gave my blood and they wouldn't give me the lab results?? How dare they?!!???

I was livid. So, I'm now going to email another midwife in town and see if I can switch practices.

It's funny, I feel so self-righteous about this whole pregnancy. I'm in my mid-thirties and this is my third pregnancy and there's no way in heck that I'm not going to get everything that I want, the way I want it, when I want it. I feel for you younger ladies because I remember what it's like to be condescended to and it's so unfair. Just try to stay calm and simply demand in no uncertain terms what you want. The whole medical establishment just pisses me off sometimes!!

Sigh. I really should just do a homebirth because I don't think I have the patience for all this crap this time around.

Thanks for listening to my ranting. I feel better now

For those with bad nausea, try keeping a lemon at your desk/in your purse and whenever you get a bad wave just snif it deeply. This has saved me through two pregnancies. Anytime an offensive smell arises, just breathe deeply into the lemon and it really helps!
post #52 of 75
Pepper: Because of HIPPA, it's illegal now to give out lab results. Only your actual care provider can give you the results. Yes, it's annoying but it's supposed to protect our privacy.
post #53 of 75
I'm still soooooooooooo tired ALL the time. I'm 8w3d according to u/s last week. My house is trashed, I'm so behind on laundry, and I have to force myself to make food to feed the boys and myself. I have been craving the weirdest things for the strangest reasons. Like, watching a tv show last night, they were eating sandwiches and I HAD to get us all dressed and go to the store and buy white bread and bologna. Gag!!! But it was SO good.
Nausea is still not too bad, as long as I take my iron and B6 first thing in the morning. Then I take a B12 if I still feel icky. Can't take my prenatals b/c those make me sick. I see-saw b/t being hungry and slightly nauseous and then being full and feeling like I could pop, even after eating a small amount. Like 9 bites of pasta the other night. I was starving and made it, then was so full I coulnd't move. Very strange.
I had an u/s last week I think, or maybe the week before? The 12th, guess it's been 2 weeks. ANway, saw and heard h/b, 120bpm. Seemed slow, but was good to see it anyway. Go back next wed for a second u/s for whatever reason, but I won't turn it down just b/c I was a little nervous after the last one. Then labwork and when I get those results I'll call for my records to be sent to MW.
post #54 of 75
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Originally Posted by Pepper
It's funny, I feel so self-righteous about this whole pregnancy. I'm in my mid-thirties and this is my third pregnancy and there's no way in heck that I'm not going to get everything that I want, the way I want it, when I want it. I feel for you younger ladies because I remember what it's like to be condescended to and it's so unfair. Just try to stay calm and simply demand in no uncertain terms what you want. The whole medical establishment just pisses me off sometimes!!

Sigh. I really should just do a homebirth because I don't think I have the patience for all this crap this time around.


Yeah Pepper!! Demand away, use those hormones to your full advantage :LOL

I am having a homebirth and I am so lucky, I found a wonderful midwife who is letting me call ALL the shots and deny any and every intervention. I am so pleased.
post #55 of 75
I ate McDonald's for lunch today .... :
post #56 of 75

[B]Had my 1st appointment today[/B]

Hi all

It's been fun reading how everyone is doing! Wow, this thread is so LONG already and it's only Wed.! This is so much fun, going through the pregnancy day by day with other people and comparing symptoms, worries, questions, etc.!

As I read through everybody's updates, there was so much I wanted to respond to personally, but there was just SO MUCH- I can't possibly.

It is really encouraging to read that others don't have too many symptoms either. Add me to the club. Although it would be miserable to have nausea all day, it is also really worrisome not to have anything at all! I just started feeling 'fat' yesterday- kind of my whole stomach area! And I totally identify with being hungry but not a lot is appealing. Today I had this vision of a veggie sub- so I put ds in the stroller and off we went to Subway for a footlong with extra pickles, onions, hot peppers, mmmmmmm! Whoever talked about the savory foods- I am right there with you! Give me garlic, onions, pickles, olives anytime! Or salt and vinegar chips- my ultimate favorite.

Anyway, I had my first appointment today- just as I thought, too early to hear the heartbeat. I did get my hcg levels drawn though so I'll find out about that tomorrow. She gave me a referral for an u/s if I want it just to assuage my fears, but I think if the hcg level is good then I won't do the u/s. So I'll have to wait 4 more looooong weeks until I can hear anything :

And to whoever talked about their mil having cancer- I am really sorry to hear about that- I do hope this pregnancy can be a ray of light in your family. We are visiting my grandfather this w/e who is in the last stages of cancer. I am going to tell my family then since I don't see them in person very often and I hope it will be a happy positive thing for them all to think about in the midst of this tough time.

Whoever was afraid of doctors- I am a health professional so being too close to what goes on behind the scenes has really soured me on the whole medical profession. You might want to think about seeing if there is a midwife you could go to, you will be amazed at the difference in how care is approached. YOU get a say in what happens and are treated like a partner is the whole process- I think a lot of OB's forget that it's YOUR baby and YOUR birth! Of course not every single doctor is like that- just speaking from my own personal and professional expereinces!

Ok, I guess I've written enough Have a great week ladies!
post #57 of 75
Wow there's a lot of mommas here
I wish I could reply to everyone but short term pregnancy memory is already getting the best of me so I'll reply to what I can remember without going through all the posts, and of course according to how much time I have before my little guy wakes up.
Early in the summer we started ttc and I began to get positive pregnancy tests with the Target brand, but right at the 10 minute mark. So I went in to my primary care doctor's office and asked for a pregnancy test. Of course their urine test was negative. So I had planned on lying about my lmp so I could get an hcg quant which is what ended up happening.
I went to the lab and had it drawn, then two days later I hadn't heard anything. I called the dr's office and they're like yes it's here but you have to COME IN TO GET THE RESULTS. They couldn't tell me over the phone. I knew this was hippa, however no one told me this. No lay person would know at their appt that they'd have to plan on coming in again.
I ended up having my friend who works in another doctor's office call the lab and have them fax it to me. It ended up being negative but still man. It was annoying as *$*&#!!!!
Now, when I had the blighted ovum, I had an hcg drawn every week until it went down to zero. Each week someone would call me back THE NEXT DAY with the results, even on my answering machine. I did sign a consent saying that it was alright for them to do this though. Every doctor's office should do this. Who has the time, even a stay at home mom, to haul butt to the doctor's office?!?!? It's pissing me off just thinking about it.
And yes the condescending thing is so awful wether you're very young or you're, well, not old, but not in your 20's I think people tend to see pregnant women as vulerable and child like, especially Nurse Ratchett's. I can't beleive the nerve people have when they say certain things. In the medical community of all places you really need to remain neutral and humor your patients even though you may not want to.
Anyway still status quo here except I think I'm starting with the hot flashes. I saw a woman last night for my job who had an 18 month old and a newborn. We started talking about it and she wasn't having an easy time.... The heat started at the back of my neck and just SPREAD. Seems like it was triggered by the conversation lol!! Even though my son will be close to 5 when the baby is born I worry about what will happen. I worry mostly financially, but all around worry is more like it.
Well time to go
Take care ladies,
Karen
post #58 of 75
Wow so much has happened in just one day! Yeah to mclisa, monkey mom, and twouglyducks for seeing the hb!!! Aja - those pics are so wonderful. I keep looking at mine and then I think how stupid it is to look at them because I can't see ANYTHING!! Sometimes I see a little frog, sometimes a shrimp. There is one that kind of looks like there might be a head and a body so I mostly look at that one. Of course, I realize I am probably not even looking at the right part!

I have also started thinking about registering. We aren't really close to a BabiesRUs but there is a Target here. I have heard of places online where you can register and add things from any store. Does anyone know anything about that?? I get so overwhelmed just thinking of everything we have to buy. I think it would be helpful for me to register just to be able to compile a list.

As far as symptoms go, I am in the "not having much" pile. My breast tenderness seems to be waning although they are a bit sore today. No m/s although very rarely I will have the slightest bit of a sensitive stomach. I am pretty much useless in the afternoon although not usually tired enough to really take a nap. Karen - I am glad you mentioned the hot flashes. I do get those sometimes. I have taken my temp a few times because I didn't know what was going on and it was 99.2 each time.

Oh, I read about a site called qualitycheck.org where you can check up on your hospital (for those giving birth there). It rates hospitals on different criteria - heart care, pnemonia, pregnancy, etc. Of course, both of the hospitals here don't have any data for pregnancy.
post #59 of 75
Oh, one more question - does anyone know how to find your hospital's c-section rate? Do you call the hospital? I am using a mw clinic associated with the hospital. Should I just ask them? Would their rate be different than the hospital in general?
post #60 of 75
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Originally Posted by paniscus
Oh, one more question - does anyone know how to find your hospital's c-section rate? Do you call the hospital? I am using a mw clinic associated with the hospital. Should I just ask them? Would their rate be different than the hospital in general?

I would ask the MW at the clinic. While hospital policy would have a set of rules for what HAS to have a section (like breech, etc) they may have more leeway with stuff like how long each phase of labor is. And how long you get to push for. So I'm sure their rate would be a little bit lower, and they should know what it is.
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