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post #41 of 59
10/27/04 at 1:47am
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Hi mamas. Thank you for the kind words. I find out tomorrow when the funeral is & we'll be going down (my mom is watching our boys). I think the people at Walgreens think I'm nuts b/c I have been taking in all of the disposable cameras I can find at our house trying to find the pictures from our last visit with her. I am so glad that my boys were able to meet her & spend time with her & that we were able to get a lot of pictures together. We should find out the cause of her passing tomorrow. It will help me process it to at least find out what happened. I can't get my mind around it. How can a healthy 20 year old go to sleep & not wake up? Her son is with his dad's sister.

It's going to be a difficult trip down there, not only b/c of losing my sister, but b/c I don't know most of my bio-dad's family besides my siblings & their moms. It's going to be weird meeting everyone else, b/c I have chosen never to have contact with them for many reasons. But my sister would want me there & I want to be there to honor her. Sorry if this post is jumbled, I'm not really thinking straight right now. Thanks again mamas for your kind words. It's good to know I'm not alone.

AmiBeth
post #42 of 59
10/27/04 at 1:48am
oh, I'm so, so, so, sorry.
post #43 of 59
10/27/04 at 5:42am
I'm so sorry for your loss.
post #44 of 59
10/27/04 at 7:05am
post #45 of 59
10/27/04 at 2:12pm
I'm so sorry to hear about your sister, I'm also glad to that you found each other before this tragedy. Having lost a brother at that same age I truly feel your pain.
post #46 of 59
10/28/04 at 4:15pm
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The preliminary autopsy revealed nothing. There was absolutely NO evidence of any physical trauma. No anuerysm, no blood clot, heart looked normal. Everything visable during the autopsy looked normal. The coroner said that "she looks like a healthy 20-year-old who simply fell asleep." The bloodwork, etc. will be back in 4 weeks. It is so frustrating to have NO idea what happened & why she is gone. We go down Sunday for the viewing & the service is Monday.

AmiBeth
post #47 of 59
10/28/04 at 4:33pm
Again, I am very sorry to hear about this. It is fustrating when you dont have a "reason". I hope you and your family will get some answers ASAP.
post #48 of 59
10/28/04 at 4:35pm
So sorry for the loss of your sister.
post #49 of 59
10/28/04 at 4:38pm
All Blessings to you and your family, what a terrible shock. I'm sorry for your loss.
post #50 of 59
10/28/04 at 4:39pm
Amibeth - I hope you get some answers. My thoughts are with you and your family.
post #51 of 59
10/28/04 at 4:41pm
I can't even begin to imagine. A sisterly bond is so amazing. I am so very very sorry for your loss.

((((hugs))))

Kimberly
post #52 of 59
10/28/04 at 5:04pm
My heart goes out to you I hope there are some answers to be found
post #53 of 59
10/28/04 at 5:13pm
Wow. s to you and your family. I know that there really aren't words that will make it easier, but I wanted to say that my thoughts are with you. Strength be with you as you face the next few days.
post #54 of 59
10/28/04 at 7:23pm
Oh, AmiBeth, I am SO SO SO sorry! You have had so much to deal with over the last year w/ your sons health & everything else. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers!!

We recently went through something similar. DH lost his Bio. father & we too had to go to a funeral & meet people he "should have" known, but didn't. It ended up being a great chance for him to honor his father by connecting with his astranged family members. Some he didnt even know he had!

MUCH LOVE to you, sweetie!!!
post #55 of 59
10/28/04 at 9:40pm
My heart goes out to you Mama.

You're in my thoughts & prayers.

A really good friend of my adult DD's died suddenly.
He was 21. No reason at all.
His heart just stopped.
After intensive tests.. that's all that was figured out.
I know this is especially hard because it does not provide needed closure.

As humans, we want a reason why.

It makes no sense.

Please take care of yourself.
Give yourself time to grieve.

Know that you have friends here
post #56 of 59
10/29/04 at 1:44am
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Ms.Doula~ Hi. It has been a tough year. God is definitely using all of these things to work in our lives. I just keep telling myself that I know He has a plan & He can see the big picture while we can't. I am glad to hear that your DH had a positive experience in meeting estranged family, it really helps me feel more at peace with that aspect.

Nursing Mother~ I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing about your son. I will look up myocarditis, I've never heard of it before. I really hope that when the toxicology & bloodwork come back they'll be able to tell us something.

Everyone else~ Thank you again for your kind words of support. They mean more than you know. Thank you to those of you who have shared stories of similar experiences.

AmiBeth
post #57 of 59
10/29/04 at 2:47am
BIG for ya!!!


(now go to bed!!)
post #58 of 59
10/29/04 at 11:01am
I'm very sorry for your loss.
post #59 of 59
10/29/04 at 1:12pm
My heart really goes out to you and your family right now. This community is wonderful and please know that we are here to listen and hold you.

Hugs~

Lisa
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