Re: Baby stuffI have to agree with both Anna and Vanessa.
With my first we had every single baby contraption -- crib, changing table, swing, stroller/carriage, exasaucer... the list goes on and on. And we kept most of the crap through the years mainly because we are pack rats and feel guilty about getting rid of something someone had given us. I think that if you are NOT attachment parenting, co-sleeping or breastfeeding the stuff is a neccessary. I didn't do any of the above with DS #1 and truthfully used all those contraptions.
With DS #2 I didn't use any of the above (the AP lightbulb went off in my head!!) minus the crib at about 20 months when he night weaned. It was the right time for him to start sleeping in same room as his brother. That only lasted 3-4 months since he started climbing out and we bought him a real bed.
Well the crib has not been moved out of the basement in 4 years. The changing table serves as Gabriel's dresser with the addition of wicker baskets. I was given a lovely moses basket but never really used it, maybe this time around? My Maya wraps (yes, I have more than one) are the absolute best investment I ever made. As for the stroller, swing and exasaucer they were all given to friends who were in need. I might pick up a lightweight stroller once "peanut" is born so Gabriel can have a place to ride when we are out and about but I don't do much mall shopping... so where else do i need to contain him?
I need to get new carseats for the both G-boy and "peanut". Gabriel is riding in his brother's hand me down carseat and while it is still in good shape you should replace carseats more than 5 years old because they can get brittle and lose some of their safety-ness. I think we will be getting him a booster/5 pt harness type and the baby will get a convertable (5lb-40lb) type. My babies are big when born, I have a bad wrist and can't see how to wrangle a toddler and a NB in one of those bucket type carseats.
So outside of clothes, dipes, a good supply of recieving blankets (which double as emergency dipes, burp cloths, cover while BF in public (if you are so inclined)) a carseat and a sling/carrier of sorts, there isn't much that a new baby needs outside of your warms arms and nourishing breasts the first year of life.