Originally Posted by natashaccat
Is this standard practice or is my hospital really bad?
this is my take on hospital deliveries......... and it's just my perception of things.
ok, in the average hospital say 85 % get drugs. probably more, but say 85%. a mom walks in and has no birth plan in place, LOTS OF first time moms are like this. a nurse asseses them and asks them about their pain, and do they want something? MOST nurses are going to assume that the mom wants drugs unless they are told otherwise, why? because 85% of the moms that deliver there ask for drugs. also, discussing the pros and cons, most nurses will assume that the DR went over all of the options in their office well before labor has begun. once you are in labor and in pain the last thing you really hear is the pros and cons of certain meds. so, if a mom walks in and KNOWS that she wants natural childbirth then that is made very clear as soon as she walks through the door.
i think that we all know what kind of birth we envision, before it starts to happen. IRL i know of very few people that had completely natural, drug free births. most of the moms that i know IRL had drugs of some kind, and always planned to. i don't think it's really the nurses or hospitals faults, as much as people making the decision to have drugs, and that really is such a personal decision. it's like what's right for the goose might not be right for the gander.
if you know a mom that is on the fence, then make sure she does some real soul searching before she even goes into labor. any mom that is not 100% in her decision will most likely take the offer of drugs at some point. i've seen it happen. not because the RN was pushy, but because the moms just weren't prepared to go the distance with their decision for a natural birth.
as for the breastfeeding analogy. that is another area where the mom has to be 100% committed. again, i know way too many moms that had positive thoughts of breastfeeding, then the baby was born and wanted to eat constantly, and they weren't prepared for that in the least. moms aren't comfortable with nursing in public or infront of other family members. i know that there are bags that are given out to nursing moms at the hospital where i worked, they didn't contain formula. but i don't think this is the breaking point for moms that want to nurse but end up formula feeding. i don't think it's the free formula, as much as it is the fact that they weren't 100% into their decision to breastfeed.
i have conversations like these with expectant mothers all of the time. i will say one more thing about hospital births. if you KNOW that you are not going to be happy in a hospital setting, even if you have a very detailed birthplan that you have gone over with your OB/MW and your ped, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't have a hospital birth. your birth should be what you want to remember it being, and you don't want negative memories. trust me when i say, it's easy to get what you want if you are proactive and make your feelings known WELL before hand. these are great conversations to have with your health care providers. there is another poster here that is an RN and we both agree that you shouldn't be in a hospital if being in a hospital is going to make you angry with your birth process.................... it's not worth it!