Sept 04 mamas welcome to November! - Page 2

[msrog]

Steph, have you tried laying a microfleece liner in the prefold? That worked wonders for us...

[StacyL]

Hi Everybody!

I've been out of town since Friday morning - we got back after a ten hour drive last night.

We went to Cleveland for a conference, and I am so exhausted. Note to self: it was a little overly ambitious to take a long road trip with a six-week-old. There were about 200 people there and everyone fawned all over Alex saying how good (!) he was, and how cute, and how alert he was. He really was awake most of the time in the day. He was really social - craning his neck over my shoulder and holding his head up, wide-eyed, trying to look at everyone.

Had to sleep without the Miracle Blanket last night (it got peed on) and that was hard. He flails way to much to sleep comfortably next to me without the Miracle Blanket.

Has anyone had, er..ahem, "relations" with their dh yet? It's been six weeks (my appt is Thurs.) and I am nowhere near ready. I mean, the IDEA of it sounds good, but I know my body couldn't take it yet. How long does this usually take?

[veganbaby]

We tried twice. The first time it was too painful. That was at almost 7 weeks. We tried again last night, but Desmina woke up. I 'm not going to do it while my babe is crying. Although my husband wanted to do a quickie. He usually isn't like that but it's been a long time for us.

[janerose]

Originally Posted by StacyL

Has anyone had, er..ahem, "relations" with their dh yet? It's been six weeks (my appt is Thurs.) and I am nowhere near ready. I mean, the IDEA of it sounds good, but I know my body couldn't take it yet. How long does this usually take?

Yes, for the first time on Sunday (about 5 1/2 wks). It wasn't painful, although I was a little tender for the rest of the night. Actually it was VERY good...if you get my drift Which was nice since my libido while I was pregnant basically didn't exist.

Anyway, I had an unmedicated vaginal delivery. No episotomy. I tore a little bit and needed four stitches. Oh, and Emi was only 7 lb 3 oz when she was born. I imagine if you had a more traumatic delivery or a larger baby it may take longer to get back into it, KWIM?

[MamaAcorn]

Originally Posted by StacyL
Has anyone had, er..ahem, "relations" with their dh yet? It's been six weeks (my appt is Thurs.) and I am nowhere near ready. I mean, the IDEA of it sounds good, but I know my body couldn't take it yet. How long does this usually take?

We did at 4-1/2 weeks pp without any pain, which shocked me. It was actually pretty nice. I had a 2nd degree tear, but it's been healing well and hasn't been giving any problem, so I thought why not try.

Though with my first-born, I had a 4th degree tear and we didn't try having sex until 8-10 weeks pp, and it was painful. It took a few times for it not to hurt, but then it was better than it ever had been.

Definately depends on your delivery, at least in my case!

[adventuregirl]

Leigh, what a bummer! I have been so happy with the idea that af will not return for quite some time due to nursing. Well, maybe it won't be back full force, every month for you right away.

Is anyone here doing the tcoyf method of birth control? I think there is another name for it, but it escapes me now. Anyway, I used it with cervical mucous only for years, and then got pg really easy using it as well. But now after having had a baby and no af in sight (I really, really hope), I'm not sure what to do... What are y'all doing?

Well, I better get moving, gotta go vote and drop off some soup for my neighbors who had a baby yesterday, yahoo! More babies!

[JenInMpls]

Yes, women, please, please, get out and vote today. Even if you think your vote is only going to be cancelled out by your husband/partner/sister/mom, vote anyway. EVERY VOTE COUNTS!

We voted today around 9 AM and Tristan was wide-eyed, taking it all in. He even got an "I Voted" sticker on the sling.

I am working today to figure out what he wants before he has to yell for it. So far I caught hunger once, but it's such a pain to get the SNS hooked up in time to beat him to the punch, or rather the scream, and I can't wear it around the house all day because formula needs refrigeration. I feel so horrible when he's so hungry, most times he gets it cold because there simply isn't time to warm it up. He doesn't seem to care one bit as long as he gets to eat.

I looked at the label of the Fuzzi Bunz... cotton fleece? How do they make fleece out of cotton?

Well, T is still napping in the co-sleeper and I really feel like I ought to get stuff done while he's still down. Despite the night's sleep I feel pretty bright-eyed and bushy-tailed today. (I did get to go to sleep around 9:30, though - bless Jo a thousand times over...) I washed all of the dishes, boiled water for formula, even made myself some coffee and scrambled eggs... ostensibly I'm supposed to be sleeping now but I just don't want to!

j

[colinsmom]

Originally Posted by StacyL

Hi Everybody!
Has anyone had, er..ahem, "relations" with their dh yet? It's been six weeks (my appt is Thurs.) and I am nowhere near ready. I mean, the IDEA of it sounds good, but I know my body couldn't take it yet. How long does this usually take?

I haven't with dh yet. It will be 8 weeks tomorrow. I just don't have the desire. I had a difficult birth and tore pretty bad. The midwife didn't want to tell me how many stitches she put in, but she was down there forever stitching me up. To tell you the truth, I don't want to know......it might hinder relations even more. I'm still a little tender in one area. On the bright side, I've had a couple dreams about sex so that's a positive. I'm starting to feel sort of guilty and selfish and have thought of giving it to dh even though I might not be into it.

[msrog]

With Nicolas, I tore 2nd degree and was still sore at 6 weeks, so I know we waited longer than that. This time around I healed much faster and better; and we were ready at 5 weeks. The thought of it was worse than the act... Turns out there really wasn't any pain after all! So maybe you'll find your fears unfounded, as well?

[HeatherB]

I've been interested in resuming relations with DH, at least on an emotional level, but physically I'm very anxious about it. With my first, I had a c/s, but we still "tried" after only 4 or 5 weeks. This time, I had tearing that my midwife said was bad 1st but not 2nd degree, and she also didn't tell me how many stitches. She also took a long time but she said she's just slow. I have some feeling that things are not quite the same now, which makes it harder to do anything normally, even if everything is fine. I did finally "give in" but it was too painful. Almost felt like there was a stitch that hadn't dissolved or something. We were past 6 wks but hadn't seen the MW again yet, so we decided it was better to wait until she could check and tell me everything was fine. We have our follow up appt scheduled with the MW for next Saturday (just shy of 9 wks), so hopefully everything will be good and we'll give it another try. Though sometimes I think we'll just never have more children 'cause I'll never want to "try" again!

[cancat]

msrog - does it matter what kind of fleece it is? I made some liners but they don't seem THAT dry. It was 100% polyester, but isn't most fleece?

Maybe I'll check out the FB fleece and see if I can find something like it (they're a little too pricey for me to buy that many...).

[greenbeing]

I'm feeling a little anxious myself about getting together with dh. I didn't tear or anything, so I don't know why I'm being such a scardy (spelling??) cat. We'll see, maybe soon...

Jen and Anna, I remember reading that you're fitting into your pre-preg pants already. Please tell me how you did it!!! I know I'm only going to be 5 weeks, but it seems like I'll never fit into them! i can do the pants with elastic, but anything with buttons seems like they'll be sitting there forever. Any help?

[msrog]

I read on the diapering forum that the fleece to use is Malden Mills microfleece... high quality stuff, I guess. I bought some discount microfleece at the fabric store to cut into liners, but haven't done it yet. Then I'll see if regular microfleece works as well as the liners I have now.

I've dropped my pg weight, but still can't wear pre preg stuff. I'm just wearing elastic bands and also the clothes I wore in early pregnancy (we bought a pair of Gap Long and Lean jeans in a couple sizes bigger... I can wear those, but I have to use a belt.) I actually can get into my Gap L&L jeans that are the right size, but they are too snug for long wearing, so I prefer the prego ones.

Have ya'll done swaps yet on the Trading Post? I'm in the middle of my first one, and it's so fun!

[JenInMpls]

Originally Posted by greenbeing

Jen and Anna, I remember reading that you're fitting into your pre-preg pants already. Please tell me how you did it!!!

lost 13 lbs in my first tri from not eating hardly anything... sorry i'm sure that's not helpful. i burned a lot of fat reserves those 8 weeks i didn't hardly eat. and i swam a lot my third tri.

Tristan is being a total fuss-head for Jo!

j

[Mom2baldie]

DH and I havent had "relations" yet. Naiya is almost 5 weeks old, but I really just dont feel like it at all. I am way too tired to be thinking about doing that in my free time. I did tear a little bit, but only had soreness for the 1st week or so. Anyways, Im not going to feel bad about it though since Naiya was almost 10 lbs and I am not a calm controlled pusher!

Sheryl,

We use the fertility awareness method, which is, I believe what you are talking about. Until my cycle returns though we will use condoms. My mw talked to me about a diaphram (sp???) but I think I will have to decline on that. Does anyone else have experience with those? I will not get an IUD or use birth control pills so I dont think Im left with too many options.

Jodie,

Glad to see you back! Send us pictures of Kaia!

[Mom2baldie]

Oh yeah, I wanted to say Anna and Savannah, I love the pics that you sent on the other thread! Yall are both so lucky that you can your husbands to "pose" for pictures with the babies. Mine hates to get his picture taken AND he also hates to be the photographer, so you can imagine how fun it is every time I want to get a few pics taken.

Also, Anna, is that your backyard or were you at a park somewhere? The trees and everything are beautiful. Texas doesnt look like that at all (the changing colors and everything).

[StacyL]

I am still a little sore - so that scares me off from it. Although I too have had a couple of dreams.

I lost all but 5 of the 40 lbs. I gained. I lost 20 lbs. by day 5! I still have a bigger waistline than normal though. Maybe it's the stretched out stomach muscles that have to return to normal?

[banana girl]

Originally Posted by Mom2baldie

Oh yeah, I wanted to say Anna and Savannah, I love the pics that you sent on the other thread! Yall are both so lucky that you can your husbands to "pose" for pictures with the babies.
Also, Anna, is that your backyard or were you at a park somewhere? The trees and everything are beautiful.

That was the view from my porch... it disappeared 2 days later! Lots of rain and wind = no more leaves! The trees are now completely bare, a monotone grey greets me out the window.

I'm feeling grumpy tonight, Jerome went out for the evening to a gaming shop to play Hero Clix (don't ask) I really didn't want him to go, and feel really irritated with him having a social life. He has recently become a Mason and has been busy fullfilling his commitments there as well. I have been home alone so much lately and I'm really starting to resent it. He takes the car every day, and my life revolves around Mielle's sleep patterns... I guess I'm just in "mommy prison" as my older sister affectionately referred to it the other day.

We have not yet attempted to make love, and with the way I feel right now, i don't know when we will! : Seriously though, we've talked about it, and it's more a matter of not feeling like we have the time or the space for romance than a lack of interest. HE'S definitely interested!! I wouldn't say I'm scared.... but i wouldn't say i'm eager either. I know it will happen when the time is right, and it doesn't feel right yet.

Anyway, voting today was kinda fun, it is the first time I have ever voted. There was a huge line of people, hundreds..... it took nearly 2 hours with registering and everything. I even had to nurse Mielle while in the line, out in the cold... she wasn't happy about it! When I finally got to the booth, it seemed too easy. Just one mark and I had voted for a political party, across the board. It took 5 seconds... humm kinda anti-climactic.

We are going to Eau Claire overnight tommorrow, It will be the first time i am going home to the farm since I became a mother. I'm feeling very sentimental about bringing Mielle to her new home... i love the farm so much, it's such a special place. I really hope that everything works out and i get to raise her there.

Well, Jerome has been taking care of Mielle for the last 20 minutes and I can't stand hearing her cry, I better go rescue her, and him. Oh, it's sooooo fun being THE MOMMY.

[banana girl]

Oh, yeah! I almost forgot!
I had to get pants out from a box the other day and try them on for kicks..... and what do you know, I am fitting into pants from 4 years ago!!! These are jeans that I haven't been able to put on since I met Jerome and started eating his excellent cooking!!!

All I can say is it must be the breastfeeding, cause it sure isn't exersize!!!

[sistermama]

Chatty mamas!!!

Jen - Lucy got a matching sticker on the sling today too!

Leigh - I just finished cutting 28 liners out of fleece. I ordered some Malden Mills microfleece online. It is a really ugly color so I got it on really good clearance, but I figure, it just going to get pooped on, right? I'm a cheap diaperer!

Anna - have a great time at the farm. Take lots of pics!

Chrissy - has Noah calmed down yet. Jack is driving me crazy is it cause he's two or because of the baby or maybe a combo? He is sooo moody! Does anyone has suggestions for incessant whining?

Must get some sleep, I started back to work yesterday. Night.