Congratulations, Christina, Sean Nicholas and Family!!! Enjoy your loving baby moon.
Stacey -- it's interesting what you said about not cutting the cord -- I've read that before too, and I think that's what we'll do too.
Hi Lizabethian-- Welcome! I'm the owl-lady and I'd say your post does count!
I felt much like you did when I first starting researching uc -- that it just clicked and felt right.
Amyjeans - looking forward to your story! Congrats on your (almost) 1 month old baby.
Chiromom -- I loved your post and agree with every bit of it! BTW, I would love to know which EFA's you're taking. I take one 3 times a day, but it's just a regular EFA -- what makes the pregnancy-specific one different?
Hi Bionicsquirrel (what a cute screen-name) -- You asked about exercise (and I couldn't agree more that feeling healthy in your body is sooo important during pregnancy) and I walk 3 times a week (10 miles total) and do yoga 4 times a week. I can't say enough about being out in fresh air during my walks and doing yoga. Sounds like you're already active -- what is it you're doing?
Willowsmom -- Welcome! I'm still in the process of talking my dh into uc. I wish I'd been as patient and tactful as Linda (Blueviolet) but I can see how I've been pushing him a bit too much. I agree that reading to your dh and discussing it is so important. I've highlighted sentences in certain books particulary to share with dh. We're still working it out.... Good luck to you.
Ame and Sonya -- I couldn't agree more with your thoughts on "talking" to your baby. I feel as though my baby and me have a wonderful communication already -- it's just wonderful.
Linda and AmyD -- thank you SO much for your continuing feedback about my mw. I also felt exactly as you both said -- that she was implying I was "underestimating the amount of support I'll need." In fact, her partner mw said those EXACT words to me at a previous appt when I mentioned I wouldn't want a student there. You're both right -- that comment alone was enough to make me second-guess myself, especially when I've heard it more than once. But my resolve is STRONG!
Dh and I had one of our "talks" this weekend about uc and it spiraled into an awful fight. We never fight -- and since we've been talking about uc our discussions have been known to get very heated. We agreed that it was starting to cause a rift between us and because of that I said "Okay, you win. I give up. The mw will be here." And really, what he's asking is not unreasonable -- to have her in a separate room. It was around midnight when I was telling him I was "giving up" and baby was kicking me, the owl started hooting outside, and I felt defeated. I woke up the next morning feeling like a light had gone out inside me and that I had lost something very precious to me. I felt just as Niki had said in a earlier post -- that she was mourning her dream of uc. I also felt like I was mourning and when dh woke up I cried in his arms. I said "I know this is a reasonable compromise...but I just can't do it." In giving up, I truly realized my confidence, strength, and wisdom to do this on our own -- and I know I just can't have her here.
Thankfully, dh knows how important this is to me and he's willing to continue working on his own fears and doubts. We've left it now that we'll labor alone and only call her if we absolutely need to. I can definitely live with this. But BOY! What a process this has been! I told dh our fights and discussions are just "growing pains" and I feel they really are. It's already been the most difficult (and wonderful) thing I've had to go through and I haven't even given birth yet!
Well, another book from me. I just love this thread. I've never read a thread before and consistently gotten chills until this one! You ladies are just wonderful -- and I can feel your strength, wisdom, and empowerment through my computer.
to all you mamas...