I guess I don't see the kids working on the house as such a bad thing.
In this day and age..how many of us had parents who stood beside us and taught a single marketable skill? Because let me tell you, neither one of MY parents did, and in most families I se around me the kids are supposed to go to school, get decent enough grades to stay in volleyball or football or basketball or what have you..get into college, maintain decent grades tehre..and eventually get a 'professional' job somewhere other than pizza hut, sub way, dennies, or the gas station.
My husband and I have what we have because his dad sat beside him when he was a little boy and allowed him to learn how to drive a semi truck , a log truck, an excavator, tractors, you name it. My Fil taught his boys through work and experiance, which is why my husband and I were able to buy a house and land when we were 25 and 26.
I HOPE to GOD above that my children BOTH learn how to use tools, measure , fix thier own cars, deal with their own pliumbing emergancies.I hope to God above that when the washing machine stops working my son or daughter can un plug it, yanl it away fromt he awll, open thier tool box, open the guts of the machine, and in the course of an afternoon, fix the darn thing themselves. Not have to call up some schmoozy repair guy from the phone book and hope he does not charge them enough to have to go out and buy a hwole new machine !
If my daughter is on a date and her date tries to pull any crap about his car not working so they are' stuck' I hope she has the skills and knowledge to open the hood and see for herself. I hope she and her brother can both use a skill saw and a power drill and a screw driver with knowledge and skill.
If I had to pick..I would hope that my Emily is similar to sohj when she is a woman, knwledgable, skilled, capable, and talented. Not like her Mother...at least when it comes to being able to take care of herself or her family.
I sure to hell do not want my daughter to be like me. I have no education, no job skills, no real idea how to do a darn thing for myself past a certain point. I can't hang a danr picture straight. I could not ,meaure a piece of lumber or pipe to save my life. I CANNOT do a thing with my own car. If my tire went flat I would be screwed until someone came and helped me. My job skills are along the lines ofoh..bagger at grocery store, baby sitter, dish washer...all low paid jobs with no future and no way to support a family .
I am envious of the fact that this man had the time to stand with his kids and help them learn how to do these things. I am envious that the Mom in this family manages so well. You should see my house, ask Madrone or ja mama what my house looks like ! It is like a damned bomb has gone off and I spend most of my time running about here with my head spining because I do not know where to start ! The only organized things I own are either still in the box or my dishes in my hutch.Thats it..everything else is in a pile somewhere. i wish to heaven it wasn't. But thats the reality of it.
I realize the kids wear funky clothes, I realize they subscribe to an old fashioned ( and possibly to some evil ) ideal of Father=head of household..but in all honesty..if MY husband was home every night for dinner and we had this well of a system going, I would be THRILLED! Although my hair would not be that floofy and I don't know as I would wear those retro 1980s church dresses. Maybe something similar to..oh, jeans and shirts...but oh well.
I would love totake a "how too" class from this woman. It is too bad she has no access to the internet.
I am also sort of amazed at the reactions of shock that the kids were helping with the house. Don't we, as adults, want capable kids? How are they going to learn that if all they do is read a book? or watch a movie, or play games or play? yes, those things are good...and fun..but when you learn how to do something a lot of the time it means you must get your hands dirty and get into it...Good for this family for teaching their kids that fact ! I don't see much of that our my area or society! peoiple seem to feel sorry for those who do that sort of thing...which astounds me to no end.
ps..about the name thing..my husband and I used to talk about giving each of our kids aname that had to do with the number in which they arrived:
Secondary child-s name
Third child- T name...aand so on.
We didn't so it, of course, but it was a sort of semi serious discussion at one time.
I think the 'Jinger' is sort of pushing it though.