ISO The Mothering article about talking to children about death

[Nickarolaberry]

I need a copy of the Mothering articles about talking to young children about death. My father in law passed away yesterday and we need to tell my 4 year old, who visited him in hospice last week. She's very sensitive, intense, verbal and intelligent.

Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.

[lisamarie]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My ds was 3 1/2 yo when his father past away and sounds alot like your little one. There is a great book called "guiding your child through grief" that is wonderful! Also, I'm going through my old Mothering Mags. to find the article that they did on children and grief. I will post later when I find it.

Also, there are alot of children's books on loss. We just ordered "Grandma's Gone to Live in the Stars" for my dd. My Mom past away on 10/8 and its a very simple, loving book. Also, "When Dinosaurs Die" is another one. There is a book about Grandfather's passing, but my ds is asleep and its in his room.

I have found that through simple honesty and really talking about my feelings and letting the child participate in the memorial making, that it has empowered my child and has opened up so many discussions on his/our feelings.

Again, I'm very sorry and will post more when I find that article and book.

Hugs~

Lisa

[lisamarie]

I just found the wonderful Mothering article. Its from the May-June 2001 Issue and the article is titled "Coffee Cups and Cowboy Boots: Children and Funerals" and then there is also "My Darling, Clementine: A Child and Mom Investigate Death."

The other book for children that is great is "Where is Grandpa?" Both books I mentioned are spiritual, but not religious (if that makes sense) and in the Dinosaur book, it mentions different cultures, beliefs and religions.

My heart is with you during this time of loss, rememberance and grief.

Hugs~

Lisa

[Nickarolaberry]

Thank you, thank you so much! I will order that back issue and get those books out of the library asap.

May God comfort all the mourners.

[Ms. Mom]

I'm so sorry about the death of your FIL. Lisa has given you some beautiful suggestions. My son was 5 when his grandfather and great grandmother died. It was very difficutl for him to understand the concept of death at that age, but there are some wonderful resources out there.

The article you're looking for is on-line at http://www.mothering.com/articles/bo...lementine.html

I hope you all find some peace as you journey through your grief.

[lisamarie]

bump.

lisa